About a month ago I broke up with my boyfirend because he chated on me and now he is in jail and I still have stong feelings for him and I can't show them or let any one know about them bacuse they all tell me I have to get over him and I can't .. can someone please help me
2006-07-03 13:00:56 · 37 answers · asked by hershey_kiss_3000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is hard to get over somene when you love them deeply. I think maybe you need to talk to this guy, if that is possible, and tell him how you are feeling. See if he feels the same way and if he doesnt then maybe it is time to move on? If you cant see him in person, write hima letter. It might help....Trent
2006-07-03 13:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by City C 2 · 8⤊ 4⤋
It's not wrong, it's normal, to still have feelings for someone you have loved.
However... What you do with those feelings are up to you.
It sounds like he may be a loser, do you realy want a relationship with someone like that? You deserve so much more!!
You may need some time to grieve the end of the relationship, and you might need some counseling help.
Given the information here, it would appear that it is in your best interest to move on, and you can do it, but you will need a lot of support, love, care, and perhaps some counseling ... also a self determination NOT to go back into this relationship.
2006-07-03 13:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong 2 have feelings 4 him.
But saying that he's in jail so U'll have plenty of time 2 think about it.
He maybe just on the Lookout 4 a pen-pal/rooting 4 him on the outside/convenient girlfriend, while in the Stir.
Just Maybe.
2006-07-03 13:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong to have feelings for someone that hurt u especially if you have been with them for some time of course it will take time for u to get over him and to move on but that has to come in your own time when u feel its right for u since he's in jail pending what ever he's charges are u should really think if u want to stick by him or not because dealing with someone in jail isn't easy its alot of emotional work and stress so u have to decide on whats best for u not anyone else because only u know your true feelings
2006-07-03 13:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault. Your heart doens't do what your mind tells it. But sooner or later you must come to your senses and realize he isn't good for you because he cheated on you and is jail and you deserve so much more than that. Its hard to let go but pretty soon you will forget everything, and the pain won't be there anymore. :) then you can find someone who you love and who loves you and treats you right and ISNT in jail
:) hope i helped
2006-07-03 13:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by song no one singz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her being underage is a significant difficulty. And if it did not deter your chum at his age, then he's per chance residing in a delusion international, or he's lacking some scruples. If I were you, i'd be frank with him; and if he would not like it, say adios to him. This individual seems to have so a lot extra complications deep down that you're conscious of.
2016-11-30 05:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by leja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~~ the majority of the time the rule is "once a cheater always a cheater." my ex-husband cheated on me, the first time he got caught, he asked me to forgive him saying it would never happen again ... knowing statistics are not 100% i forgave him hoping he would be one of the few that was genuine in his appology, i don't regret giving him a 2nd chance, because i would have always wondered if he was sincere, now i know that he was not one of the few, and was able to let him go much easier knowing that. I still had feelings for him when i let him go, and it was still painful, but easier than if i had not given him that second time. Hope this helps~~
2006-07-03 13:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who tells you you can just "get over" somebody is nuts. Once you put a person into your heart, it's a kind of surgery to remove them. It's one of the hardest things we ever do as adults. The only way to succeed is to let your logical self be in control. Choose using your mind, not your heart. Love yourself to make these choices over and over again until your feelings subside. Big girls don't take abuse. Even though it is painful, this is a situation to step away from.
Praying for you,
~Tia~
2006-07-03 13:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone can make you get over someone or make you change your feelings but from experience I know the best thing for you to do is try your best to move on. You may never get over him or the fact that he did what he did to you but in time you will find that you still care about him but you dont want him. I dont know your certain circumstances but I do know that if he cheated on you and hes in jail for whatever reason, he must not be worth worrying about. Move on and find someone who will treat you with respect and themselves with respect and then you will know what its like to really care about someone
2006-07-03 13:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by flonehotmamacal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to have the feelings, but you already know without asking us that it's counterproductive to your well-being. if you're willing to be miserable and suffer from low self-esteem for the sake of loving this guy, then by all means stay with him.
Your friends and family care about you enough to steer you away from this guy so you can have the chance to find the one that will love you FOR REAL and not cheat on you and break whatever laws got him into his current situation.
2006-07-03 13:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First.... break your own heart! Then can you break others!!! He is a jerk now, men don't change... he will be a jerk forever. Trick, never be dependent on a man... and remember when you die, its a solo journey gal! So move on! Give the love that will be waiting in your future the chance to get inside your heart, leave go of this unworthy one.
2006-07-03 13:07:05 · answer #11 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋