ok my lil sis is pregnant and 12 years old how should she tell my mom?

Question

please help its not me

Answer 1

you need to tell your mom right away your sister needs medical help immediatly at her age pregnancy could kill her!!!

Answer 2

If she's only 12, and she's missed a period, she may not really be pregnant. At least buy her an 'EPT' from the drugstore, to be kinda sure. Girls that age miss periods for a lot of reasons, and not usually from being pregnant. I'm a 55 year old mom, and my daughter was pregnant at 18, so I kinda know about this subject. If you and she determine that she is really, really pregnant, I would enlist the help of at least one other female adult to sit down with you and your sister and your mom, and break it to her gently. When she's done wailing, then discuss who the father is, what clinic can your sister go to, and any other options your family supports. I'm a pro-life woman, but 12 years old is wayyyyy too young to be pregnant, let alone be a responsible parent. Adoption is something to consider, if your sister is deemed to be physically able to carry a child to full term. When this is all over.....sex education and birth control options need to be strongly addressed. This isn't the end of the world...just a matter of poor judgement, as well as a lack of parental guidance. How can we expect children to act like adults, when adults act like children? Hope this helps. Good Luck, hon.

Answer 3

There is no easy way to tell your mom tht kinda stuff hell i was 19 when i got pregnant and it was even hard then..but she needs to tell them and if you 2 are good friends as well as siblings it would prolly be a good idea to be there when she does tell..she needs to tell as soon as possible because of her health and the babies health..I am not gonna be the one to say 12 OMG its the 20th century and she is not like the 1st 12 yr old to get pregnant in the world....there have been many and some cases the baby survives in others they dont but she needs the medical attention soon and also i would like to add if the doc says the baby will make it dont abort there are families out there who like to have a baby or if she wants to keep it and be a student and a mom more power to her...I want to say to the one with the name n2jesus if you were actually n2jesus you would not have called the gurl a *****....U wouldnt have judged ...sorry so long!!

Answer 4

well, honey, you need to tell someone . Her at 12, she isn't fully developed more than likely , and it could have some risk factors.So Ive been told. SHe just needs to tell her that she knows it was a big mistake, but what is done is done, and that she needs her mothers support if not for her, for the baby. She will probably start morning sickness soon. And not long she will be showing. Are you sure she is pregnant? Some tests can be faulty. You may want to take her to have some blood work done, but you will prolly need an adult for that. I might would go to your church or a local church and tell the pastor there what happen, well she needs to tell him what happend and maybe they will be there when she tells you mom. I wish you both the best of luck. Aunte. Good luck, and I am praying for you. May God bless mom, aunte, and child.

Answer 5

First be sure your little sister is in fact pregnant. At this young age all sorts of irregularities can occur with her period--flow, duration, regularity. Have her take a home test and interpret the results with her.

Ask your little sister the specifics of who, what, where etc. Then go with her while she tells your mom. You make sure mom is in a receptive mood and isn't likely to be distracted by a meeting or something. Then sit down and (this is important) you need to let your sister do the telling. She needs to stand up to what she's done, and this is going to probably be the toughest of the issues she's going to have to deal with over this pregnancy. Only step in if in the emotions of the moment either your sister miscommunicates or your mom misunderstands some aspect of what your sister is trying to say. Don't put off telling your mom, she'll only feel worse that your sister didn't come to her sooner.

Answer 6

she's just going to have to tell her. There is no easy way to do so. I will say that I am about to have a daughter, and I would rather her tell me sooner than later so I can take her to the dr and let her know I still love her so she doesn't have to sit in agony wondering what my reaction would be for a long time. Your mom will probably be mad at first, but she will still love your sister, and you will always be there to support her. Maybe your sister would find it easier if you told your mom while she was sitting there.

It will be hard, but it will have to be done. She needs some serious prenatal care and needs to go to the dr asap, so do it soon, otherwise both she and the baby could have some major problems.

Answer 7

Tell "Your Sister"There are MILLIONS of good families willing to adopt...DO NOT "KILL" the child!!It is a LIVING BEING AS OF NOW!!!!Tell your Mother-She will be hurt but she will know what to do..ANY Hospital,Firestation will accept a BABY with NO QUESTIONS!!! AS for the ASSHOLE that got you pregnant,if he is over age I hope your Mom has him thrown in jail!!! If you do keep it(IDK your situation or how your MOM is but..)My sister had a boy at thirteen and she did not raise him well at all without help but they now have a gr8 relationship!I wish you all the best just remember thatGod never gives you anything you cannot handle and I hope you realize that you are too young to have a child and you were "WAY"too young to be having sex yet!!!!!!Good Luck and God Bless!!!

Answer 8

your mom will appreaciate the fact you (or ur sis in the best case) came to her, that u trusted her. Tell your sister to be mature about it and to accept whatever your mum says. Dont let her whine or be stubborn or say its my life stuff you or something like that. your sister needs to take resposibility and accept that what she did was wrong (and that the bloke was wrong too) even if shes "in love" or "really wants it" she should take on board what her mom says. she needs to talk about it with her mom, how much help will she have can she afford it will she quit school thees sorts of thinmgs need to be addressed and chances are when u first tell mum she wont wont to talk about thees things straight away. she will feel hurt and let down at first because shell think she "let" this happen to her baby girl. after ur mum has gone off and calmed down then she can talk rationally but tell ur sis to let ur mom go off and not argue back, let ur mom get it out, she does deserve it really. and being the mature person she thinks she is by having sex she should understand that she needs to let her mum go thru this, mum will basically be mourning ur sis's loss of childhood. and remember ur mum has had more then one child she knows what having children is about so when she says this will be hard u may not be able to cope dont let ur sis say yes i can what would u know.. etc cos that would be stupid. hope i helped and tell her asap.. its important.

Answer 9

Calm down. Thats the first thing 2 do. Now if their is not another adult like an aunt, cousin family friend that can be their for support you just have to sit her down and tell her. If you and your sister are to scared talk to a counsler first who may be willing to help you approach your mother with the subject. You have to tell her that is the most important thing for your sisters health. By her being so young she needs to get to the doctor just to confirm the pregnancy and to make sure she dosen't have any stds. Your mom might get upset but remember she loves you shes just freaking out.

Answer 10

Imediately, A pregnancy for a child of that age can be really hazerdous for both the child and the baby. It can even kill the 12 yr old girl as her body may not be ready to cary the child to term, and the baby will in 99% of the cases not survive.

If this is your little sister Make her tell your mom and dad or tell them yourself, she needs to go to a doctor.... NOW!!!!

Answer 11

dont tell your mom at the dinner table. tell your mom when she is in a good mood. Dont blurt it out, talk calmly. What my brother did to tell me mom that his girlfriend was having a kid was, "Mom, you are going to be a grandmother." I'm sure your mom loves you and your sister unconditionally, and I think that your mom would be very willing to consider the options available for your sister. But that is not something you can hide. She will eventually start showing. The sooner your mom knows, the better, because your sister can begin to receive the proper care.