Am I true to Myself?

Question

Alot of bad things of happened to me and my automatic responce is to forget it and smile and pretend everything is ok-- am i just thinking positive or am i avoidng?--- I dont show how i really feel i just smile and laugh to much and no one realizes its not me-- am i just a good actress or a good lier??-- plz tell me what you think thank u so much

I do tell people what I think aboiut them i find that easy but i find tlking about the bad things that happen in my life not easy coz i dont liked tlkin about bad things about me coz i find it akward do i just smile all the time

I am honest in say in tellin ppl hwo i feel bout things exept my self coz its not wat i am used to i am used to ingoring things and i cant make my self adjust and change

Answer 1

Well you're not necessarily a liar you know?It's just that you are not bieng true to yourself that's what the problem is.You have to face reality sooner or later you can't keep on going on like this fooling yourself and everything.You have to face reality.Life is really difficult and rough just learn to face it.I used to do the same thing always fooling myself and pretending.But then as time passed by I realized that I had to get myself together and face reality or else it would be really hard for me later on and in the real world.So basically what I'm trying to tell you is that get yourself together and learn to face reality.I know it's going to be painful and really hard so what you gotta do is just follow my advice and trust me it really helps.In a way you are doing both because you are trying to think positive be pretending and fooling your self.And then you are avoiding because you're avoiding your problems and keep on running away from them and hiding from them.But trust me I've tried it too running away from it is not going to help you you know.Like I said earlier learn to face reality as hard as it may sound or else those same problems are going to be with you for the rest of your life to always remind you,haunt you,and intrigue you.And what you're doing and it won't help you.Best of Luck.

Answer 2

Be honest about the things that you think are important. Most of us don't make an issue about trivial things, otherwise we would be arguing with people all the time. If you are not honest, you won't know yourself and neither will other people know the real you. Your character will not develop because there is no feedback from other people regarding your opinions and behaviour. I think you want to please people too much and are afraid of presenting the real you. This sort of approach isn't healthy, you are likely to lose your temper from time to time out of frustration because you will have bottled up too much. This will confuse people and, it will make it difficult for you to maintain relationships. You maybe a little depressed, because that can make you appear passive. You have a lot of pent up emotion, I think you need someone to confide in. How long have you been like this?

Answer 3

No you are not true to yourself, however no one else is either.
The reason being is because we live in an uncomfortable world, with imaginable pressures,why everyone will tell you to get a job however if we choose not to, we would feel left out later in life because other people have what the sacrificed for and that sacrifice was freedom to live according to our nature

the moral of this is we must "Live and let Live" be our philosophy because we no longer have that freedom and we will surely go crazy

Bad thing happen to good people and bad things can happen at any time, but I don't talk about the bad things in my life, that's my closet MINE, what has happened yesterday I can not change, but today I can change how I feel if nothing else, if it helps trying talking to yourself about it sometimes that helps.

Answer 4

Well you are are both a good actress and a good liar but for a noble reason, it seems to me you don't want to bother others with your problems and you keep a stiff upper lip. I don't think you have it all wrong but there are some things you need to get right....anyone that has had a bad experience might be better off talking about it sometimes and hey what better place to chat than online if you want to keep your identity to yourself! (obviously you don't talk to anyone but someone you think will be a good listener and is interested in your conversation.) I felt down over things and it does help to talk things out and then when you put that optimistic smile out there you will feel happy too.

Answer 5

You are being true to yourself. Your experiences have made you the person you are but the person you are is not constant. If you wake tomorrow and say okay what's happend in the past is in the past and from now on in, I am a different person and I will react differently then you will become a different person from the person you were yesterday. Bottling up your negative feelings is not good. If you're not comfortable talking to friends- try family members, advice groups or even Online advice groups but just find a way to express what you feel.

Answer 6

Have you ever read Gone with the Wind ? Scarlett O'Hara is the only successful, amazing, breath taking character in the entire novel and her mantra - her entire principle to live by is " I wont think about it now, Ill think about it tomorrow". I know thats a fictional book, but your question was categorized in philosophy. So I think that at times it is very advisable to forget the trivial or even huge problems and live to see the nect day with them pushed to the back of your mind, until the time comes when you HAVE to solve them...
Its a great defense mechanism - NOT everyone can do it.

Answer 7

To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether it's by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know that one life breathed easier because you have lived...is to have succeeded.


i think its good for u to pretend once in a while.

Answer 8

Tough one that...maybe take some time to go away by yourself and have a think about what's going on. Work out what pisses you off and what makes you laugh. Try and decide what's important to you...popularity or being painfully honest. It's not an easy one that...and you're not alone. Try talking it through with someone close too...sorry that all sounds waffly!

Answer 9

being true to yourself is a luxury not many can afford if they want to live in harmony with others. sounds as if you are forgetting what you yourself want and putting other people before yourself. you have to remember that you have as much right as anyone else to be happy.
when bad things happen and you know the right thing to do, just do it. if you are not sure of the right thing to do, then procrastinate and do nothing until the answer comes to you, or it works itself out by itself. when in doubt, do nowt. nothing wrong with keeping smiling, find someone you can email or talk to in order to get things out of your system. everyone needs a good rant sometimes and a friend who understands you unconditionally.

Answer 10

We are in fact not.

Only a finger counted in this globe are or been true to themselves.
Like Mother Terressa, Pope, Gandhi or Nelson Mandela.

Life rolls on and everyone of us is a good actor in our own life drama, some do it privately some in public. We ought to be good actor or actress otherwise time will throw us out.

In fact the question if we have "Am I true to myself ?" is good enough as realisation of human being let alone be or not. And We can try, to be, to our utmost.