My boyfriend asked me when were we going to ****? I said I don't know. I asked him if I he get me pregnant will he deny his baby or not? He said he will never do that! I won't a baby from him soooooo bad. And so does he. Should I do it?
2006-07-03 16:55:01 · 22 answers · asked by ttwallace1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
NOT UNTIL YOU GET AN EDUCATION!!
Babies grow up, men don't
2006-07-03 16:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by EssGee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't know when you are going to do it, you are a long way from being ready for a baby. This doesn't apply to all men, but if he is asking that question --- of course, he is going to say anything he has to in order to get what he wants!!! Once you are pregnant, he can change his mind but what can you do? If you really want a baby together, get your priorities lined up... education, good jobs, marriage, a place to live, see some of the world, etc. THEN talk about babies. If he loves you, he will honor you in that way. And be careful... don't marry him JUST because you want to make babies.
Personally, considering the divorce rates and everything else these days - I think you should feel prepared to raise a baby on your own before you have one. That is really a bad situation and I wouldn't suggest it, but if you look at it that way, you will be prepared if it comes down to that.
There are plenty of stressed out moms that would love to "share" their babies with you for an hour or three and that would give you some experience to think about the choice you are considering.
2006-07-03 17:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i'm not here to judge but alot of guys say that but any ways thats not the point. Before u do this u need to ask ur self are u really ready for a baby, can u do this everyday for the next 18 yrs. Can u support a baby can he support ya'll. If u were to have a baby how ya'll gonna live where ya'll gonna live. Who gonna keep the baby while ya'll at work how ya'll gonna pay for someone to keep the baby while ya'll at work.He says that he wants a baby do u think he will be a good father now or later. What u really need to do is think about how this baby gonna change ya'll life and were this baby gonna fit in it.Is the father really gonna be there for u and ya'll child forever no matter what. Girl u really gotta think about this before it happens. Now if u can handle all of that then go for it. But nobody can tell u what not to do and what u can do u have to figure this out all by ur self because this ur life and ur body.
2006-07-03 17:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by damn_that_chick_thick17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, then you know the answer. It sounds as if you need a "mom's" answer to this and I might as well be the one. If he posed the questions as "when are we going to ****?" then he's not the one you should give "it" to. I wouldn't trust a guy that swears he wouldn't leave you if you got pregnant because all he wants is a little of what you've got to give. Sorry Sweetie, but you sound too young to have sex, let alone a baby. If you have to have sex, use all the protection you can get your hands on. Women these days can wait to find the RIGHT MAN to father their children. Remember this: even if you THINK he's the right guy, he STILL might not be. If a guy wants to have a baby with you, he'll want to make you a permanent member of his family, ring ceremony and all.
Sex is fun and fun is fleeting but babies and toddlers and children are FOREVER. Please wait for the right man.
2006-07-03 17:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by nu_shashita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you this. I am in this situation where I have gotten my girl friend preg. I want a child more than anything in the world. Only one probem. We are not married and that is one thing I want the most. I grew up without my father in my life. I am praying that things get better between the two of us and wish things were different. I am 26 and have a good job. I know I can do this. She and I have done this and there is no turning back. There are lots to consider with a child. I dont know your age or status of employment. If you are planning on a child why not plan on being a couple (Being as ONE) and than if it goes good try to make new plans which would be a child. I to answer the question you have, would not try to get preg. Please take my advice. I wish you the best in your plans and reactions. May God lead you in the right direction.
Sincerely,
Mark
2006-07-03 17:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by mark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It doesn't matter if he will deny the baby or not, it's can he support you and the baby or not? If he can't provide (meaning that the both of you are stuck in math class together and you're 16) then DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! If he has a job, then maybe. Try getting married. If you still want to have a baby with him (and not just to solve marraige problems, 'cause it won't do that), then ok.
2006-07-03 17:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Alex D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies are HARD work and need a stable environment. I'd wait until you know he will be there for you and the baby 100%. Asking if he will deny the baby doesnt seem like a question you would ask someone that you know is stable in your life. Babies and the responsibility of them are forever.
2006-07-03 17:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by mikowensmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO
If you are not absolutely 100% positive that this guy is going to be a good father, and you guys are able to have a baby right now, dont have a baby. The fact that you asked about it in Yahoo Answers says that you arent that sure about it
2006-07-03 17:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dagfinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that in any doubt if your man would "deny his baby" maybe its not such a good idea. But having a baby is life changing, just make sure you are ready and ready to face some changes and someone always depending on you.
2006-07-03 16:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl take your time ..... a baby is not what you want so early in your relationship.... make sure you have every financial aspects taken cared of and most importantly a good paying job. Enjoy your life now before you start expanding the family...... Make sure he isthe right person.......you dont want to make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life.
2006-07-03 17:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by edwards_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that havin a baby is beautiful, but first think about the consequences. Can your boyfriend and yourself afford to have a kid? And age matters a lot as well, if you are too young you might want to wait. My best wishes!
2006-07-03 17:00:18 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋