2006-07-03 10:38:52 · 54 answers · asked by Oreo S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He does love me and doesn't want to be a father he wants me to use the pill. He says if it does happen he'll marry me and everything. We love each other and everything. He really does care
2006-07-03 10:56:21 · update #1
If he is not concerned about pregnancy then he is not worth keeping.
2006-07-03 10:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's see...... don't have sex unless you are ready for a little one. You don't say how old you are. If you are young, then move on, how can you trust someone that wont use a condom , have you asked why? is he trying to get you pregnant. If you are an adult, then again don't have sex until he agrees to a condom or commits, trust doesn't mean squat if you become pregnant-- he might just be out the door. know what you are doing before you jump into anything. there are more fish in the sea.
2006-07-03 10:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of answers to this question.
First, you could abstain. Abstinance leads to the fewest cases of pregnancy, for some reason.
If you believe in contraceptives, like most people, a few options would be the pill, the shot, and the patch.
The pill needs to be taken daily, and has the highest potential of "accidently missing one", which can have very negative baby-like side effects.
The patch is the okay, however reports are that it slips.
The shot is most effective. New shots are out that, unlike older versions of the shot, do not reduce your bone density, which leads to ostioperosis.
Talk to your doctor to find out which one is best for you.
2006-07-03 10:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Shane M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to be tested for STDs - even if hedoesn't have symptoms he could have something which he could pass on to you. Are you in a long term relationship - you really need to be sure he isn't having sex with anyone else. If you are not happy about having sex without a condom then don't - even if that means you using a femidom. And most importantly make sure you have some type of birth control - that old "i'll pull out before i ***" thing doesn't work. Enjoy yourself
2006-07-03 10:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by laura_mcfall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you love your boyfriend, but the fact that he doesn't want to use protection is a lack of respect for you. If he can't respect your wishes then you may want to ask yourself why. Why is it so important that he not use a condom when you want the protection? It may also show you how he will handle later situtations. Will he respect your wishes then, perhaps when something even more important comes up? One sided relationships are dangerous and if you find that you're constantly giving, then you may want to think about ending it, hard as that may be.
2006-07-03 10:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm lucky, my girlfriend had a historectomy and we can make love condom-free. But I've had plenty of experience with your situation (I'm 52 years old, male) and I think there are two answers. First, invest in the latest, Japanese-brand condoms, which are so thin you hardly notice them. Second, if he still resists, develop amazing ways to help him come outside you, and if you can do this, he'll be so grateful that you can change his mind about the condoms.
2006-07-03 10:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't use a condom that he better start looking for a different sex partner! Do NOT under any circumstance allow him to talk you into having unprotected sex!!!!Now days , its more then worrying about unwanted pregnancies. IT IS YOUR life that is at risk and his too. There are way too many STD's that are fatal to deal with and if you love him as you say , you do. Don't you want to protect him so that you may one day build a happy life together? Think about it!!! NO CONDOM, NO SEX!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-03 10:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Maggi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is find someone that cares about you! You can get on the pill to avoid getting pregnant, but, you risk you life with some of the sexually transmitted diseases (STD's) going around. This is a selfish guy! No condoms = no sex !
2006-07-03 10:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Condoms are for more than preventing pregnancy. By declining to practice safe sex, he is showing a lack of concern for you.
Your trust is not the issue - stds remain contagious for a very long time and can cause terrible lifelong illness, sterility, even death. I say "no glove, no love!"
As far as pregnancy is concerned, it is best to use condoms with spermicidal foam. Neither foam nor condoms alone are as effective. Spermicidal foam does not protect against STDs.
2006-07-03 10:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Stephiony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't want to wear a condom then you aren't having sex. Condoms prevent std's as well as pregnancy - so unless you are both adults and ready for the possibility of a baby I would recommend using protection. If you are both monogomous and you are on birth control then it's up to you if you feel comfortable not using a condom.
2006-07-03 10:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known this guy? He's a fool if he doesn't want to use a condom this is 2006 better safe than sorry. Make him wear one or find another boyfriend who's smarter than that weirdo. Seriously whats wrong with him?
2006-07-03 10:46:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋