Lately I've just feel feeling really lonely. I don't seem to connect with anyone or have any strong feelings for anyone anymore... Everytime I get close or try to get close with someone, I get hurt. So just wondering... what do other people do to help cope with this? Safer to not open up to anyone and not get hurt or be lonely?...
2006-07-03 18:30:24 · 15 answers · asked by rlauxter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go out and find someone who is lonely just like you and do something really nice for them. It will be a win win situation. You may even meet your best friend in life.
peace,
Bondservant
2006-07-03 18:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bondservant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to look inside yourself and see the good in you. be confident in yourself and don't let people see your weeknesses. People will only hurt you if you let them. Be happy and live your life to the fullest. Dont give too much info about yourself and treat people with a long handle spoon. Because if you dont let them get close to you they can't hurt you. The hurt and the lonliness will go away when you start to love yourself enough to not need validation from other people. Iam much better because someone told me the very same thing 5 years ago.
2006-07-04 01:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by D C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get hurt because you latch on to make your relationships heal you of all the lonliness you feel inside. Lonliness and depression are first cousins.
Think about it. When you're feeling really upbeat, and someone comes along with the personality of a rain cloud, how does it make YOU feel?
Like you want to get away from them. Nobody wants to be around anyone who is a downer. So it's not you, it's your mood that makes the other run away from you.
It's not easy, I deal with it too, but I am in control of it, not the other way around..... so I know...........You have to find a way to pamper yourself and lift yourself up so that you become more attractive to yourself firstly........then to the opposite sex.
I have to tweak my own mindset and emotions from time to time. But I am on the road to fulfilling me. I am happier with myself because I am doing something with my life that makes me feel whole and it has nothing to do with a man or dating or NEEDING somebody either.
2006-07-04 01:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some prefer to write poems about their feelings. Talk to other people who have been in the same position helps. I like spending time with my dog when I'm down and feeling lonely. Maybe you could try getting a pet so you can talk to it.
2006-07-04 01:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by I'll Be Your Sweet Escape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time, and find yourself. Spend sometime with yourself and get to know you better. I just had a bad break up and I'm just so lost, and trying to find myself again. Don't give up hope. Also, try not to get too serious too fast, I made that mistake. Just have a good time with whoever you meet.
2006-07-04 01:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get out and do something. You could join a gym, volunteer somewhere, go to concerts, games, the list is endless. But i think the most important part is just go be yourself. Try not to put expectations out there. I know we all do that.
Good luck :)
2006-07-04 01:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by mustbekiddin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be pickier don't close yourself up to people just go slower in your relationships and really get to know the person. Hang out with friends or family or co-workers so you don't feel lonely. And try not to collect cats (just kidding)
2006-07-04 01:33:52 · answer #7 · answered by Big Buddha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the best way I have found is to go out on your own. Places are people moan and groan about that you like. For myself I go to poetry reading and concerts , you can find like minded people and like minded hearts in many instances. Like is all about taking chances....the hardest part is letting go. Don't hide because you will truly miss out...trust me I KNOW...I have been in your shoes.
Find yourself and emerse yourself in what makes you happy. And the rest will follow. Time and paitience.
2006-07-04 01:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by oniongirl86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a club if you are in college there is a large selection to chose from if not you could join a health club or a book club. find people that share your same interests and just hang out you will eventually find a boy fiend.
2006-07-04 01:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by osu_otter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop expecting to get something from other people. - What is it that has you get hurt? - - Probably not feeling good enough about yourself!
Relax- Have Fun - Meet people - Expect nothing in return!
2006-07-04 01:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋