I have four other roommates (all girls). We were all friends before we moved in together, but its different now. Its seems like they've turned on me, i dont know what is. I feel like im the scapegoat in the house.
I always tell them that if they have a problem with me, to come me and talk about it instead of acting weird or being sly and try to disclude me from things.
I think is funny how when approach them about something that is bothing me about something they've done, they dont take me seriously cuz im not screaming in their faces or have nasty attitude...thats just not how i am. when i do those things they just F##uck'n laugh. They dont respect me.
It seems like they get pissed about petty things.
The second something happens, i am the first person that is blamed for it. What the hell have i done that is so wrong?
I love these girls alot, but im starting to not be able to stand being around them.
How should i approach them if they never take me seriosly?
2006-07-03 15:45:51 · 17 answers · asked by flo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its always petty things, for example one of roommates when ever she's upset with you she blames everything that happens to her on that person and ignores them completly. and talks about them behind there back...ive witnessed her do that many times. i think its childish.
I've tried to confront her but she's never "real" with me. i feel like she only tells me what she thinks i wanna hear to avoid confrontation
2006-07-03 16:03:18 · update #1
More than likely you will have to have a horrible screaming argument with at least one of them to get their attention. I am serious. That seems to be the only way people like your room mates will listen and get it through their heads that you are serious. Been there and done that. Immature and wrong I know, but sometimes one has to stoop to this level in order to be heard. Maybe there is another way but I tried several and nothing ever worked.
2006-07-03 15:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are four in an appartment? That is your problem. On top of it, you are the ONLY girl!!!!! Listen, they are not going to change and you will mot change them. Either lay the rules down and if they don't follow, per example, you can - Buy you own toilette paper and keep it in your room - along with the role of paper you are using currently. - Sit them down and since there is 4 of you, assign each a week-end that you will clean the bathroom. - I've also had a roommate that use to eat my food, so I put laxatives in mine... I know it sounds mean, but he never did it again. - You can't expect people to act and do stuff the exact way you do them, however, when you all live together, some basic rules have to be followed and THIS is what you need to have a meeting about. If you don't say anything, trust me, it will only get worst, before it gets better. But my advice? Start looking for another place to live.
2016-03-27 03:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it sounds they have managed to get into a little click with each other. And found someone they can degrade and kick around in the most childish school child way.. Soooo. immature These aren't friends to you know matter how much you love them.Usually there is a leader in that pack and the rest are just following her lead, on how to be rotten to you and so on. She's got the attention and power trip against you.Have to make you look stupid, and messing everything up. Think its time to change roommates they may be trying to run you out tol 'again, because they have a leader saying so and the sheep are following. Just staight out approch them with what you feel! Best wishes for you.
2006-07-03 16:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are just like that. If you are in the presence of two or more, they will always form a coalition and turn on who the assume the "weakest" girl in the group is. I know that what you are going through is true, because it has happened to me before. The only thing that will help you at this point is to let them know how you feel and make an attempt to get to the bottom of it. In the future, never room with people that you are personally involved with. Good Luck!
2006-07-03 15:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know how long you've been roommates but I know women. All you have to do is wait until one of them is mad at one of the others for something then you'll be expected to take sides against her. Pretty soon they'll be picking on the other one for a while until somebody else gets a mad on then the tables will turn and another one will be the bottom of the totem pole.
We women are a weird bunch, more that two hanging around together trying to be friends is almost impossible over a long period.
2006-07-03 15:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was good friends with my roommate before we moved in together. It turned into a mess. We got like you guys are not caring about what we did, and amost doing things just to piss the other one off. One of us evenutually left. If things are really that bad and talking about it isn't helping, theres two options. 1# find someone that is considered high in everyones standards that evryone will listen too and use that person to help out your problems Example: Psycharist, or option #2 Stop the stress and just find some where else to go it isnt healthy to go through that.
2006-07-03 15:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jakefeatherston2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being assertive and mature on this matter. If you are asking them nicely and in a mature fashion, and can't seem to get any where, then you may either have to move out orget nasty one time. It sounds as tho they are the ones acting childishly. Be nice, assertive,but also have a back bone where you have to show them you aren't going to take any of their crap!
Sometimes when you live in the same living courters as your friends, you and them learn more about each others habits, and ways then you knew before. Good Luck!
2006-07-03 16:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by mitzi o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of the house now.
I tell you. If you dont feel that like a place to stay anymore, you better move out to live with strangers.
I have problems with my housemate too. But, i dont care. My step is to consult a pschologist in my school then i deal with them.
But First, you hv to be sensetive and think back what wrong you have done. Dont deny yourself first. Then, maybe you hv to change.
But, i say, since they are all against you, you better move out of your house. you cant do your work like that.
I also have problem with my housemate these few days. N luckily, later at 4pm im going to stay a few night in my friends' house.
This is an advice for you: You better dont stay with the person you know too well. They'll get tired of you and you'll get tired of them. I hadnt got such experience before. But, my bro told me so, i belif him. Try to stay with strangers (not very far from your culture), and you can learn from them. Cuz, they dont know you, dont wont mind being straight to your face.
I wish you luck, and you shud wish me luck too!
2006-07-03 15:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by aclau85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you gotta do what you gotta do...start looking for a place to stay. if you have already tried to confront them and deal with them on an adult/mature level then its really nothing you can do until they decide to GROW UP!
keep being the bigger person in the meantime and try not to let them get you down!
2006-07-03 15:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. If you are friends it will be better NOT living with them. Things will only get worse and end in bad feelings.
2006-07-03 15:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by brooklyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋