Should I be supportive?

Question

My mom is dating this guy and they're talking about marriage. Bad thing is he lives in Miami. My mom and I have to move there if they get married. I'm sure that at some point they're going to ask me if I'm okay with this. Should I pretend to be happy or should I tell them the truth? .. that I feel a little bit uncomfortable moving so far away from my friends and father... I'm guessing that I should be supportive but I'd like to know if I should talk to her about how I feel. Maybe she'll just get angry

Answer 1

You can tell her how you feel, but move out there. Step out of your comfort zone. If there is something about the place that worries you let her know. If it is just because you are afraid to lose everything you have now (as in missing everything/one), it should not interfere with their marriage. If you have a problem with this man, tell her too. Your mom should have happiness, and a husband is the most she'll recieve under the happiness of God.

Answer 2

Tell you mom that you are happy she found someone but let her know that you don't want to leave friends and family. If you tell her that you have to talk with her about something very important and then set a side a time later that day for you both to talk. She will be more open to listen to what you say.

Answer 3

Talk to your mom is a better way even this will make her mad on you. This way to avoid that you will do something more bad as your anger or feel inconvinience caused by your dislike moving to miami will make her more angry and more upset. And will make your both relation bad.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm in the same position, my mom met a guy and moved to Missouri far away from my dad, so I decieded to live with my dad, Just tell her mom how do you expect me to be sooo far away from my family and my dad with out getting angy and saying something, I'm sorry if you get mand I love you, but I really dont want to move!

Answer 5

It is always best to be honest. Unfortunately you may not have a choice but at least they care enough to ask your opinion. You can always keep in touch with your current friends and make new ones. As far as your father is concerned he is going to have to make a good effort to keep in touch with you. Your mom deserves to move on but you should be allowed to keep as little or as much contact with you father as you want as long as it is within reason. Best wishes.

Answer 6

You should definitly be honest with her. Obviously you realize that she is not asking your permission she is just asking how you feel about it. She should not get angry if you tell her that you dont want to move, but she will probably explain to you that this man means so much to her and she would love it if you wanted this too.

Answer 7

Honey, you shoulkd be honest. That is what your motehr should want. Who knows? What can happen besides moving? You need toi speak the truth. Don't keep it in. They might move there, miht not. Does he have kids? Doesa he have a business there? Is he very atached there or not? Consider these thongs.

Answer 8

you poor thing.

What a scary concept.

Tell your mom the truth. That it scares you, see what she has to say.

Think of the adventure too! Miami is supposed to be a pretty cool place!

Good luck to you!

Answer 9

You should certainly talk to her about your concerns and the sooner the better. Just don't do it by picking a fight or accusing her her of wrongdoing. Just tell her how you feel about the things you mentioned. They are all valid concerns and should be addressed.

Answer 10

BE honest and talk it through with your mom. Explain how you feel and work on it together.