Four years ago my sister and law and husband moved two houses down even though my husband clearly told them he was not happy with them moving there. After an argument, we had to get a restrainging order against the both of them. Well, they are now "befriending" neighbors all around us! We are nice, but not the most social ppl and hate playing these kind of "popularity contest" junior high games. We dont like this family. They are consantly walking by and stuff - they are STALKERS! They beep past our house, they try and walk with the neighbors in front of our house, they do everything they can to be annoying.
I need HELP. What can I do? We dont want to move. We put too much money into this house.
They are intrusive ppl. Always seeing who we have over, staring at it, just being plain anoying.
Ignoring has not worked. Restraining orders, have not worked.
They have no jobs so they have all the time in the world. They are both on disability and claimed bankruptcy.
Help!
2006-07-03 19:05:34 · 37 answers · asked by someoneyoudontknow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
revenge is for the WEAK! grow up, let it go, and move on.
2006-07-11 08:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This will always be any open question with two groups of advice. One is for revenge with debt-collector (Ah Long) tactics as tit for tat.
The other group is more calm and rational for ignoring and going about own business.
They have as much right to live anywhere, and do anything. It should not cause any damage to you and your family. What damage is there from their activities with other neighbours. The mention of Restraint Order has already pushed your relationship to the limit, and you can and should not go any further than that.
You have you own life, go do your other things like shopping, cleaning your house, and even making love for a change.
You may even change the status quo by adopting a medium-size dog that will scrutinise everyone passing by your house. You may even invest in a surround sound system to amuse yourselves and your immediate neighbours, or go for other meaningful activities.
Really, there is nothing to gain by harping on a matter as inconsequential as this. You do not have to agree with them, at the same time you should not invest too much time for attention they always wanted.
See the matter in another light. Hope my perspective is useful.
2006-07-18 23:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the restraining orders aren't working, aren't they getting in trouble? I know that you have been trying to ignore them, but don't react. That's what they want. The only revenge that you can get on them is to be happy and act like you are living the best life in the world, and that nobody can change that. As for them stalking you, you can always phone the police for trespassing. They are now getting into the stage of harassment, and they can be thrown in jail if they don't stop. Especially when they are going against the restraining order.
2006-07-17 06:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mam,you clearly have a restraining order against these people.You have everything setup LEGALLY. You shouldn't plan revenge on people who are looking at your house. I would be more worried that I am living in a neighborhood that 2 people without jobs are living in? My best advice is to get a life...Go out sometimes,ya know because it seems like this is the only excitement youv'e bee ngetting for a long time.
2006-07-03 19:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by nope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't exactly sociable in the neighborhood, then why does it bother you so much that these ppl are making friends? You can't control who lives around you. People only have the power over you that you give to them. Take away their power and they are nobody and nothing. I would say you haven't really given ignoring them a real try if they are getting to you this bad. If anything, I would feel sorry for them. They obviously have NO LIFE if all they spend their time on is trying to annoy you - and you're letting them get to you. Who's winning in this situation? Take control and ignore them COMPLETELY!
You cannot control other peoples actions, but you CAN control your REACTIONS!
2006-07-19 03:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ken'sBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are classic bullies who have been around forever. They just forgot to grow up. The bullies pick the people who will react the most. The more they feel you are put out the more they will bother you. They are like children. Don't lower your self to their levels.
I would say stop ignoring them. Wave them over and introduce them to your friends. (thats one option) If you see them glancing in your windows wave and smile at them like you enjoy it.
So to answer your question what is the best revenge?
Be happy & content
If they walk in front of your house with neighbors go out and join them, talk about the weather whatever, just bore them.
If you buy something new, wave them over and say, Hey I want to show you this. Eventually their interest will pass. And they will findsomeone else to focus on
2006-07-17 15:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay!!!
This is an ideal job for...Jesus!! If this isn't a clear and concise indication of the Savior knocking on you and your hubby's door I don't know what else could.
You will get a lot of advice on how to handle this in the ways that the average person is willing to handle problems. But darling this wreaks of needing a Lord and Savior intervention.
Consider giving your lives to Christ and letting Him fight your battles. His methods are thorough and all you have to do is stand back and watch Him work.
God has a way of changing people and giving them a chance to get their lives right. This is case in all involved here.
Peace Out.
2006-07-15 19:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may seam strange but you have the answer already in your hands,they know what gets you mad is the very thing they could never handle,think about it,like they are kids, go visit to much- call to much-look to much-be to dam friendly, if you have kids take the over let them do what they want-run adds in the news paper giving lots of free stuff away give their number' keep building the stress level for them' all the time play the fool like you don't know about any thing,blame your past problems with them on bad stress at your job, they will believe it,after around 4 months of this over done friendship they will break and soon leave, and if not well this will work''' start making stupid love letters to to her husband act like you are a man as well ,and you must have him,after being his gay date once before you cant live without him,this will upset him so badly to worry anyone mite think he is gay , he will leave town very soon,be sure to put the notes on his car late at night, have fun dont get shot.
2006-07-03 19:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by JALISCO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is your success. Ignore then. Kids hate that and if they are acting like kids that is the best thing. They obvioulsy are jealous of you. They moved into your neighborhood. They are buddy buddy with your neighbors. Who cares. Ignore, Ignore, Ingore. That will kill them! "Don't let them see you cry". Good luck. I know how hard this can be. Be the better person. You neighbors will eventually figure them out.
2006-07-18 11:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by van 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest just ignoring them. I know you already said that doesn't work, but think about this.......No one can hurt you or bother you unless you give them permission. The reason ignoring them isn't working is because you are still consumed with this and therefore are not truly ignoring them. The fact that you asked this question lets me know this. If you truly ignore them, no matter what they do or say, you have to just let it go and say to yourself, "No more, that's it." Just as if they don't even exist. I think you are concentrating on these people too much to forget about them. You have to allow your mind to just let everything go. Try it this way and I hope everything works out.
2006-07-17 11:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by T.R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, one idea that i would do is to get some friends of yours that they dont know and have them go to this house and ring the door bell. the family will answer and your friends will say 'hi, we're just wondering if it would be alright if we can observe your house for one night? we've heard rumors from past owners about the house being haunted and we wanted to see if we could get some documented evidence of an actual ghost.' then make up some creepy ghost story for your friends to tell them what the rumors are about. say for example, the rumor is that the past owners use to see a little girl just standing around the house looking at people or something weird like that.
it doesnt matter if the family agrees to have them stay the night or not. if they say 'no', then hopefully this will just drive them crazy thinking there is a ghost in the house.
if they do let the friends stay the night or part of the night, have your friends bring a digital voice recorder and act like they are doing an EVP (electronic voice phenomenon) experiment. this is when you record yourself in a haunted place asking the spirit questions and recording it all. after you record the audio, when you go back and listen to it, you're soppose to hear the sound of a ghost talking back to you. just have your friends record themselves asking the ghost questions at night and then they leave at night. have them take that recording and have someone else talk in a loud whisper voice and say soemthing creepy like 'get out of my house!' or 'help me please' or 'we all go mad we all go mad' in a creepy little kids singing tone.
then have them go back and play it for the family. this is enough to scare the crap out of me and make me want to leave the house. and the whole time this is going on, you have to keep trying to ignore them so it doesnt look like you're the ones who planned this all
ive always wanted to do this to someone i hate, cause i know how mad i would go if i found out my house was haunted. this just seemed like the best opertunity to share my plan with someone. plus, the mind plays tricks on people when they're scared. their house might not really be haunted, but having them think that it is, they might see things or they might think things are happening when they're really not, it'll drive them mad
if you actually do this, email me and tell me how it goes, bradywurtz@yahoo.com
you can go with that idea or you could try and make them think they have a mental problem, which it sounds like they most probably do, and that they need to seek help, and be serious about it. even go as far as to call in doctors and tell them you think they have a mental problem and need to see a phsycologist or something
2006-07-03 19:20:26 · answer #11 · answered by 63godtoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋