Here's the whole story, I've been waiting for a young man to marry me for two years. He has been married, as a matter of fact is still married to her, he was supposed to get a divorce when they broke up! Anyways, we talked about tieing the knot, and even though we go through alot, we decided that we were going to take our chances and get married. O.k. fine so I give him time, I do not bring it up often, but I ask him "do you still want to get married?", he still says yes. Well two weeks ago, we were at his friend's house and he says to his friend that I just expect him to jump out of one marriage, and into a new one, and he was not ready for marriage. I got upset, I mean HOT, and I broke up with him. He then calls me and says that he wants to get married, and that he was going to put a ring up for layaway, I said o.k. Well he lied to me, there is no ring for layaway, he says that he is still going to buy me a ring. I am heart broken. I hate love right now. what's a girl to do?
2006-07-03 16:19:17 · 4 answers · asked by lynette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i'm not broken-hearted but just wanna give you some advice.
if he's not treating you well (from what i've read from your entry, he's treating you like a rag), then get out of the relationship and move on. he's not worth your trouble.
a real man means what he say.
2006-07-03 16:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by enigma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar to this, but it was with my girlfriend (same sex relationship) I was so blinded by real issues we were having and would pressure her to buy me a ring and would talk to her about us getting engaged and married. She would lie and say yes we will get one this weekend or next week or in a few weeks and so on and so forth. It never happened. She eventually blew up at me saying it was never gonna happen and then we broke up. I do understand where your boyfriend says he doesn't want to jump into another marriage right away. Give him time, probably a long time. What do you expect from him? Put yourself in his situation, he is still married to his wife and to be honest he probably still has feelings for her if they haven't gotten the divorce yet. Truth can hurt sometimes, but you must learn from your mistakes and heart breaks. Two years isnt a very long time, some people wait a lot longer till they are really ready to get married. Don't pressure him about it or get upset, be happy that you two are together. What difference is there if you two get married besides the fact you have his last name. Nothing will change other then that. He will love you the same married or not. Don't be so selfish. I hope this helped you a little bit.
2006-07-05 11:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by V H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say he's not worth your time. If he said it to his friend, I'm guessing it was the truth. He just wants to have his cake and eat it to.
2006-07-03 16:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't get into a long reason why...
But listen to Dream Angel.......
She is right......
My advice is go with your instincts!!!
2006-07-03 17:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Groo The Wanderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋