i love her to piece but i was such a little player before and she completed all my needs but i find my wondering eyes moving more often the problem is controling the ideal hand, i guess the good thing is i put on a few pound since i have been with her so it wont be so easy, but really how do i control my thoughts so they dont turn into actions
2006-07-03 12:37:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's just about being faithful to the one you care for. If you cheat on her how will that make her feel? Really bad, duh. So put yourself in her shoes. How would you like it to be cheated on? Think about the feelings you share. And if you don't have those feelings anymore then you should break up with her before moving on with someone else, you can at least do that. Cheating on someone is a choice you make. So make a different choice.
2006-07-03 13:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 9⤊ 1⤋
If you really love her and seriously found the perfect relationship don't ruin it just because of your lust or for looking to other girls.
I've been in the exact situation like yourself, I used to experience the (Ideal) relationship with a great guy, we loved each other and we were together for 5 years, when I was 15 till I became 20!
But I destroyed it all, just because I thought of looking for other guys and thought of it as a kind of CHANGE!
I was so damn stupid, now I regret it all for ruining my one and only relationship that I've found true love in it and the only guy I've ever loved.
Please don't repeat the stupid mistake I did previously. It's not worth it to ruin your stable relationship just because you can't control yourself or what something new!
Wishing you all the best of luck dear! :)
2006-07-04 19:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are a jerk, but you'll be a bigger one if she finds out
and leaves you. The worst thing is having the right person by
your side, not knowing how the treat her and then losing her
over some stupidity. If that happens, you will never find out
the many blessings that life handed to you and you missed out.
2006-07-03 19:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by EVEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to look, we all look(just dont let her see u!). If u really love her then u will be able to control ur hands! Every time u want to touch just remember how much u will hurt her and ask urself if it would b worth it, the answers probably no!
2006-07-03 19:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by bobatemydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with looking and you can't help what you think, what makes you ACT on that makes you a cheaer. don't you think SHES checking out other guys? it sucks but if your really in love you have to accept somethings are just human. the best thing is to keep it under check while your with her. a quick glance probably wont piss her off but she will be if your constantly ogling. remember, thinking and looking is fine, respect your relationship and don't touch. peace and good luck!
Vin
2006-07-03 19:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a jerk, you are human. But it sounds like you are not ready for a serious commitment right now. Maybe you should consider that before someone gets hurt.
2006-07-03 19:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by alessa_sunderland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's fine to look. Looking and fantasizing are a part of life and being human. If you really love her and she wants you to be monogamous, then you just have to do it. If you still can't help it, maybe she isn't satisfying you as much as you think. Or maybe you weren't meant to be monogamous.
2006-07-04 03:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're nor a jerk for looking.
As for touching, I guess it really depends. Is this an open relationship? And if not, would you be willing to try to make it one? Or, just don't touch.
2006-07-03 19:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by jill45690 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a jerk, BUT........ I think you should have more respect for her. I hope she doesn't catch you, cuz when I catch mine she get's this look, "Like I wanna just slap your eyes straight" When she laughs and giggles I know she was looking
2006-07-03 19:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mirna L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were true love u wouldnt be looking for anyone else
is there summat mising from the relationship ur in?
2006-07-04 08:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by playboy_bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋