Is age really important in relationships???

Question

Why is it ok for older men to date or even marry young women, but older women arent spose to date younger men?? Im 45 hes 23...

Answer 1

It's society trying to tell you what to do. That's quite a difference and even if you were 23 and he was 45 people would still look at you funny. You're right though, it's more "correct" for the guy to be older. My only drawback with a younger man is that they're usually immature for their age in the first place. But, if you two are happy, the hell with what everyone else thinks.

Answer 2

Theoretically, it should be the same, but in our culture it's different. I'm 59, but I wouldn't consider dating a woman more than 20 years younger than I am, and I wouldn't expect someone that age to be attracted to me in the first place.

If we were to marry or just stay together, I'd be ancient when she was just middle aged. Why would I want to stick a relatively young woman with an 80 year old geezer?

In your case, I don't think 45 is particularly old, but you'd be 65 when he's only 43. That's a pretty large gap. But, really, what's important is how you both feel right now. If you're both happy with what you're doing now, go for it and enjoy it for as long as you both want to.

Answer 3

Age should not really matter in relationships, but it does. If you're a 23 year old woman, married to a 84 year old man, then its really hard for people not to question your motives. It could be for love, but more than likely she's waiting to cash in on that HMO and life insurance.

I'm not saying that's the case with you. As long as the guy that you're dating isn't too old, or too to young, then there's no problem. I don't think that it should be ethnical for anyone to date people that is either 15 years younger or older than they are. Since the U.S. law states that as long as someone is up to 18 years of age, there's no limitations afterwards. It's a free country. Date whom you like, as long as in the end you're happy.

Answer 4

I'm one of those older men married to a younger woman, and I don't see any reason as to why you shouldn't date or marry whom ever you please. My older brother's wife is 10 years his senior and they're happily married now for over 30 years.

A friend (female) from many years ago had the right idea. When your young marry someone who is much older to gain the experience. Then when you want to raise a family, marry someone near your own age. And in old age marry someone who you can pass your experiences on to.

Answer 5

Age is not important. But the differents between men and women is that a man can let a woman have babies at any age. Women can not give a man a baby once she is not longer to have children. So if this man wants a family of his own you can't give him one.And men can give a woman a family at any age.I know it's not fair but someday the person you are with may want some of their own children.

Answer 6

Honestly, ma'am, there's nothing wrong with it. People see it as a "wrong thing" because boys at young ages dating an older women was seen to be a "pimp" or one who can get the older ladies liking him. But seeing that you are past the teenage years, there's nothing wrong with it. Just make sure that you both love each other. That's all. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Only if you want to believe it is....my sister is 31 and my brother-in-law is 23,younger than me.You have to make sure he actually loves you and wants to be with you,he's still at the age where he may want to run around.Also how does his family take this?You are old enough to be his mother,but love is the only important thing in this relationship and you have to remember that always.

Answer 8

I don't think it's so much age that matters at it is whether you are in completly different life stages. Him just starting work, you winding down and worrying about retirement. I think that it's important to realise that a relationship is about helping each other through these times and when he doesn't know what your going through how can he help. But once again love conquers all and that if you truly love each other you can work through it anyway.

Answer 9

You are both of legal age ..... and if you are both willing participants ..... go for it !!!!

I haven't dated a young one yet -- but it's looking more appealing everyday, I'm in my 40's also and have to admit that the youngersters are more attractive than the guys around here my age. They are alive, vibrant, full of energy and oh so trainable (wink, wink).

.... if more older women date younger guys then it WILL become socially accepted.

Answer 10

Age is not important as long as both of r happy tog. It does not matter what others think or say as long as u keep an open mind and take each day as it comes. Leave yr relationship in the hands of God and give thanks each day 4 yr happiness with him.Be happy.