Can some one please tell me what kind of signs or clues a man will do when having a affair?

Question

Answers from other men would help to. and I realize every man is different, but in general what can you tell me?

Answer 1

oh, where to begin. let's see.. he will go missing for hours at a time and you have no ideal where he's at and when you inquire..he brushes you off, less and less sex, less and less time together period. he'll always try to distant himself from you, he'll do things that don't make sense to you, go with your gut, your intuition will steer you to the answers, you'll receive hang up calls, you'll get code rings on your phone , example, one ring calls or two rings, etc and then a call back one ring. he will be very moody with you, his convictions may make him very irritable with you, you will realize that you're being neglected and can't remember the last time he held you or even showed any affection towards you, he may spruce up a little more than normal, ie.new watch, new cologne, new clothes, working on the bod, etc. does that help. i've been through it and i feel for you.... but if God brings you to it, He'll see you through it. Pray... don't stop praying. everytime a door closes another opens. try to look ahead to brighter days

Answer 2

Man, all these answers brought back a lot of memories. My ex did a lot of those things. I found receipts in his wallet for things like gifts I didn't receive, and he had outrageous stories for the explanation of why his check was totally gone on payday. There were notes in his wallet, actual letters from someone he fooled around with, or his shirt would smell like perfume, or he would say he's going to go for a drive and cool off and be gone all night and then come back the next morning and intentionally mess up his hair and clothes to make it look like he slept in the car. He would "house-sit", he would blame an injury on his nephew when it was actually the kid of the lady he was sleeping with, (jumped onto his extended leg)
He had 3 affairs that he confessed to but there were a lot more the I suspected and after 9 years, still suspect. I feel sorry for his new wife. Not because I think he'll do it to her,(she WILL kill him) but he's such a sorry excuse for a man.

Answer 3

Am in the process of a divorce for that reason. They become very fixated on new clothes, grooming, their looks, constant "with my buddy" or "I have a meeting late" or "I have to work this morning - and it's Saturday." Another thing is when they feel guilty about cheating, he will suddenly come home with flowers or jewelry or something for no apparent reason but then chew you out about something totally silly. They will also throw the "you've changed" thing at you. This is in an attempt to try to make you feel like you are the bad guy in the situation. Especially bad is when you are already feeling down about yourself... you hear that and can start to believe it. If you do, then he feels more justified. My advice... don't wait to confront him. Ask the question and check the reply. You will most likely know if he is telling the truth. If he is cheating, he may get angry. Don't react, just be prepared. If he isn't cheating, he may apologize for giving you reason to think that and then it is on the mend. Also, if he isn't, he may get his feelings hurt - in which case, it opens the door for discussion. Why should you not wait? Many reasons, but the first is that if he isn't and you wonder about if he is, you are going to just stew about it and get angry and then project that onto your relationship and mess it up worse. Also, the sooner you address it, the sooner you feel better and your relationship will grow. I waited too long to address the issues in my relationship and silence was taken for acceptance. I was afraid to address mine because I was afraid of the answer. If I would have done something, I may have prevented the ultimate ending. Also, just ask God to help you through it. If you ask, he will give you the strength to handle the questions and the answers. Know that it is HIS will not yours that is going to be the way things go. If it doesn't agree with your way, it just means that something even better is coming. This attitude and way of life has kept me sane. I hope I helped you!

Answer 4

There are no signs or clues,if the man is cheating he will tell you,when you look for signs,it's always the ones you shouldn't read so if you want to know ask if he beats around the bush on the answer and give you to many answers you do the math????

Answer 5

I am divorcing now because of a cheating spouse. The most obvious is getting defensive when you ask him about his female friends. Not wanting you to meet his female friends.Spending a lot of time on the phone with female friends. CONSTANTLY TALIKING ABOUT SOMEONE IN PARTICULAR,. He doesn't take interest in the things that you used to do together. He makes time to "hang out" with the"guys", but he has an excuse why he can't spend time with you. He is always asking you to go out with your friends. Always too tired or not in the mood for sex. When you want to talk about the relationship or the lack of communication he makes you belive you are crazy or imagining things. The best thing is to confront him when you suspect something is going on. The worst that can happen if you are wrong is a misunderstanding, as opposed to finding out the hard way like me. He was leading a double life, with kids.

Answer 6

Hours away from home with no explanation
Showers when he comes in the house before anything
Starts paying attention to his appearance, buys new underwear, gets a different or new haircut.
gets new aftershave
insist on answering his own cell phone
watch the money and see if he is spending more than usual.
keeps the car cleaned up.
doesn't kiss or hold you anymore even when you approach him
stops telling you he loves you
stops making eye contact
engages in a new hobby or extra curricular activity without inviting you to come along

Answer 7

For starters he'll ignore you, show up late for a plan that you made to spend time with him. But if you think he's playin around with your heart sit him down and explain to him that you don't feel special any more and if he listens and does something really sweet then don't sweat it but if he gets a call and he answers and doesn't ask if he can call them back cuz hes talkin with his girl then that right there should tell you something unless hes a doctor.But set up a date for the to of you and if he up's and leaves for a phone call, then you do the same. Sorry your going through this sweety i hpoe something goes great for you.

Answer 8

1) he could say he is working late. more late than usual.
2) he could go on 'business trips"
3) he might have number in pockets of clothes(check when he is in shower)
4) he might want more sex than before
5) does he smell like perfume
6) does his cell phone ring alot and he runs out the door soon after the call
7) he is not home as much
8) asks you if you are having an affair if you confront him

Answer 9

credit card receipts, working late, avoiding any serious questions about where he's been/what he's been up to. I've never, thankfully, had to address this but I really hope and pray to never ever will.

To get him back on track or to just get together, I'd suggest making a special meal, giving him extra attention, telling him you love him and how you feel if you suspect he's got someone else in his interests. I'd also suggest praying about it and asking God to convict his heart to be honest and to stop cheating. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Sneaky,evasive,B.S. answers that you have a sneaking suspicion about.Gradual loss of interest,small to large amounts of time unacounted for,1 to 3 hang up phone calls per month,avoidance to being questioned,Passive agressive behavior,.Or extra sweet when leaving or starting an arguement so he can leave.