The other day my girlfriend told me she was preg. She went to the doctor and verifed that and is as of this past Thursday 6 wks. She is very edgy and really doesnt want to have anything to do with me. I am confused cause one minite she is having me over eating dinner with her and her family and going conoeing and the very same day that evening saying just leave me alone and if i need you I will call other than that, there is nothing between us. Just what the heck am I to do and what is going on? HELP!!!!!
2006-07-03 16:57:48 · 16 answers · asked by mark 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
welcome to life with a pregnant woman! When her hormones are crazy, she will drive you crazy. The best thing you can do is go with the flow and be supportive and understanding. It's hard to be pg! When she says "Leave me alone!" tell her you love her and will be there for her as SOON as she is ready, then give her some space. When she says she needs you, be there for her. If she yells at you over something stupid, remind yourself that it is stupid and not worth fighting over, and let her win. Who cares if the sky is green or blue? If it's not stupid, just remain calm and try talking it out reasonably.
2006-07-03 17:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you keep in mind that she is most likely very confused and feeling insecure right now... she needs support and someone to care for her no matter how much she doesn't want to admit it, and there will come a time when she will need you around. as far as the child goes, you should be supportive and be there as a father. just because there is not anything between you and her doesn't mean that this child doesn't deserve the best life someone can give him or her. one more thing on your girlfriend is that you should call her on occassion and just check up on her....say that you wanted to see how she was doing and how her day was going and that you were thinking of her. the little things like that will help her through this hard time and let her know you care....the health of the mother (mental, physical, emotional) also affect the health of the baby.
2006-07-03 17:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by LT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMPORTANT TO KNOW THIS: Even though she says and acts like she wants nothing to do with you, SHE WANTS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH YOU. At this point, you have to make a decision (actually both of you). YOU have to decide whether you want to be in this childs life... you can't fake it because the child will be alive for the rest of your life. Can you fake anything that long? didn't think so. She has to decide if she is going to keep the child or terminate the pregnancy.
I know from experience, same thing happened to me WITH TWO GIRLS AT THE SAME TIME. One kept the baby (child had a very hard life even though I was available) the other girl (whom I married) didn't keep the child. I ended up marrying the girl whom didn't keep the child 20 years later and now we have 3 happy suburban kids all doing excellently in school. That 24 year old illegitmate kids is doing horribly in life, been in and out of jail and reform schools, fights every day of her life and her mother (whom she resents) is a null and void loser, drinker, druggie and a complete waste; If you two are not in love DON'T DO IT..
2006-07-03 17:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by avp071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Early on in pregancy, a woman's hormones pretty much go hay-wire. I am the most laid back person on the planet, but the first trimester I was throwing dishes and sobbing over phone commercials. Just let her know you understand and will be there for her no matter what. Good luck and thank you for not being one of "those guys" who screw-and-bail on the woman. She's lucky to have you.
2006-07-03 17:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's scared...... best thing you can do is remind her that you care and that you are "there" for her. Be patient with her and yourself.
Sometimes people get scared and say or do things they don't mean....react.
It's allot to wake up and find out that your body is growing a life inside of it..... suddenly, whatever you had planned has changed.
Give life time.... it will settle.
Ask yourself, "What would LOVE do now?" and be the best version of that you can be.
Congratulations.... all children are gifts.
2006-07-03 17:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones can make her really edgy and moody. Just stick by her. Pregnancy affects a womans mood greatly, and despite what she might say, she needs you more than anyone to be with her and support her.
2006-07-03 17:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Nicohl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry i was like that with my husband when i was pregnant. Its just the hormones and all the changes that goes on when a women is pregnant. Its like first she loves you and then she hates you. Just be patient its not easy being pregnant and going through all those changes.
2006-07-03 17:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by jbparsons2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that your girlfriend is preg and her nerves are on the edge. Her body is changing and can do a number on her feelings. Just be considerate and ask her is there anything that you can do to ease her mind.
2006-07-03 17:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her some time, the hormones seem to have kicked in a little early. if she gets real psychotic, just be there for the baby, support it, help her with it, but find someone who makes you happy and doesnt treat you like crap.
2006-07-03 17:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by hotsing1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh have patience with her take your time with her understand her position after all she is pregnant a painful position. Its her mood swings. and its normal whats going on its nothing to worry about. Its normal
2006-07-03 17:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋