2006-07-03 12:43:53 · 21 answers · asked by HeartsBreaker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is not mad of me or anything , she says that she doesnt like sharing beds
2006-07-03 12:47:41 · update #1
Put you foot down and let her know she is making you fell lonely. That is not right!!!
If you guys are married, cuddling is a mandatory thing to do!!
2006-07-03 12:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just because your wife wants to sleep in a separate bedroom doesn't mean she doesn't want anything to do with you. It also doesn't mean that she doesn't love you.
I know a lot of people who have separate rooms and they are happily married.
My husband and I are one of those couples. We always said that we would never sleep in separate beds let alone separate bedrooms but 5 years ago, he had sudden open heart surgery and when he came home from the hospital, we decided that it would be better for him to sleep in a different bed so that if I tossed and turned it didn't disturb or hurt him so he started sleeping in the spare room in a soft twin bed. He said that the small room with the soft bed made him feel safe, like he was in a cocoon. He got used to that bed and I like the firmer bed so we have just left it like that.
I still love him very much but we both get a food nights sleep and he comes to visit in my queen sized bed whenever he wants to so unless your wife has told you that she's not interested in you anymore, don't take offense. If she has made it clear that she wants nothing more to do with you, kiss her good bye and let her have her bedroom all to herself. Hope that's not the case, and I wish you all the luck in the world and a great night's sleep.
2006-07-03 12:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by nellie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats kind of weird...my husband and I love sharing the bed and cuddling while we sleep. I would talk to her about this because I don't think its normal to just decide to sleep in a seperate bedroom. (unless for like a medical reason) Why wouldn't she just get a seperate bed in the same room? Maybe somethings going on in there that you don't know about.
2006-07-03 12:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There has to be a reason why? My grandparents slept in seperate beds for years, they just couldn't sleep together because they both were bed hogs and tossed and turned. Also when my sister and I used to share a room she would snore and it would drive me insane. See if you can fix the problem (because there is obviously a problem) another way, like snore strips, or two seperate comforters, or a bigger bed. Something to solve the issue before it starts.
2006-07-03 12:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kay Eliz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some of those Breathe Right strips if it's because of snoring. Be sure you shower before coming to bed in case that's the reason. She may not want to hurt your feelings to tell you something like this. Ask her about the reason and tell her you want to make it right.
Here's a website that looks at the issue:
http://lovetranslated.com/role-reversal/separate-bedrooms/
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20050908
2006-07-03 12:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she wants to sleep in a separate bedroom, then why did she get married? It's more to this than she's telling, so ask her what's wrong? You could have continued to date if you just wanted to be with a warm body from time to time. Speak up, because this could lead to other issues you will not want to deal with if things don't change.
2006-07-03 12:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the first thing you should do is ask her why? then if it is your snoring,or she finds you unattractive,discuss the issue but without,arguing,find out her main reason for wanting to sleep by
herself,there's a certain age when women don't tolerate one's
touch or they don't like the way we smell ,or simply want the whole bed to themselves ,because is a small bed try getting a
kingsize bed,try been caring and ask her if she had a rough day
bring her flowers ,take her to her favorite restaurant,or try a marriage counselor as a last resource;,ask her if you must if she
likes someone else ,and ask yourself ,what am I doing wrong now that I didn't do before,persons fall in love but they also stop
loving ,but there's a reason behind it ,I hate to say it but she might
even have someone else, I 've been through that but it was because,we had both wanted it that way ,we made love and live a normal life but it was more comfortable to have a big bed to
myself and one to herself but in the same room, that's my opinion
I hope it helps
2006-07-03 13:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite a vagrant to stay with you. She should choose sleeping with you over the vagrant. And then, when the vagrant leave the other room will probably smell like booze/urine so your wife won't stay in there. Over time, she will get used to sleeping with you. It's a fool-proof plan.
P.S. if you have more than one spare bedroom, just invite more vagrants. You can find them at homeless shelters.
2006-07-03 12:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by flapstick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We do it on weekdays mainly because I have a different work schedule. She's up with the kids and I get home late at night when everyone's asleep. It's like having a visiting girlfriend on weekends.
2015-12-01 08:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you done something to her to make her want to sleep in a separate bedroom?
2006-07-03 12:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by devinshell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
offer to get rid of the bed you now have and put two smaller beds in your bedroom. some people can't sleep when someone else is in the bed.
2006-07-03 12:58:10 · answer #11 · answered by rockchalk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋