iam 21 years old ..i am not married..and i need a plenty of time to work and make money to marry but what can i do in my sexual desire to supress it until my marriage knowing that it is forbiden to has sex or touch any women rather than my wife in my religion.
2006-07-03 13:30:50 · 37 answers · asked by mr.handsome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take lots of cold showers and if your religion allows it, make good friends with your hand.
2006-07-03 13:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you're a religious person, the first thing you should do is pray about it. God is the one, after all, who made us have those desires in the first place. Of course he intended it to be only for our spouses, but if you're not married yet, you don't really have a choice.
If touching yourself isn't forbidden, try that. It really is a quick and easy outlet for pent up sexual tension. If you're not allowed to do that, then tell God how you're feeling, and ask him to help you cope with the feelings. He is our strength when we don't have any, right? If you're too frustrated to pray, or you feel that he isn't answering you, the only other thing you can do besides take cold showers is to keep yourself busy. Occupy your mind with other things. Good luck!
2006-07-03 13:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, accept my admiration and respect for your principles. My suggestions, PRAY. Then think about the fact that if you found the right woman soon, it may be better to marry soon if she is a woman who will be a help instead of a hindrance to you. The right woman can save you money, work and help with your educational expenses- they used to call it getting a PHT degree, putting hubby through, and spending less time and money dating will help financially, and allow you to concentrate on your goals. My best to you. You are a fine young man. Hold to the right.
2006-07-03 13:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by choo-Choos Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really wanna do everything the right way you would just wait. But what I would like to know is are you a virgin? cause sex is really a mind ting if you don't think about it you wont really need it and when you do and start to feel weak find an activity to get your mind off of it. Like boxers they are told not to have have sex because of the adrenaline builds up makes their stamina better. so see if you can do it and if you really cant do it I suggest to call Hannah and her five sisters if you know what i mean.
2006-07-03 13:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by darknlovely9981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either have sex or stop thinking about not having sex! You can be abstinate and constantly think of sex. Whatever u choose to do to supress your desire is no less of a sin than to just have sex with a woman. So I would say---fing a woman u like and respect and have sex, instead of torturing yourself with thought of sin.
2006-07-03 13:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that lust is a form of greed - and greed = idolatry(1) ('shirk' if you're Muslim). So what you must do is occupy yourself with worshiping God. Offer your body as a living sacrifice to Him(2). Glorify Him and give thanks to Him(3). Put your hope in Him that your strength may be renewed(4). If you fall, confess to Him, that you may find forgiveness and cleansing(5). Trust in Him and what He has already done for you to redeem you from your sins(6). And you will find a clean heart and a new life(7).
May God bless you and keep you
2006-07-03 13:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say you just have to stay strong. If you truly believe in your religion and follow it then faith will take you there. You do need to make sure you don't rush into marrage when the time comes simply because of that desire.
2006-07-03 13:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just always remember to save yourself. today with all the media its hard and you may think that you have such strong sexual desires now, but if you chill for a minuet it will pass. honest to God, you dont need any of that, unlike most people are saying and unlike culture today will tell you, but you can and might realize that faith in God is all you need. right there with you sweetheart,pure till mariage. hard, but we hold ourself to a higher calling then most, just remeber that, and thats all you really need.
there are lots of girls out there that belive as we do, find one and become connected on a higher level then sexuality.
2006-07-03 13:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Colossians 3:5 - Deaden, therefor your body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite, hurtful desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry
It helped for me. stay chaste until your wedding night.
2006-07-03 13:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say pray for strength. Do other things like kiss, hug, cuddle. But I think that it is extremely important to find a woman that shares the same values and conviction that you do.
2006-07-03 13:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋