Do you believein the notion that absence makes the heart grow fonder?

Question

Or do people just drift away?

Answer 1

No, I don't believe in the notion.

Answer 2

Absence can make the heart grow fonder in some cases: as you look forward to the partner returning and all you have missed for the period apart!!

But there are at least two other notions to worry about in the same vein:-

'Out of sight: Out of mind'!!

&

'While the cat's away: The mouse will play'!!

It all depends on the 'Individual', and what relationship that individual has with his or her partner!! I would like to think in a perfect world: Yes, absence does make the heart grow fonder: and it is all sweetness and light!!

But sadly this is not a perfect world... and the other two notions come into play, oh to frequently!!

Answer 3

when i first met my current partner i was married to someone else. we knew from the first that there was something special between us - but i was not unhappy in my marriage, and i had children.

my marriage lasted almost twenty more years. i stayed in touch with the girl i liked so much, though we could see each other only rarely. she seemed a wonderful woman. but it did cross my mind that perhaps it is easier to like someone you don't see every day (or sometimes not for a whole year).

when my marriage eventually broke down i slowly drifted back to the best friend i had had for two decades. i wondered if moving in together would be the end of us - we were so comfortable with seeing each other only for days once or twice a year.

we have been together for six years now. i am happy than i ever dreamed possible (even when my very passable marriage was working well). the girl is perfect in every possible respect (and some i never thought of).

'absence makes the heart grow fonder' is for wimps.

Answer 4

If you truly care about someone, absence does make the heart grow fonder. If it's just a surface relationship, then you will drift apart.

Answer 5

Both. Depending on the persons involved and the nature and/or strength of the relationship. Absence can make you miss a person more or it can cause people to "drift away."

Simple answer: Yes, I do believe this notion.

Answer 6

Depends on the person and the situation. When my man leaves for work in the morning, I miss him immediately and cannot wait to see him at night. (and we've been together a long time). I have female friends I haven't seen for years, yet I know that if I need them, they are there for me. Others who were/are just casual acquaintances, you just seem to drift apart as time goes on, but it's never hard to catch up. A REAL friend is a friend forever.

Answer 7

Hunni there is no real answer to this as we dont know everyone in this wworld coz everyone is different some ppl miss someone and wont them more some ppl realize that lliving ewith out it is better and the love disapoers so they drift away so it depends love is somthing that cannot be pretcited that is my view on it - its 50 -50 i hope that helped- email me and IM me anytime u like --- [e-mail]

Answer 8

No. I am married, and i love my wife. However she goes away for 6 months of the year to her home country [3 x 2 months]. I miss her when she goes, but i adapt well, and i miss my single life when she comes back. But she is a great woman

Answer 9

No. I believe that absence makes the heart grow desperate.

Answer 10

Sometimes. I get on better with my Dad now I don't see him very often...I think that, as long as you know the absence is only temporary, it could work...but then, some people imagine so much they are disappointed when they do meet again...

Answer 11

If you are really interested in the answer I suggest you read any of John Bowlby books,

"Making and Breaking of Affectional Bonds" is a good place to start.