is anyone else tired of being the guy who the ladies have as the friend but never want to be more than that?

Question

and to top it all off they most of the time will be with guys who cheat on them or are physicaly or mentaly abusive.

Answer 1

I remember giving advice to my friend about this. But here it goes.

Ode to the nice guy.

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population.......

and theres more. Read it, you'll enjoy it. And you'll be shaking you head at every single part because of how true it really is. It'll make you feel better. Don'tchange being the man you are to be an asshole. You'll truly find the girl you're looking for soon.

Answer 2

Although I'm no Fabio, I'm not that guy either.

I hear you about the psychically/mentally abusive comment - I agree. But. I think a lot of that comes down to men with confidence. When these particular men meet these women, they don't approach them with guns blazing and/or portray that immediate potential threat. So, a lot of the time, initially, they are usually very appealing. However, keep in mind, that those sorts of relationships don't usually last longer than 12 months.

Just give things time, and there will be someone that looks at you as more than just the good-hearted friend. Being a friend is usually the first, and most important part, of gaining someones trust, and then from there, you progress with a desired relationship. So, don't look at being a friend, as a setback, but instead, as the first step to a possible intimate bond.

Good luck.

Answer 3

So stop being that guy. You can emulate some of the guys they end up with without being a cheater or an abuser. Teasing them is a good way to do that, as long as you tease them playfully and not destructively. Don't tease them about their weight or their face. Do tease them about their clothes, make-up, accessories, and odd behavior. And definitely call them on it when they're acting silly or stupid, especially when it comes to guys. And don't compliment them, especially on their appearance, unless you're in the process of taking their clothes off. It drives them nuts.

Answer 4

Because, you may do one or more of the following:
Are pushy even if you don't realize it.
Say I love you.
To attentive, to clingy, we know you want us, back off.
Too nice.
Look at us too long.
Always saying such nice things about us, we are not perfect, and once we are in a relationship..you would have no problem telling us then.
Too needy.
The abusive part is not true, not for me anyway,..I just want a strong man, not a p*ssy.

Answer 5

he will no longer get over it until eventually he unearths someone new. set up an internet courting profile for him and attempt to pawn him off on somebody else's shoulder. It sounds like he's in love with the conception of her, no longer truly her. His ideas of her are suitable in his ideas, yet which could no longer actuality. in case you could not set him up with somebody else, then make him see the actuality of it. both get him to satisfy such as her back, wherein case she will be able to probable be a ***** to him and he will with any success come to resent her and get over it, or you could stalk her somewhat and communicate a good purchase of crap about her to tarnish the picture he has of her. it really is complicated to worship a turd once you eventually do not forget that it really is a chunk of ****.

Answer 6

From a female perspective, if it helps, I married one of those guys. :)

There are two kinds of guys like that: the ones who are sweet and wonderful, but girls tend to see as a brother (like my husband), and the ones who are sweet but HIGHLY ANNOYING. Ask a girl friend if there is anything you can do to make yourself more attractive, less annoying, or whatever. Ask her to be honest and tell you what you are doing wrong. Honestly, my husband just needed to lose some weight, but I could deal with that. (Now he is losing weight and soon there will be a ton of girls who wished they had grabbed him up! So there is much hope for you!)

Answer 7

Sometimes, women just don't know a good thing when it's starring them right in the face!

Answer 8

Oh my goodness, I know what you mean. If we make good friends I don't see what's wrong with something more. Boo to them!

Answer 9

stop being that guy then. what you gotta do is stop wearing your heart on your sleave and also stop being there for them whenever they need you

Answer 10

wow u sure have got ur self a company here....