2006-07-03 11:38:48 · 35 answers · asked by muffin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do guys like this do this....They give us guys a bad wrap. Sleeping around on they're wife.
Your choices are
a. Abortion . in which case the man gets away with the world and has no strings attached. Way to go man.
b. Keep the baby. You have a baby with no father figure because I am certain he probably doesn't give a damn and will just sleep with someone else and get them pregnant.
A wise woman told me this.
Men cheat to cheat....Women cheat because something is missing.
2006-07-03 11:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by aagman_lives 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please keep the child. The child is the result of your irresponsibility, as well as the married guys behavior. The child did not ask either of you to act in the manner that you acted in, but does deserve a chance at life. If you are unable to care for the child properly, you need to get the guy to take responsibility, and when he tells you he wants you to abort put it back in his face. He knew the risks, just as well as you did. You both had unprotected sex, and acted only on your immediate satisfaction, being irresponsible. If he isn't willing to do anything, please give the child up for adoption. Your unborn child could be the person that finds a cure for AIDS or cancer or something else important in life. I suggest that you keep away from this guy also. Please notice that I have not referred to him as a man, and that is solely due to the fact that he cared very little about you, and even less about his marriage and his family. His behavior is that of a boy and he doesn't deserve the title of being called a man. I don't mean to sound like I am attacking you, but so may people today make the mistake of premarital and extramarital affairs, and when a pregnancy occurs, the unborn child is the one that pays the ultimate price, and the people usually repeat the behavior without a thought. Please have more respect for yourself, and for life in general. Keep the child alive, and stop the affair.
2006-07-03 11:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the child, if you do not want the child, give it up for adoption. Abortion is killing a living being. Period. Killing! not ne thing else neones tells u. if you think the child will have a hard or unhappy life with u or you wont be the best mother you can for this child, give him or her up for adoption. a child is 18 years of stress, worry, love, and care this is a serious decision, but abortion should NOT be an option. so many ppl out there would love a child and cannot have one. count your blessings and decide. but do not consider abortion any further is a KILLING, fetus's can fell and know pain and thats abuse, murder, and a heartless selfish person that says yes to abortions.
2006-07-03 11:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by horseluvr215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a abortion, that man is a player. he is a maried man for god sake women. are you isane. why would you do sex with a married man. first decide if you can handle a child, if not put that baby for adoption if you can handle a child then have your abortion and keep the child. the court will go to your side if you got the right info. it isn't like you knew he was married. if you did know about that then you are so not gonna win the court. i know trust me. next time be care ful and choose the right man before you decide to do sex. unless you want to go though all that again. go get a lawer to help you with that abortion papers. see ya wouldn't want to be ya. sory for saying that buts its the truth. deal with it. it is the real world you know not an made up world created by a five year old. got it. god bless you.
2006-07-03 11:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to take a life of a small child. Just because you made a mistake with a married man doesn't mean you need to do away with this child. If you can't afford to take care of him/her, then put him/her up for adoption. You know, this man would also be responsible for child support. Go to Community Counseling and talk with someone there to help you make the right choices. Good luck
2006-07-03 11:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, eventhough the father is married, it is still YOUR child. If you care about your child and have the money to raise him, so do it. However if you are not ready, i believe you should become a surrogate mother for a couple that is desperately needed for a child.
Don't make a fast decision, talk to the so called father. See what he thinks. Yet don't have an abortion even if he recommends it. I
2006-07-03 11:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by paulayadel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only God can give life! He gave you life for a purpose, regardless of the choices you've made. Abortion is not the answer! Abortion - are you able to handle the guilt that will follow (mental anguish, seeing a child and the remainder of your life wonder what he/she would be like)?
Adoption - an option - my daughter in law is a doll and she's unable to have children.
Keep the child - it will be a struggle - but seek God and he will strengthen you and give you the endurance to raise, who knows, a doctor, lawyer, president, preacher and the list goes on. I'll keep you in my prayers my Sister. God bless!
2006-07-03 14:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by Matured One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should spend the time that you are pregnant to get an education and hopefully your child will be able to spell and phrase a sentence above the third grade level that you're at. It's pretty bad when yahoo answers has a spellchecker and you're not even smart enough to use it, or should I have said " yous it"? Keep the child and dump the man! Get an education! Get a life!
2006-07-03 11:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by I'manalienfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have an abortion, you are old enough to know what you were getting in to, if you don't want the child, give up for adoption, plenty of people out there who would love to have a baby!
2006-07-03 11:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by silver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that decision for yourself, but if it were me, I'd have the abortion. Being a parent is hard enough with two of you, let alone trying to be a single parent, and it's not a good life for the kid. And while I don't know your situation I suspect the odds of him leaving his wife for you are poor: even if he says he will, it's not a done deal until he's divorced her and married you, and meanwhile you're the one who's pregnant. Frankly you'd probably even have to fight to get child support.
2006-07-03 11:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋