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What if your husband was no longer reliable in achieving an erection, not due to your desirability, but medically related. He is loving in every other way, with hugs and words and deeds and physical closeness. How does this affect your thinking? Can you accept it? Is sexual penetration important to your happiness, or can you live without it comfortably as long as it's expressed in ample amounts in other ways. I suspect this would be devestating to some women. I wonder though if there are others that can be unbothered by it, or place it at a level of lesser importance in an otherwise happy marriage. Thank you in advance.

2006-07-03 13:42:33 · 16 answers · asked by nothing 6 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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In an otherwise happy marriage, sexual penetration is not a must have. The man should be able to sexually satisfy his wife with other methods--fingers, orally, toys. I am 47 years old. I don't believe sexual penetration is a profession of love at any age. The hugs, words, deeds, and physical closeness from a man you love is worth more than an erection. In turn, the woman should still want to provide sexual pleasure for her husband. He may still enjoy oral sex on him or watching her pleasure herself, etc. Stay involved with one another physically and emotionally.

2006-07-03 13:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

I for one could live with that problem. If you really do love someone enough you can live without it. There are other ways to make one another happy. You can fill in the blanks where that is missing. You can also go to the doctor for help in most cases. But if that didn't work, so be it, find other means to please each other. And I don't mean by finding another man either. By the way, I am 49, so as just to let you know that I'm not a kid.

2006-07-03 13:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0 0

I personally would probably be bothered by it at first but get use to it, if love can be shown in other ways then nothing would change, and there are plenty of ways to spice up a sexual relationship without penetration.

2006-07-03 13:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 1 · 0 0

My husband was 20 when we had intercourse, and he was my first and only too, because i was a virgin, and then we got marry, and i've been with him for 7 years now, and he never lasted long, it was always really quick, but i didn't care, i still love him, and it never bothered me, but it always bothered him, because he thinks that i'm not happy with it, but i really don't care, thats not a priority in my life. So i'm still happy with him, as long as he's not cheating on me. And i do love him alot.

2006-07-03 14:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by lola 2 · 0 0

I was married for 20 yrs. my husband got sick for a while and we did not have sex for a long time. but when he got better he still could not get an erection. but he still loved me and I stayed with him till the day he died. Just because a man can not get and erection does not mean he can not make his mate feel sexually wanted and give her what she needs.

2006-07-03 13:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by liza 4 · 0 0

“WOW” I can I put this into words O.K. let me see! Ummmm, I have been married for twenty-six years sometimes he does have a problem, but it is all right with me. We have talked about WHAT IF he just could not perform any more well there is a few things a man can do to please his women #1 Oral sex # 2 Vibrator talk it over with your wife and see what she thinks.

2006-07-03 13:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0 0

Unless your hands and mouth are totally paralyzed there shouldn't be that big of a problem. She might feel guilty if you give her pleasure and she can not reciprocate. How good of a relationship did you have prior - that will be the real telling point.

2006-07-03 13:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by mdelechat 2 · 0 0

There are other ways to satisfy a woman's sexual desire with other parts of your body or with toys. If he wanted to, and was healthy enough for it, I'd be cool with medication to help with his ED.

2006-07-03 13:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0 0

I would not be all that upset. Penetration is nice, but not essential as long as we use a vibrator or a tongue. I sure wouldn't ruin my good thing by cheating, tho plenty of women would.

2006-07-03 13:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'd first find out if it could be taken care of medically. If not, I promised til death do us part.....and I meant it, and I'd stick by him without any cheating whatsoever. I'd do my best to keep him happy

2006-07-03 13:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by carol_n_chgo 1 · 0 0

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