my sister is pregnant and she is in a book club one of the member keep bringing of of her friends who used to be drug addicted ( no one know if he still is or not) any way today she was there and this guy came... she did not get happy to see him, and then she had to leave since he smells like a pack of old cigarette... and she did not feel to stay any longer ...
now she is so sad and feels so bad about it, she thinks that God will not forgive her or something like that... specially that she is pregnant she feels even worse....
what do you think?
Pls help me to help her ..........
2006-07-03 10:32:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let her know that you understand her first concern must be for her baby. If there is any problem at all with the "friend", from smelling like old cigarettes which naturally can upset you even if you're not pregnant, to worrying whether he is clean or not, it is not only just okay to leave, but the right thing to do. She doesn't have to justify her actions to anyone. She can be proud that she is caring for her baby's welfare. If she wants to, she can explain to this friend that now she cannot risk being in any situation that might endanger her child, no matter how slight, either now or later on. A true friend will understand.
2006-07-03 10:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant or not, no one likes to be around a smelly person. When people encounter a smelly person, the first thing people want to do is remove themselves as far away from the person as fast and far away as possible. Your sister did nothing wrong, she wasn't the one smelling up the place and offending others by that bad smell.
2006-07-03 17:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason for her to feel bad. When i am pregnant I can not stand the smell of cigarettes. Being pregnant enhances your senses. Not to mention people do not have to like everyone, even if you are pregnant.
She was not being malicious, she was being herself, there is nothing wrong with that!!
2006-07-03 17:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Special Speciality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that everybody has bad days. Today was her bad day. she is pregnant and she is probably sensitive to smells, so she had to excuse herself. No big deal. Just tell her that next time that she sees him to be friendly to him, but not overly friendly. If he ask then she can say that she wasn't feeling well. No, big deal. He will understand and if he don't Oh well. At least she tried to be nice. Good luck!
2006-07-03 17:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Catfishchic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she shouldn't feel bad. sometimes when you are pregnant some odors make you feel nausaus. I remember when I was preg. with my first child. I visited an elderly lady who had her heat so high I almost passed out before I could get to the door. These things happen when your preg. and you just can't help it.
2006-07-03 17:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by retta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will not be mad at her. She didn't do anything wrong in the first place. Congratulations Auntie! Hope your sister has a wonderful time with her new joy of life....have a wonderful Fourth of July....dimples
2006-07-03 17:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might feel bad, but probably not. If she asked nicely, I wouldn't and would understand. But don't worry, she did the right thing.
2006-07-03 17:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by Affy Laffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋