Whats a good way to prevent Masturbation?

Question

I have a 11 yearold son and i remember being eleven and the "urges" that it entails..because masterbation is a dirty habit how can i prevent him from doing it?? I remember my dad told me that my "thing" would fall off if i masterbated and that he would put my hand in boiling water and i would really know the meaning of "Being caught red-handed" but i want to do something more humane..i already had the bird and fleas talk(my version)
dont tell me that whole "beating off is natural" thing

well im not going to tell him to "embrace" it i dont want man candy all over the house..thats gross

i dont want him hooked on porn..addiction to porn is just as bad as addiction to other drugs

Answer 1

Unfortunately, your father instilled a fear and a personal belief in you at an early age. It is unfortunate that you now wish to instill that same devastating affect on your son as well.

Masturbation is not natural. It is an automatic response to natural urges. Suppressing an innocent means to relieve those urges may force someone to relieve them in other ways.

Since the dawn of time, man has had these urges often. Animals usually have these urges only at specific times of the year to procreate, but man has them constantly. Because of this he,and she, have been given a gift to enjoy the experiences of these urges.

My suggestion is to guide him into adulthood not to suppress those urges which could cause considerable mental and physical harm, but to encourage him to realize what life and sex is - a wonderful and enjoyable means of mutual and self gratification. And it's not too late for you to experience what has been suppressed in your life as well.

Answer 2

Masturbation is not "dirty", and the way you are making your parents sound is horrible. It's not a bad thing to touch yourself, Because how do you expect someone to touch you during sex?

You know your penis won't fall off, and you shouldn't scare your child into thinking so. I would talk to him and explain a much more detailed version of sex, including a woman in the conversation. However, I still don't get your logic of masturbation being disgusting. And whatever the hell beating off is, I'm sure it is natural.

I suggest you take a good look at reality and ask yourself what else you can try to prevent in the future. Your child from dating, Because it's wrong. From having sex, Because that's how they were born. Whatever logic you may think you contain is right---I doubt you can prove wrong the scientist that KNOW masturbation does not give diseases or is unhealthy. It's probably the healthiest way to get sexually without the worry of something happening unexpected.

Quote"well im not going to tell him to "embrace" it i dont want man candy all over the house..thats gross"

Gross? Hm, And watching your child in a private manner is? Man CANDY? You think all those teens who masturbate are homosexual, and yet you did it once and shun them? Get a grip. Masturabation is something WOMAN go through too, Yet not all of them become lesbians. Check your info.


Quote-"i dont want him hooked on porn..addiction to porn is just as bad as addiction to other drugs"


Because he's touching himself, He's going to get on porn.Yea Right. And You are wrong---Porn is alot safer than drugs---And isnt as addictive. It takes you one time for drugs, Many for porn. You are also calling yourself a bad parent because you are allowing him to do so, He is enabled to get porn.He's not going to get hooked on PORN because he masturbates. Thats something totally different.Again Check your info.


I don't know how I can help your little issue for in order to that, I would need to change your mind. I don't have time for that.

P.S--Why are you watching him that way? I doubt that He would do it in public, SO are you peeping on him, Because if so--You have issues

Answer 3

It IS natural. Its just something that EVERY boy does. And I'm a chick saying this. I've grown up with so many friends for boys that I can tell you hoestly that I haven't met a dude yet that doesn't do that. He's not being dirty, just natural. Stop peaking in on him and leave him alone.

Answer 4

Sounds like YOU have a problem. Nothing wrong with masturbation as long as he does it in appropriate places and washes his hands afterwards. How did you feel when your dad acted that away. Did you feel ashamed b/c you did it? He'll still do it either way, Your relationship is hendered.
Maybe you can tell no girls will like him. OH shame him is classic. Then he will turn looking like is father overweight and insecure.

Answer 5

Well, you are a little backwards, my friend. Did you enjoy what your father did? Do you feel guilty now when you beat it? It is natural. And you shouldn't worry about it. If he's leaving a mess, just give him a box of tissues. Don't worry about preventing it. You can't. You should know.

Answer 6

I think your son has a right to explore his body and learn about what makes him feel good. I don't think you can really prevent masturbation now that he knows how good it feels and it will be hard for him to stop, unless you're crazy enough to cut off his own penis or something...

Answer 7

Sigh,
It is normal for man to masturbate and have sex drive.
But, you have to keep him away from all arouse so that he wont get sex driven. Im a lady, my thinking maybe differnt from your son.
The best way, is to drag him to church. And advice him...
I dont wana know the difference of all this, cuz i still think that im too yuoung enuf for all these. I'm 21. hehe

Answer 8

Your just going to have to accept the fact that a boy is going to masturbate. The most important thing is to teach him to not be messy about it.

I wish that my parents would have been open for me to ask any questions of them about sex that I wanted or needed to know.

Answer 9

are you serious???? masturbation is not a dirty habit at all...and IT IS natural...your father is a horrible person for saying things to you, but unfortunately you're also being a horrible person to your son. who cares if he masturbates??? it's not going to hurt him. masturbation is actually healthy so get over it and let your son do what he wants.

Answer 10

I cannot believe that you would make a big deal about it when your father handled it so badly. No one wants to think about their child doing this, but it is a natural part of puberty and adolescence.