Its me again and thanks for everyones answers. they helped. But Im still stressin. Well first let me say two things. The sex is great. And the pillow talk afterward is even better. I like him a lot. Im already worried that he may not like me as much as he may like another girl in another relationship because of our race diffrences. (Im black. he's white). I'm only 21 so maybe I'm just naive.
He is so sweet and I dont what him to see me as this easy girl who has no integrity because really Im not like that. He makes me laugh and we click so well together but I m worried because he goes days without calling me. And then without warning he will call again. I want the kind of relationship where we can talk every day. I know his job keeps him busy and he travels every day but he can easily just pop out his cell phone and say something sweet. Whenever I confront him about this he says things He was busy and he doesnt even talk to his own family every day.
2006-07-03 12:40:11 · 16 answers · asked by Dazed and cONFUSED 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Its tough because the relationship is already in this direction. The only way is to stop the sex and get to talking. If he is still around without the sex,there is a chance.Good Luck(Ive been there).
2006-07-03 12:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that I am sorry that you are going through a tough time with the guy of your choice. Matters of the heart is never an easy thing. I think that you need to sit down with yourself and make some hard core decisions. For example, are you okay with just being a friend with some sexual benefits? Can you handle sharing this man with other women? Are you okay with your feelings being greater than his? How would you feel if the feelings are not mutual? Are you okay with just great sex with no relationship? If you know that you can't do all or any of these things, then maybe it is time to let go and move on. Don't ever be in a situation where you are compromising your feelings, body, self-worth, or emotions. The strain and after effects are just not worth it.
If I were you, I would invite him over and have an open discussion. Put your feelings on the line. Let him know exactly how you feel about him. Find out where he stands. Maybe you two just aren't communicating properly. Once he finds out, who knows. But prepare yourself for either way. Life is too short for guessing games.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-03 12:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by nubuqu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like Christa-Hear's answer. How long have you been seeing this guy? If he treats you nice when you are together, and you both enjoy each other's company, I think it could grow into something more. It happened for me but it took a while. Some guys are just not the kind to make commitments because they are busy & don't want to break promises. How old is he? I think it might be a good idea to tell him how you feel, but not in a demanding way. Just let him know you want to keep seeing him but you'd like to know if he does consider you just a "booty call" . When I told my guy he made me feel that way, he started trying harder to stay in touch & let me know when he was going to be busy, & was even sweeter to me when we're together.
2006-07-03 12:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by justplaying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you've had a wonderful time enjoying his company, and physically he pleases you but you want more than just a sexual relationship. Tell him that you understand that he is a busy man, but you really do care for him and you want to know if there's any possibility he might be willing to give something a little more meaningful a try.
Yes, there is a possibility that bringing this up will put an end to your sexual relationship. But is not better to lose someone than to only have half of them? He may not be looking for a relationship ... but its better for you to find out sooner than later ... so you can begin to move on and eventually find someone who appreciates all of you.
2006-07-03 12:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by ♦Hollywood's Finest♦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE'S JUST NOT INTO YOU LIKE THAT!!!!
Answer a booty call even once and you have lost your chance to ever have " more than that" with that guy. You were playing without knowing the rules.
Sorry. I hope you learn your lesson this time. Some repeat this mistake their entire lives. You must move on (and the faster the better) and don't ever look back.
2006-07-03 12:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted a real relationship you shouldn't have been a booty call from the start
2006-07-03 12:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not want to hear this, but tell him how you really feel. It could go either way. Nobody likes rejection but at least you'll know where you stand. Until then, "NO MORE BOOTY"!
2006-07-03 12:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by NAINALUVS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy. Let it go. If you hound and nag him he will begin to believe you are a nag and will only get worse and then he will melt away like the snow in spring. Trust comes to mind.
2006-07-03 12:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling, you are a booty call.... i am so sorry.... enjoy yourself, give yourself distance from him, especially emotionally... he might fall in love with you then, because it is always the women who can keep themselves a little seperate that interest us the most.... but don't put your hopes on that.... protect yourself and your heart and keep your eyes open for something better, more true to come along.
2006-07-03 12:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by nimkiw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could very well be true some guys are just like that.
if you want more than a relationship then you have to start off by not giving it up too soon.
2006-07-03 12:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋