If you love your wife, and she says things are missing in the relationship, what would you do?
2006-07-03 10:37:14 · 17 answers · asked by Shell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Where were you guys when I got married? heehee- seriously- I love him but he could care less that I need more. He calls me a crybaby.
2006-07-03 11:04:33 · update #1
1) Whether I ageed at the moment or not I would validate that she feels this, then.........
2) would ask her what specifically is lacking?
3) Ask myself if I ever felt that way.......
4) Share those thoughts and......
5) Do whatever it takes to understand why this issue came up and how to deal with it. (Therapy / Counseling).
2006-07-03 10:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Charlooch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try to find out what is missing and replace it. as a relationship grows you will hear a lot of you used to do this and you used to do that and all she is looking for is reassurance in your relationship and know that u love her no matter what. u can't say to her "well honey i do still love you but".... and just leave it there it is all within the show and tell example:if you used to open the car door for her and now you don't,if you used to send her flowers for no reason start again because little things mean a lot where women are concern there view on the relationship is simple. We think like this when all these things stop we ask one question does he still love me the same? so if you want to find out whats missing don't be a man for five minute and ask her a simple question .what is missing and could you explain to me how to fix it being direct is the only way. as you can see i have made the same statement your wife made and was looking for that one simple question.
2006-07-17 17:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweetshariqua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANYTHING SHE NEEDS! People these days should be ashamed of themselves. Nobody seems to understand what marriage is really about. People are so selfish and inconsiderate these days. Its all about me me me. People think that that "new" feeling when you meet someone is love. Guess what ITS NOT, and the minute that newness wears off they think that love is lost. Marriage is compromise and that means that you cant always get what you want. Give and take. Marriage is not as fun and exiting as the single life but at night when you are lying beside someone who loves you and knows you better than anyone else you have a feeling of peace and security that cannot be found anywhere else. My marriage is the best thing that has ever happened to me and if there was something my wife needed to be happy, it would be hers, within reason of course. What do you have to lose. And to all you stupid boys out there, the minute you make your women TRULY happy, there is nothing that she wont do for you, and you will truly know what it is to be a happy man.
2006-07-17 17:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by bigredpoboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I loved my wife and she said that I would try to encourage her to help my fix the things that are not making her happy. Also I would try to promote increased communication in the relationship.
2006-07-03 17:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by the_flogged_dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her what those things were. It's both of you're jobs to make eachother happy, even if that means doing something you might not view the same way she does and vice, versa. The only way to get to know eachother is by communication, that would be my suggestion.
2006-07-16 22:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make some changes, ask what they think is missing and work on bringign those things in and if they dint know what exactly is missing but feel like there is something missing =, then you should start being more creative, going out of the rouitine. date again :-)
2006-07-17 15:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by dark_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to find out what is "missing". Then I would want to know what needs to be done to satisfy the missing elements.If the demands are not illegal, unethical or unreasonable, I would try to fix the problem.
2006-07-16 20:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by JAMES11A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I love both of my wives, they're ex's OK. just because you can't get along with someone that you love doesn't mean you have to stop loving them.
2006-07-17 14:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer and pre-pay for a divorce just in case.
2006-07-17 10:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love other men's wives. It cuts out the middleman.
2006-07-03 18:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by TheSkeptic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋