She has had problems with her husband for at least 2 years. She stays because they have two young kids. and he has said that he would want custody only to piss her off. Tonight how ever, he went to leave their house and she was getting a chair out of the trunk and he tried to back up over her. Their kids were in the van and saw the whole thing. They don't understand but he of course lied and said if I wanted to do that I would have stepped harder on the gas.
2006-07-03 12:08:21 · 17 answers · asked by hljones1169 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that is real scary.. really, if they are breaking up, she better get her head on straight, that is not funny,not even, report this to police, attorney family, and
let him be aware of this, so he may back off,,
Tell her do not keep this quiet or any abusive behavior, and let her attorney know, this is good reason for him to never get child custody,,
ALSO DO NOT ANTAGONIZE HIM EITHER, BE CIVIL, BUT GET BUSY BEING CAREFUL,,
people kill people all the time, and if her husband lost feelinigs for her or hates her, anything can happen, HE CAN JUSTIFY IN HIS MIND THAT HE IS RIGHT AT ANY COST,, SHE MUST BE SMART, CAUTIOUS AT ALL TIMES, AND GET AWAY FROM HIM ASAP
Be her friend, and support her in issues to discuss, but tell her be careful and don't take anything for granted (like he would never hurt me, or kill me) Huh.
you never know, it may start off kidding, or small, but dead is dead,, tell her to get away from him as soon as possible and be careful, document everything and you do othe same, of what you know,,,i am glad she has a friend like you
somehow let him know that she has people who care for her, and will not stand by and let any harm come to her, and even report this to the police, to they have an indication of potential danger, and harm,,
2006-07-03 12:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
get hold of an attorney pronto, this guys flipped out and no good will come out of waiting, and file an immediate injunction against him for protection for her and the kids as there may be no next time and file for divorce under the grounds of spousal endangerment and/or unusual punishment, but tell the judge she fears greatly for her life and her kids. This guy is a danger to society and should be put in a mental hospital good luck
2006-07-03 19:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly i feel that you should confront this person n tell him a few words from your mind. N if he feelz that u approached him to start problemz ,then juz say im here to talk to u. Atleast try to find out what has been going b4 all this happened? Why would he do this? Just dont jump into conclusion because that is just going to make the situation worst. So juz think b4 u react to the whole thing.
_~*stephy*~_
2006-07-03 19:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Stephy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything you say is true:
call the cops and get a restraining order for mom and the kids - it's not a game.
get the court to deny visitation, and get the kids into therapy, because the man is obviously unstable and manipulative, and doesn't really care about the kids' well-being
2006-07-03 19:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to Get a Divorce, She needs to go to court for Custody... and Make sure she has a good job, and A home., that the court will reward her custody, Full or Him on weekends or figuring out some kind of time with their father/mother. she needs to think of how her life may end.., the next time he will hit the gas.., and run her over and appoligise to the kids and say how it was a tragity and he will win.., She needs to get him out of her life.. but not the childrens life. She needs to find her self happiness before she ruins her life. she isnt setting a good example for her children., , right now she is teaching them. to stay with the person they dont love to keep their children happy., You need to build love not hate to stay forever. You will just get them to want to marry under unhappiness, and they will make their lives miserable just to save the welfare of their children. Keep their relashionship healthy.. but not her life with that man. that is whats important. and let the authorities know.
2006-07-03 19:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her: Run now, argue later. Take the kids. If you can't do that honestly, then do it dishonestly but get yourself gone. Go straight to the police station. Whether or not you file a complaint is your business, but they will know where to send you for shelter, and he will know the police are now involved. It does wonders for calming a bully.
2006-07-03 19:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Fred S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes fabricating the event. No witnesses except the kids she's coached? Why is she so sure he'll get custody? That's not the norm. She's hiding something.
2006-07-03 19:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by tex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sh needs to have her husband arrested for at very least assault and battery, if not worse, and then figure out what to do to ensure her safety for the longer term. She should arrange things legally so that she and the children live separately from him, he has no access to them, and he does not even know where they are.
May God bless her
2006-07-03 19:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is abusive and she should take the kids and go to a shelter for abused women. Or go to live with a relative or something. Those children are having to see and hear his behavior and that is bad for them. Good luck.
2006-07-03 19:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Catfishchic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell her to file a report. 2. she could get divorced and offer that as evidence of unfit parent hood to gain custody of her children. 3. call the po-pos and report attempted murder/assult
2006-07-03 19:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by rkjackal02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋