Is anyone out there pregnant or has been pregnant before? I need advice!!!?

Question

If there is anyone who can give me some advice, I would really appreciate it! I am 18 years old and due on August 29.

Like what to expect during labor and the birth. I have been to the doctor and all. But the whole "labor and delivery" thing is freaking me out!

Answer 1

I enjoyed every moment of being pregnant. I wish I could be pregnant forever. It is so wonderful and beautiful. The experience is different for everyone, but everyone I know says that it was worth it...and I absolutely agree. There is nothing in the world like feeling your child move inside your belly and watching your belly grow. As for labor and delivery, that wasn't bad either. I took it with a grain of salt, I had to do it, why stress and panic about it? I thought of it as I did everything else I had to do...I had to pee everyday, I had to eat, go to work, sleep, and give birth. It was not bad at all. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

I know most people don't believe that you can be as easy going about labor and delivery as I was...but I honestly was, and I'm so glad. It really made things A LOT easier. The more you stress, panic and worry, the worse it's going to be. Try to relax, and picture yourself going through it. Do you want to be freaking out while your bringing your beautiful baby into the world? Probably not.

Try to stay as calm about it as you can, and when you begin to have contraction pain that is too uncomfortable to you ask the doctor for an epidural. It will help take a way the pain, and it will also help you relax and move your labor along faster. If you want to try to go natural...go for it. I waited as long as I could for the epidural because I wanted to go without, but it just didn't happen...and that's OK.

Remember that every woman, pregnancy, labor, and delivery is diferent. Talk to your doctor and ask all of the questions you have...you'll feel better and more prepared.

I wish you peace, luck, health, and happieness.

Good Luck!!

Answer 2

Girl, let me give you some advice. One; don't listen to people;s horror stories. Every birth is unique. If you're not having any complications, you'll most likely go at your own pace (unless you're induced.) You'll be checked every hour or so to see how much of a progress you are making. That's a little uncomfortable, but nothing too bad. When you're about 5cm dialated, the contractions will come on hard, and then around 8-10 is the worst, but luckily, that's the shortest phase of labor. If you get an epidural, you probably wont feel much of it. Once you're crowning(the babys head is poking through) they'll ask you to start pushing and once the head is out, you'll push more and then the baby will be out if you're not having those complications.

It's normal to freak out. I was scared shitless and I even cried. But it wasn't as bad as I thought, I even said, "That's it?" It wasnt bad. Relax =)

I hope you have a painfree L&D and if not painfree, only a little. But it's all worth it. Keep remembering that.

If you need any advice, my sn is mommy2anangyl. Feel free to ask anything.

Answer 3

Get into a lamaze class. Learning how to breath through contractions and relax as much as possible really helps. The classes will also give you an idea of what to expect. You might even make new friends. If "Dad" won't go - ask your mom, a sister, or a friend. Even if they won't go into the labor room, get to the classes at least. My ex couldn't because he was a long distance truck driver, so my sister went with me. It was great for both of us!

After, make a little time for yourself every week. Be prepared for post partum depression and have family/friends you can call to help you. It doesn't mean you are bad, just consider it the worst pms mood swing you ever had because your hormones will be changing a lot for awhile. If you ever feel out of control, call for help, DO NOT let your frustrations/depression get dumped onto the baby in any way like shaking him/her or yelling.

Answer 4

I feel you are afraid of "having" the baby. Well I was petrified of pain, of pushing of all the labor process during my whole nine months pregnancy. When the day came, I don't really know how to explain what happened but my whole attitude changed, maybe it was because I felt so much responsibility, I was the only one that could get the baby out, About the pain, yeah its true, it hurts, labor its very difficult, I had no anesthesia, so I felt it all. But to tell you the truth now that I think about it I can tell you that you don't die with labor pain. It comes and goes and between you catch your breath and get energy for the next contraction.
Don't think too much about it, the important thing its when the moment comes, to try to collaborate as much as you can with your doctors, stay calm try to relax and remember you are moments away to see the love of your life.

Answer 5

I'm not sure what kind of advice you are looking for so.......
take birthing classes and learn how to do the breathing exercises b/c they help.
Take the epideral and anything else they offer as soon as it is offered.
Even thought you will get all kinds of energy and want to keep your baby with you all the time at the hospital .... don't . Sleep as much as possible b/c when you go home that comes to a hault.
Nap when your baby naps and get as much sleep as you can , this can help lessen or prevent post partum depression.
If you get post partum realize it is normal , you are not a bad mom and it does not mean you don't love or want your baby.
If you get PPD and it wont go away and gets worse .. get help there is no shame in it.
Let people help you with the baby and make the dad do his part too , the reason women take maternity leave is not just to care for the baby but to allow time for their physical recovery as well.
As soon as you can get out of the house for an hour or so by yourself.... other wise you will start feeling like you just can not leave the baby(this happens in just 3-4weeks).
Everyone makes mistakes , no one is perfect and as long as every mistake you make was done with good intentions and with love while trying to do the right thing for your child , don't beat yourself up too much.
Finally , ignore everyone who says not to spoil your baby or let them cry it out. You should never let a baby under 6 months cry it out and it is your baby to spoil so spoil it if you want.(You really can not spoil an infant , if they cry for what appears to be no reason it is probably gas pain not the fact that they are spoiled)
Good Luck and congratulations.

Answer 6

Oh don't worry! If you have been active throughout your pregnancy it will be sort of easy for you, at least it was for me. I didn't even have to get any medication or anything and had my baby in 3 hours. She was my first child and was 8lbs.7oz. The doctor was very shocked at how well I did with the labor and all. I told him that I was always busy and walked my dog three times a day, which I think helped me cope with such an easy labor.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

What kind of advice are you looking for??

If it is medical advice then don't look for it here... talk to your Dr.
Your Dr. should be able to walk you through the whole process.. but i can tell you from experience get an epidural as early as the Dr. allows.. The fear of the unknown.. i know how you feel because i felt the same way for my first i expected the worse and it was as bad as i thought... just expect pain in the beginning.. everyone there are real understanding and there to help make this a wonderful experience!!! Congratulations!!!

Answer 8

Don't worry about delivery. Women have been doing it for millions of years, most of them with no pain killers. I know it is frightening. I'm a little frightened too when I think about it, but look how many women have been through it. It will hurt, but, apparently, you forget.

I'm not due for several months, but my sister just delivered her baby last week. It was her first, she had gestational diabetes, she is tiny, and the baby was large. She was in labor for only 8 hours, and she had pain medication for most of that time. She just popped that little girl out.

My mother did it 8 times, no problems. My other sisters and sisters-in-law have done it a total of 14 times. I tell myself not to be a baby about it. If they can do it, so can we.

Good luck.

Answer 9

go to the hospital when you think it's time. (PAIN starts) the people at the hsop. will help you through this. There is one thing about it. That baby is in there and it will come out. whether you know what to do or not. That's nature. It sounds like you have no one to talk too. I hope you have been going to a dr. It's normal to be scared. I had my first baby at 30 and I was scared too.
God bless you and good luck.

Answer 10

My best advice is to read all the books you can get your hands on BEFORE baby comes. Babywise, Happiest Baby on Block, etc. After baby comes, you'll be falling asleep between pages.

I do have to say that in looking back, I think the best book that I read about sleep was Healthy Baby Sleep Habits by Weissman. This one seemed to work and it was recommended by my pediatrician.

Also, all the books have contradictory theories.... go with the one that feels right to you.