Okay, we have a 3 year old daughter. I pay child support, but dont get any visitations because i live a bunch of states away. My ex just got remarried, and she said that her new husband wants to adopt our daughter as his own. They called me and told me this. They said they have seen a lawyer and such. I would have to sign over parental rights in this case, and i am fine with this because he makes a great dad. So, what will happen...like will they send me papers in the mail to sign or what? Or, will the child support office be informed, and send me the papers, etc. ?
2006-07-03 13:56:24 · 11 answers · asked by texasman 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
My husband recently adopted my daughter from a previous relationship- papers to terminate his rights were sent to him in South Dakota from Tennessee-- he had to sign them in front of a notary and send them back to my lawyer.. it then took 60 days before we went to court and the judge finalized the adoption and he had a copy of the adoption papers sent to him and also adoption papers were sent to the Office of Child Support Enforcement. The support me paid AFTER the adoption was not legally mine, so I was ordered to write him a check for the same amount and send it back to the Office of Child Support Enforcement (NOT HIM) and THEY forwarded it back.
2006-07-07 03:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, you would be happy to never see or talk to your daughter again? Because once you sign away your rights, that can happen and there is nothing you can do. And you better get a lawyer, or you can be forced to keep paying child support and still have no say or chance to see or even talk to the girl.
2006-07-03 15:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I am a step-parent and an adoptive parent. In most states step-parent adoptions can only happen after one year of marriage, but their state might be different. I beleive you will be served papers , sign them , return them, then your rights will be terminated , then you will be sent the final order of termination of rights, and then it is YOUR responsibilty to submit the final order of termination of rights to the child support office.
In answer to your other questions in consenting to an adoption, the noncustodial parent (you) relinquishes all parental rights and responsibilities, including child support.
Here is a link to search statutes by state for issues related to child adoption. Results will provide summaries of State statutes (and full text of laws, in some cases).
http://naic.acf.hhs.gov/general/legal/statutes/search/index.cfm
As far as people giving you grief about signing papers, ignore them. ONLY YOU know YOUR situation. As a teacher for 11 years I have seen MANY biological parents refuse to let wonderful people adopt their biological children, even though they have no part in their lives. Their reason? Power. They block the adoption JUST BECAUSE THEY CAN ! The kid lives out his childhood in custody limbo.
I think it is commendable that you want your daughter to have the involved, loving 24/7 dad that she deserves.
Best wishes and God bless
2006-07-04 06:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by cstoa10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they adopt to his name, you would have to sign your rights away. you would get documents in the mail. if your signing everything away, you may request or it may be in the papers that you don't have to pay child support as the child would no longer be yours through the courts. since all ties would be broken from you to your child, she would carry his name. if they were getting maried and the child carried your name it would be differant. you yourself may want to contact a family lawyer. they can make sure everything is in order.
2006-07-03 14:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to continue to pay child support after he adopts her, you better get friend of the court involved.
2006-07-03 14:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by catlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sign away my rights. He could turn out to be a freak, and you would have no say. You would not have any more rights than a stranger on the street with regards to your daughter.
2006-07-03 14:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by normobrian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not give up ur parental rights, b/c then it wouldn't be ur daughter anymore n she would call the current step father dad, do u want that?? unless u do, then go ahead sign the papers, but think about it, its ur daughter y would u want to give up that paternal right to him??? i for sure would not!!
2006-07-03 15:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lovemylifefriendsfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she won't be able to undertake her very own baby, she is already the baby's mom. the only way your financial criminal accountability could leave replaced into if yet another guy did a step-paretn adoption. you're legally in charge for the baby, he needless to say would not desire to undertake or you're able to are starting to be a reaction. i'm sorry, as that's unfair which you're caught paying baby help, yet there is no loop hollow to get out of it. the two he adopts the baby, or you pay her till the baby is eighteen. except the mummy needs the baby observed, it is not proper besides. despite if he could choose for it, she ought to no longer. they are in a place to document rates in case you nonetheless deliver mail asking him to undertake. that's seen harassment.
2016-11-01 04:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you want to cave in!- way to go
2006-07-03 14:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sounder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only with your consent can that be done. Don't let it happen.
2006-07-03 13:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Outman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋