I'm not sure how to ask this question. I met a self-professed 25 yr old straight guy, who seems very straight to me, but I keep finding out that he's had "semi-gay" experiences. I don't know the details, but basically he tells me he has allowed other guys to fellatio him and he has jerked a few guys off, but I don't know if he allows them to kiss him or what else goes on. Anyway, since I know he's straight, I've totally not come onto him, or done anything to make him feel uncomfortable because I like him as a friend. Recently he asked me if I was attracted to him, and I said, "yes, but because you're straight I wouldn't ever come onto you, and I respect our friendship too much." Then he said, "Well, we could cuddle - in fact, I really want to." Is he saying this because he wants to? Or because he wants my friendship and thinks he has to do this to maintain our friendship? Or is he coming out? Or is it that he's simply getting no sex with a female right now? I want to do the right thing
2006-07-03 14:00:11 · 12 answers · asked by inter_textual 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do you know how I know he's gay? Because he macramed himself a pair of shorts.
2006-07-08 22:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some straight men do experiment, but that's about it. It's not a regular thing. Your friend..is likely bi...if he wants cuddle..oh yeah he has attraction to males. He chooses to see it as "flings" and that's his choice. If you are looking for something serious...don't count on it...he is in it for the pleasure part only. Not that he doesnt care about you, but he is not looking for a serious relationship with a guy. At least not yet. He may never...guys like that are complicated...bi..but deny. Good luck to you.
2006-07-03 16:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by tata_bigs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha, you think he might be on the down-low. It sounds to me like that's probably it. Only he knows for sure, people are usually aroused by one sex much more than the other, but some especially horny people can "compromise" like people do in jail, etc...
Based on what you say I'd go with your instincts, it sounds like he's on the down-low and is looking for a way to get off. If he doesn't want any kissy-kissy then that's definately it. That's kind of lame and sad I think. Eeww...
2006-07-03 14:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, no matter what he says, he's bi! Because if he has experienced with other guys, he's bi! On one hand if your friendship is more important, don't take it any further! That ruins relationships a lot! But if you really think he is into you, talk to him about it! Because only the two of you will know what is really going on!
2006-07-03 17:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by munkypoo1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a closeted gay or bi. He's probably afraid of the gay/bi label, which is understandable. If you really like him and he is coming onto you, I'd say you should go for it. Just be cautious about the situation and don't get too involved emotionally until you know for sure (and he knows for sure!) what his orientation is.
2006-07-03 20:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is Bi-sexual but doesn't want to exactly emit it . It seems like he finds you attractive also. I think you should go for it. He is not "straight"!
2006-07-03 16:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Britt Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably actually attracted to you from the sounds of it. Go slow and make sure he is attracted to you before you do anything.
2006-07-03 14:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ashton A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you encounter the Lover of our hearts and souls , sex and other relationships become secondary
2006-07-03 14:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuddle. Haven't u seen "Broke back mountain"?
2006-07-03 14:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by Vell g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him...he may just be curious.
2006-07-03 14:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by temptnu37076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋