I am gay and I want to change. What can I do?

Question

I really want to change but I am not religious. Most of the positive and helpful answers I'm getting are encouraging me to seek guidance from the clergy.

Is there any other way?

Answer 1

First off...its really your choice how you want to be. If you dont want to be gay, just turn your eyes away from the same sex and see it as disasterilly disgusting. You can do it with time...but maybe fear is the big thing thats stopping you. Are you afraid that the opposite sex wont like you if they found out you have been gay in the past? Just see what you want to be and go for it. In time all things will change. Have faith in yourself and see life in a different view.

Answer 2

Listen, do not deny your sexuality because it seems noone respects you for who you are. You are not religious, this is fine. You can decide whatever religion is for you. The church nowadays is based on an old book written by mankind that was allegedly the word of God. Who is to say in this book that people put their own opinions in? I do not wish to start an argument, only, to get my opinion out there. Change is around every day, conservatives cannot take change well, so they naturally come across to judging, and hating you. However, even though I do not know you, I can say this: I accept you. You are gay. Be proud of who you are. There is no changing one's sexuality. You are who you are, and love yourself for it. I went through a similar denial phase. I can at this point wish you only this: Good Luck, I hope you meet some source of love that fully accepts you and will be with you for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

Start dating the opposite sex. See what happens. U might find someone you really like. I can't answer that any further because I am not sure if gay people are gay because they choose to be or if it's something else. One can't change unless they find out what the root problem is. Is "changing" something u find difficult? Are you repulsed by yourself or the opposite sex? It this based on religious belief? Why do u want to change? Really think about this, and yourself. That's the first step when making a change- addressing what it is u want to change, and why- the root cause.

Answer 4

I was where you are dude...You can pray, and seek answers from religion. That did not work for me, but maybe it will for you. Personally speaking..you cannot change. It is biological..not choice, nor circumstance. You will likely come to the realization that you have a choice...be happy and satisfied with who you are, or don't and be miserable. The first is easier and healthier. If you think about, being gay is a small part of WHO you are, it does not determine if you are good are bad. That is choices you make. Was gay a choice...probably not.

Answer 5

Live in self denial, I'm afraid. Unless you 'chose' to be gay as a lifestyle accessory, there's not much you can do, unless you want to be miserable and live a lie the rest of your life!
If you're homosexual by design, be proud of being you, man! Don't let society or a religion dictate what you believe in your heart to be the true you!! Don't be a hypocrite.

I'm hetrosexual btw, so there's no 'hidden agenda' from me. Just a desire to rid the world of deceit and hypocrisy.

Answer 6

It depends on your age I guess. If you are young, and were just experimenting with the gay life style, you can just stay away from your old "friends" for awhile and try hanging out with more straight guys. Find a female who can start out by being your "best friend" learn to love her with your heart before you think of the sex end of it.
IF you really wish to change, then you can. Read up on it, find info on other people who have changed, find out what they did. Good Luck to you.

Answer 7

This is a complex issue to be sure, however try not to think so much in terms of you have a problem being "gay", but rather you have a problem with sin. When we humble ourselves and confess our sin to the Lord, he is faithful and just to forgive us of our sin and rescue us from its penalty (death and hell). Jesus Christ offers deliverence (forgriveness) from the bondage that sin holds us in, and gives us a new "born again" heart that no longer desires the the things that we used to. He gives us a change of heart. I will pray that you find the strength to seek the Lord concerning your desire to be set free. Blessings to you...

Answer 8

pray about it. go to a church and talk to a pastor or an elder and explain your situation to them, they will keep every thing confidential and will help you through this tough time in your life. get rid of everything in your life that is holding you back and making you feel ashamed. You can change and your life will be so much better for it. you will face hardships along the way but if you persevere and pray and rely on God you will succeed. you have my prayers.
God Bless!!!

Answer 9

My personal belief is that you are born that way, and there isn't anything you can do to actually CHANGE your preference and be truly happy with those changes. Even though some close-minded people don't agree with it, don't let their lack of understanding bring you down. If you are happy with your sexuality, there is no need to change for somebody else.

Answer 10

Watch a very sad movie, like the Notebook, you'll stop being gay and instead you'll be sad. Oh, not that kind of gay? Then, I don't have an answer for you. sorry ;-)