Would u confront a friend if u suspected her of lying?

Question

i think my friend my have been lying to everyone about being pregnant. i want to believe that she wouldnt lie to me about something like this. but everyone keeps bringing up good points. like how she was 7 months pregnant when she had her "miscarrige" but wasnt showing at all. she was still a size 3-5. she said the baby had heart complications and thats y the baby was so small. i mean there was always some new baby drama everyday. it all started to seem really strange everything that kept happening. but i really want to believe that she wouldnt lie to everyone in her life about it but people keep asking me questions about her pregnancy that i dont have the answers to. do i confront her?

Answer 1

A person who would lie about something like this is crying out for help. If she is young and was not taking care of herself it is possible to be pregnant and not show. There has been some who did not know they were pregnant until they delivered. It seems they kept a spotty period throughout and they were a little on the heavy side anyway so they never knew. If she did have a miscarriage at 7 months her mother would know the doctor would know. Ask her mother sometime when you are over how she is coping with the loss of a grandchild. If she looks at you like you are crazy then you know it's a lie. Ask the friend what was the doctors name, was the DNC painful, what about the funeral or ashes of the baby. What hospital, the name of the nurse she liked the best. You cannot be that far gone and not have a body and she would need some medical attention. Ask her on several different occasions to see if her story changes. I suggest that you help your friend and try to get her to go for professional help to help her discover why she feels the need to lie about something so horrible as well as o continue the charade.

Answer 2

I think that you should confront her.
She is making a fool out of herself, and one day someone is going to catch on.
There is no way that being 7 months pregnant, no matter what sort of complications, she wasn't showing. Plus, if she had a miscarrage at that time in her 'pregnancy' then she would have been in the hospital to remove the fetus. And she would have had to have been there more than overnight.

Instead of accusing her of lying, tell her that you know she is lying and talk to her about why.... Chances are she wants attention, but you need to be a good friend and figure out what is wrong in her life that she needs to be so dramatic about things.

Answer 3

Why would you gossip with other friends, acquaintences, etc. about her situation? They need to go directly to her - NOT you. If you yourself have questions, then most definately discuss this with her. Tell her you still love her as a friend but you have some questions that you would like her to be honest with you on.Explain what they are and take it from there. If she lied - Is she lacking attention for some reason and this was her way of getting it. See if she will be honest & let you know & then try to help - if no more than getting her into counseling. Hard thing to do - but it will either make or break this friendship.

Answer 4

What is your purpose in confronting her? What do you expect to achieve?

Confronting her simply because you think she may not be honest about the situation seems to serve no purpose. There can be many reasons why she chooses not to be honest here. Some of them are good, just as many are not.

The real issue is deciding if anything is achieved within your relationship by confronting her. What will you do if you find she is not being honest? What will you do if you find that she was honest about this?

This seems to be an issue more about you, than about her.

And as for those who ask you about her, it would seem more appropriate that they take their questions directly to her. For in the end, this makes you talk about her instead of talking to her.

And if she is your friend, how should you show that friendship to her?

Answer 5

Sure u need to have a talk with her about this, I mean she's ur friend.

maybe there's a reason why she felt she had to lie. What u should do is invite her to lunch, dinner or Ur place and tell her her u like to have a serious talk with her about somethings that are on Ur mind.

If she's Ur friend she will confine in u about whats going on with her, if not then may be she has more to hide then u know or may be she's just a lier.

However it turns out I hope ur still frinds in the end

Answer 6

do not go off all hard on her just sit down and talk to her about it, mayb she aint lyin and if u think she is is it worth you losing her friendship? i mean there is many ways in finding out from her other than just exploding and askin her all seriously about it. plus why would she lie about something like that? is she lackin attention or wants to keep the "babys" daddy? whatever it is i think she needs a real true friend to talk 2 her about this without being the same as the other closed minded people.

Answer 7

When i was in high school there was a girl who was pregnant every other week and lost the baby just as often. She was a friend of mine but because of her lieing I basically let the friendship fizzle out.Ask your friend to level with you, but only for your benifit not to tell other people.Let her know that you arent judging her but you are worried and if she cant be straight with you you cant share anything with her anymore.

Answer 8

First ask your friend if this is true or not. She might just want attention, and tehn when you confront her privateley she may spill the beans out to you. Talk to her softly and uunderstandingly. Not roughly like " DID YOU MAKE A LIE ABOUT BEING PREGNAUT"!>>!>!>!>.1:!1WREJKOJUERJ

A nice, soft friend is always the one that people trust, I also suggestsaying it's okay if it was a lie. Even if it wasn't...

Good luck!

Answer 9

I would tell her that you are worried about her. Then I would tell her that other people are asking those questions to you and you are feeling strange. See how she reacts and then tell her that you will listen to what ever is bothering her and remind her that you are her friend and that you really care about her. Tell her that you do not care if it is a lie b/c you will always be her friend and back her up,,but that you do not want to be lied to because you are honest and trustworthy and that you both deserve self-respect.

Answer 10

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