My fiancee cheated on me about 5 months ago, we were apart for awhile and now we are back together trying to work things out. Still, when I think about him with her, touching her, taking her out, kissing her, and doing things with her he does with me, it pisses me off and makes me sick. He even told me that if he were to date her it would be easier than being with me. It makes me mad and upset when I think about it, no matter how much I try not to. Will I ever get over it? Is there something I should do or be trying to do to help myself get over it? Or is it always going to be there?
2006-07-03 17:52:28 · 10 answers · asked by sexxxylady1987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The sad truth is that you may forgive but a traumatic situation like that will never be forgotten. You have one of two choices:
1. Try to put it behind you. (Something that I can't imagine anyone being able to do)
OR
2. Let go.
I know that it is a very difficult situation but the thing you need to think about is the fact that he cheated on you, cheated on you when he had already made you a promise. That promise being that you two would get married and live happily ever after. If he can't stay faithful during an engagement, then what the hell will he do 5 years down the road? It is just not worth all the pain to try to work things out. Who's to say that he won't do it again? Good Luck! I hope you make the choice that you feel you can live with. TRUST: the #1 priority in a relationship!
2006-07-03 18:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by pinkglitter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends upon you, the future circumstances rather than anything else. But assuming that the circumstances dont change, u will feel this way for a couple of years at least. Then u will start living with it.
2006-07-03 17:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not the right question.
The only question I can think of is Why have you not already left him?
And yes, it's always going to be there. It DID happen. It's cast in stone.
2006-07-03 17:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by Einsteinetta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are committed to making this relationship work then you are going to have to deal with your feelings.It happened,you know it happened and the relationship will suffer if you continue to dwell on it.Both of you need to talk about why he cheated to begin with and work on it from that point.
2006-07-03 18:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will always be there. ..but you can make it break you or make you...one look at him and he knows he better comply,....this is your ace card from now on. Be a stronger person...don't let him tell you when to forget about it. In fact tell him to leave you if he can't deal with someone who will never forget.
2006-07-03 18:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about the only thing you need to do is leave him. If he is saying that it would be easy to date her then you more then likly he will go back to her again, just leave it will hurt but in the long run you will be better off.
2006-07-03 18:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like one comedian said; its like finding out the milk in your fridge is spoiled and putting it back in expecting it will get better. you'll never get over it and neither will he and he'll just keep on doing it till he brings you a nice STD and the only box that comes in is yours.
2006-07-03 18:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by myamoreterno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you if you get over it or not....if you love him, you'll put it in the past......and move on to the wonderful future the two of u have......
2006-07-03 18:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater
2006-07-03 18:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by adgeorgetown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND SOMEONE ELSE
2006-07-03 18:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by russellmcmillen1947 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋