What is the key to loving others? I want that" lock" open how do I do that?

Answer 1

There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......

(L)isten: and Validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.

Answer 2

I am not sure if you mean loving others for your own sake, for the sake of them, or both? In any case, the initial step is the corny old advise of: "You must find a way to truly love yourself first" - easier said than done, btw. Also remember, almost everything we humans do is, in one form or another, "interest-based". But since you are looking for "The Key" then I would say (in an ideal world) you would have unlocked the mystery once you have found the way to loving others for who they are and NOT what they mean or bring to you and your interests. However, that does not mean you have to throw all caution to the wind - the middle ground is usually the most prudent one - especially if we are talking about an eventual love relationship (hence the REAL world and the interest-based factor). ... I am sorry to say this, but not every "human" is emotionally worthy of and/or prepared for such unconditional love. So, trust your spirit/instinct to lead you to the right person (by putting yourself in the right frame of mind and spirit - compatible people can pick up on that believe me) and then try to love that person for who he/she is. Hopefully, your genuine expressions of love will be reciprocally met - but even if not, at least you know you have lived a loving, authentic, and courageous existence (a great consolation price, won't you say?) If spiritual growth could have been attained without any sacrifice, whatsoever, then it wouldn't have been so meaningful after all.

Answer 3

you have to stop negatively judging people. It's a skill to be aquired. release all negative people from your life. And then concentrate on yourself. It took me time, I moved, and it works. I can finally be in a relationship. Don't discriminate. This advice is the only true way. If you think I'm crazy, you're not listening to me.. and too bad for you.

Answer 4

You first have to love yourself, unconditionally, then you can love others the same way. Love comes from within, and only when it is on the inside, can you express it outwardly.