My husbands best friend died yesterday. He lived across the street and was really nice. He came over and played with my kids and ws overall a very cool person. He was in a bad car accident yesterday and will be creamated Friday. My 7 y/o loved him. Is she too young to attend? She understands what happened.
2006-07-03 16:02:00 · 17 answers · asked by nascar_princess83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, but be nearby if needed for assurance or to answer questions.
With love in Christ.
2006-07-06 18:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea. I have two children who have attended funerals since being infants.
Death is a part of life and something they shouldn't be shielded from. You know the day will come when someone even closer to her dies. Each experience will make her stronger.
Don't take away her chance to have closure with this loss.
2006-07-03 16:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the 7 year old and if he/she will understand the concept... If it is one that acts more like they are ten or elleven.. then yes, becaus they will wonder what hapened... if it is one that acts five... then no, because it woudl probably be better for the kid if you just tell them that they moved and left a present behind...
It all depends on how well you think the kind will handle and be able to understand that the person died...
Though, if she knows allready... it would probably be best if she goes... because if she knows and understands she probably needs to greive like any other does...
2006-07-03 16:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think it would be okay....I brought my son to my grandpas funeral when he was 3 yrs old,he had never met most of my family because they live so far away.He actually made people feel a lot better and really liked that he was there.My grandpa LOVED frank sinatra and he wanted his music playing during his wake,my son looked so cute dancing to the music and you know people didnt mind at all,they loved the fact that there was atleast one smiling face there.
2006-07-03 16:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be too much. Your husband and you will need to grieve and it would be upsetting to watch people he loves grieving over a very sudden loss. I would leave him with a babysitter/grandparents and find another time to talk about the loss.
Maybe you can have him kiss and hug a ballon and sent it up to heaven. My friend did that with her six year old.
2006-07-03 16:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one that only you can answer. Only you know your child, my daughter is going to be 8. But I wouldn't unless absolutely necessary because she is very sensitive and takes a lot of things to heart. But that is my daughter. Everyone is different. I don't think they necessarily have to be at the funeral they are long and drawn out and I think it upsets them more because they see adults potentially losing it or getting upset and that's what gets kids scared when the adults are reacting that way. But again, only you know what your daughter can handle.
2006-07-03 16:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends.
When my Opa died, my 4 year old cousin went. He provided a relief to many people. Just his presence made people happy, so there is a plus to bringing someone young to a funeral.
If she understands what has happened, and she can 'behave' then you should bring her.
I wasn't 'allowed' to go to my grandfather's funeral when I was in grade one, and I still regret that decission my parents made today.
Do what you feel is right.
2006-07-03 16:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by kristijay99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely,she will need to learn about death while she is young that way she will not be so scared of it later on in life.however she should be explained the situation delicately and its ok if she gets upset she has the right to greive for him as well.both he and she deserves the right to get a goodbye.
2006-07-03 16:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter if very emotional, I wouldn't take her. But if she loved him and you think she is mature enough to handle the grieving people and will have a chance to say good-bye, by all means take her.
2006-07-03 16:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so she will be fine. Just make sure she acts responsibly cuz the last think people want is a 7yr old running around.
2006-07-03 16:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋