We've been dating for 5 years now, it's been a rocky relationship but I'm sure I want to marry him. Description: It's a gold band (I want a platinum band) There are 7 tiny diamonds inscrusted that form a circle (I want a big rock, not huge or anything but something nicer, this is really really tiny) What can I say so that I don't hurt his feelings?? I've had the ring for about a year now but I haven't said anything because I don't know if I should. Should I ask for an upgrade?
2006-07-03 10:37:32 · 14 answers · asked by ex-unhappy fiance 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats mean stop being a brat.. ANd take what you got. YOur lucky to even have one..
2006-07-03 10:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh my goodness, what in the world would you even ask such a question for. If I had carefully choosen a ring based on how much I could afford (and trust me he couldn't really even afford the one you got) and I was told that it's not what she wanted, I would siply assume that you were not only talking about the ring but also about the relationship.
I want a rock? And women complain when we say we want a "barbie doll girlfriend" or a little oral. You should be ashamed of yourself. if you truely loved him, the ring would represent the love you had for him and he for you; and not something that you could show off to your friends at the tuperware party.
I'm sure you're a nice girl and all that stuff, but if this is how you feel, you are being selfish.
*end parent mode rant*
and if you do get married to this guy, remember this one thing:
LOVE GROWS BETTER IN A SMALL HOUSE!
2006-07-03 10:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just being happy that he proposed? Maybe that is all he could afford at this time. Why go into debt so you can have the perfect ring? How about asking him how he picked out that ring? He probably put a lot of thought and effort into the ring. Maybe after 5-10 years of marriage you can get an "upgrade."
2006-07-03 11:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your engagement! I think it's a bad idea to want to upgrade. This is what he wanted to give you from his heart and you should love it no matter what. Later when you have children and your 5 year old son makes you a macaroni necklace are you going to tell him it's hideous, or are you going to wear it with pride? I think it's time to rethink your priorities. A big diamond rarely equals a big heart. You should love your ring because of what it stands for, not for what it looks like. Consider getting the ring you want as a one year aniversary present in the future. For now, look at your ring everyday and repeat after me - "I love that man, and I love this ring."
There really are more important things in life that money can't buy.
2006-07-03 10:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by coco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel where you are coming from. I recently got engaged and now I am married. When I first got my ring it wasn't exactly what I had hoped for. A lot of times money could be the reason he didn't get you something bigger. What I did was take him to the jewelry store to look at wedding bands. While we were in there I saw a ring that I really wanted. I told him that I really liked that one and really would love to have it. So a few weeks later he suprised me with that ring. I got what I wanted and love the ring I have now. Maybe tell him that you would like to go shop for wedding bands. While you are in the store find one that you really like and tell him that you really like it. Tell him that maybe you could get that one when you have the money for it. If he can financially he will get it for you if he really wants you to have what makes you happy.
2006-07-03 10:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started out with a small ring also but as years went on we traded the ring for a bigger one. So my advice would be just to except the ring and maybe in another 5 years you will get a bigger rock. That's not the bigger issue, the big issue is the marriage and if it's able to be successful.
2006-07-03 10:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by sweetLynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You can not ask for an upgrade.
The ring was obviously very carefully chosen by him & was the best he could afford. If you have had the ring for a year then you have had plenty of time to say something before now.
If you say something now he will be crushed.
The next question he asks will be "When will she want to upgrade her fiance?"
2006-07-03 10:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy he wanted to marry you and keep your ring. It is a symbol of his love to you. Maybe suggest a bigger wedding ring, but keep your engagement ring.
2006-07-03 10:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could if you want to insult him. since your engagement isn't that great anyway why not just give him back the ring and go your separate ways
2006-07-03 10:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love..........real soulmates, would love the ring if it was plain and small. It's what the ring represents....his love for you. You would hurt him terribly and I doubt you would ever repair that.
2006-07-03 10:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother to give you some extra chores around the house, because you have too much time on your hands. It violated policy to impersonate someone. BEHAVE !
2006-07-03 10:45:10 · answer #11 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋