Hey, please help me with this either by offering me your insight, opinion, or even your own experiences. I've tried to ask a guy the same questions a few times, but he never answered them. We're still in touch via e-mail, and we sometimes chat on line as well. His irresponsiveness/evasiveness is something I really can't understand. I'd like to ask why some people don't have the nerves to be direct or honest when others confront them with questions. Please share your knowledge, insight, opinions, and/or experiences with me. And also please tell me what to do in a situation like this. Thanks a lot for your help.
p.s. I really want to know his answers to my questions.
2006-07-03 14:40:51 · 15 answers · asked by CRT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The best way to get an answer quickly from him is to ask your question again, and then if he doesn't immediately answer, ask "Why haven't you answered my question? Does it bother you?". It's hard to evade that question.
Sometimes people don't answer a question because they get distracted with other elements of the conversation and forget. If the question has been asked repeatedly, it's less likely that that is the problem though. Other reasons are that he doesn't want to answer the question because he doesn't want to know the answer, or he might not know the answer himself. If it's a sensitive topic, then he might feel uncomfortable talking about it.
2006-07-03 14:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be being evasive because of any of the following reasons:
1. He doesn't like to be intruded. He's a private person and you might have been asking too personal questions.
2. He is intimidated by you and your questions.
3. He is not interested with your topics of discussion or chatting.
4. He is the shy-type.
5. He's not yet ready to open up with you. Give him time.
6. He might be doing other things, or chatting with other people, as he is chatting with you.
Good luck.
2006-07-03 14:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are pushing him too hard for answers. Or he's just the kind of a person that isn't comfortable with sharing. Could also be that you are reading more into the relationship than is there and he just wants to be friends, no more nor less. If it really bothers you that much, find someone else to chat with.
2006-07-03 14:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by mopargrapeape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can sometimes put a strain on a relationship. If he is being evasive and won't respond to your questions, he might very well be trying to tell you that he really doesn't want to be bothered and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Don't let it bother you, go on with your life and stop beating a dead horse.
2006-07-03 14:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by D C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people believe if they answer some questions truthfully that you will say ta ta. Some guys are hiding things, like a wife at home. There is no good reason why he shouldn't answer directly. Beware!
2006-07-03 14:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself, what would motivate him to answer your questions?
Perhaps to him it seems like prying?
Don't ask "why won't he answer in a straightforward way"?
Ask, "Why WOULD he answer in a straightford way?"
Perhaps he feels safer if less is known about him. Perhaps he is just a private person. Regardless, if you really want to get past it, you have to have a reason for him to be more open, and the reason can't be because YOU want him to be.
2006-07-03 14:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah..but he clearly doesn't want you to know his answers.
So drop it. Why is irrelevant. He IS entitled to share as much of himself as he chooses.
If it drives you nuts, walk away. You are right, there is NO reason you have to put up with someone who is neither direct or honest.
2006-07-03 14:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that he is evasive because his answer would probably be negative. He is afraid he would hurt your feelings and it is easier to just avoid it than answer it.
2006-07-03 14:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by j2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evasive people are boring and dull -- move on now when it's still easy.
Aloha
2006-07-03 14:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by Brooklynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People that can't be honest with other people just don't have any cajones. Obviously he doesn't care enough about you to be honest so why are you wasting your time honey?
2006-07-03 14:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋