My friend (who is 31) was talking to me, and she said i didnt know much about sex or my body for my age. She said it is not her place to tell me though. I can't ask my mom that would be way yto embarissing. What all is there to know at 14?
2006-07-03 18:41:55 · 12 answers · asked by kaylee k 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
What the heck is a dousche or whatever that everyone keeps talking about???!!!
2006-07-03 18:54:25 · update #1
You should know everything but not engage, I am 31 with a BA and making $60,000 a year with common sense, I didnt figure out what sex was intended to be until this year. I started having sex at 14...I was with him for 4 years, 1 abortion and genital warts later, I got with someone else and it was a cycle although all my relationships lasted at least 4 years. I would seriously reccommend waiting until alot later to explore - Girls have sex on an emotional level, Guys, on a feeling level...believe me it feels a lot better for them sweetie....I know you think your ready and may even think your in love with this guy....DONT DO IT...I know so many people my age that regret having sex before they were 22 - Females are not emotionally mature to have sex - We equate sex with love - men your age do not....It just feels good to them! You want to let a guy hump on you and ***....you get up feeling used and abused, or feeling like you love them...you dont realize until a year later, or 10 years later that you were not ready...take it from me...and I, even now, was in love when I had sex at 14 - But, I was not ready and you arent either!
2006-07-03 18:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Hights 1 · 6⤊ 1⤋
The more you know, the better, I say. It's empowering to know your own anatomy. I also think you should know about how you might possibly contract STD's (condoms won't save you from everything you know). I'm sure the internet is a good place to start for that. Its also important to know your boundaries. Sex is messy, emotionally and microscopically. So don't let anyone make you feel like you need to be more experienced than you are. While you're at all of this, try taking a mirror and actually figuring out your parts. Start to love those parts even though they look weird to you now. They're actually great, beautiful and as pristine as they ever get. A lot can go wrong with your head and those parts if you don't educate yourself and don't set your own boundaries. I hope you grow up strong.
2006-07-04 02:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by carolynator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an adult you are comfortable talking to, or have your mom let you start seeing a gynecologist and the doc will tell you what you need to know. There are a lot of things you need to know in order to stay healthy and be disease free if you are going to start having sex. You would be surprised at what other teens will tell you and none of it will be correct. I've known teens who had sex all the time and had no correct clue about how a girl gets pregnant or why! You also need to be educated about HIV, STD's, Herpes, responsibility that comes from being sexually active, how one gets pregnant as boys will lie to you to get you to have sex with them, and many other things. Your mom could be the most reliable source, as when one is 14, they think nobody else ever felt like they do, and the truth is your mother probably was just like you when she was 14. She also thought it would be way too embarrassing to tell her mother. All teens say that. And your 31 year old friend is right; it's not her place and since you are a minor, older people have to be really careful about advising you. You need to know how your female organs work and about your periods and why you have them. Best of luck to you and I do hope you ask your mom for advice. Think about it and ask her when she's alone and you have plenty of time with her.
2006-07-04 01:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother nature has a way of making teens know about their body which normally starts from the first mentruation. The hormonal changes imparts a lot of info to yourself like changes in your physique, the changes in your sex organs, the developement of secondary sexual characteristisc etc. which you would have known by this time. You need not be tutored by anyone on these aspects.At 31, your friend would have acquired a lot of practical knowledge and its not needed at your age. Try to understand your body, its changesboth emotional and physical and you can mature yourself as time passes! All the best!!
2006-07-04 02:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will figure it all out along the way. All you need to know is that you get your period....it will flucuate every month and will become more regular when you are a little older. Douching is stupid...I don't know why it exists. Don't do it...you could hurt yourself and it actually can cause infections in your vagina. Its supposed to cleanse you....but your body naturally does that itself. I personally think you are way too young for sex. If you ever do decide to have sex you need to see a doctor first and completely educate yourself on all the sexually transmitted diseases and other risks that may come of having sex so you can make a fully educated decision.
2006-07-04 02:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to know about your body, like douches, periods, pms, but as for sex when you find the right person, then you learn, it's a lot to learn and no set way to teach. Talking to parents about sex is always awkward, but they do need to provide a foundation, friends will provide the rest. If you aren't ready to talk to your mom then never mind what your friend said.
2006-07-04 01:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by nexus2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what you should know about your body and sex is what you are mature and intellectually able to handle at your age. Your parents greatly determine what they feel that you would be able to handle so, you should speak to them, and you should not feel embarrassed asking your mom, in fact it would show maturity on your part.
Apart from asking your parents, there are books that you can read from the library. Just a query: What are they teaching you in school about the subject by the way?
2006-07-04 01:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need to know is not to have sex. thats about it. and do not hang out with guys that are 18 or older, all they want from you is sex. i hate it seeing so many stupid girls thinking its fine for them going out with guys that much older than them, and then they end up having sex and she's scared for it for the rest of her life.
i know a girl that had sex with a guy when she was 15 and he was 18, after they had sex he left her because thats all he wanted, they were not at the same level of inteligence so obviously the only thing they had going was sex, and ever since then, every relationship she's been in has to be all about sex or she feels like they dont love her or like her and she's gotten pregnant already
for the love of god, please listen to me when i tell you this, dont have sex and do not hang out with 18 year old guys or older, its only going to cause a brief moment of pleasure followed by a lifetime of pain
2006-07-04 01:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by 63godtoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by that time she should know everything
also about contraceptions
as well as the human reproductive method
and some ideas of what love is
2006-07-04 01:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your pùssy washed and douched so it don't stink like a can of tuna.
Use condoms every time you decide to let a boy fùck you unless you want a STD or a baby.
2006-07-04 01:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by math_major 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋