I have had friends that decide to stay virgins until they are married... I've always wondered if they were truly satisfied with their original intent of being abstinent, or are they regrettful of their sex life?
2006-07-03 09:57:35 · 19 answers · asked by MiKaYa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no there not coz they dont know what there missing out on !!!!
2006-07-03 10:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by kirsty_jones_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wish to remain a virgin till you get married, you need to get a different boyfriend. Sure, he was raised Roman-Catholic but if he can't understand why you want to wait, he won't stop if things go too far. If you keep being intimate with him, then that could make him think you want to have sex. He may stay around for a while, but may eventually leave because he keeps getting teased with these pictures and sex talks and wants to complete the deed. Just because you plan on marrying him or think he will marry you doesn't mean he actually will. Have you guys talked about getting married at all? Do you have a time line of when you think it's best to get married? If you're talking about sex and not marriage what makes you think he will be thinking about it? I'm a virgin too and waiting until marriage and I think that if I was dating someone I would want them to understand that sex is a bond. It is not just some physical act you practice to get good at, like a sport. It should be taken seriously with a commitment in front of God and witnesses because it can seriously affect your life. Engagements and dating relationships break up far more often than marriages (although nowadays divorce is common). If you don't end up married to this man, which is likely, do you want to have had such intimate moments with him? Do you want your future husband to know you were intimate with this guy? Could you live with the fact that you both were intimate and not hate him or yourself for it forever? And, equally important, do you want him to have sexy pictures of you? The two of you need to find a counselor at your church and ask them how you should handle the situation and they will help you with difficult questions about marriage and help you both decide if you even have the same ideas about marriage and if you are compatible. I hope you really listen and stop dating this guy, but it is your choice.
2016-03-27 02:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I think that it depends on how fullfilling their sex life with their spouse is. I have known people on both sides of the spectrum. If you are considering being abstinent as a matter of ethical or spiritual concern I think you should until you are in a long term relationship. How many people you have sex with often comes up in new relationships, it will reflect your charecter to some point with the person so be truthful and understanding if the other person did not have the same past.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-03 10:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by the_flogged_dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've talked to more guys who regretted waiting than those who did not. I'm also of the opinion that it is a big area where compatability is necessary. But then I think sex is a top 5 item in marriage. If virginity is more important than finding out if you and your potential spouse are good together, I don't think marriage is a good idea.
2006-07-03 10:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has to do with their conscions[morally].I believe they do this because they believe it is not morally upright to have sex before marriage and I am one of such.Honestly,I do not think staying a virgin before marriage makes one happier.No one would be dissatisfied with fulfilling a decision he or she ever makes.They become regretful when they meet up with someone who is more experienced sexually an d they do not know how to go about sex but the best is to abstain as it is morally uprit especially if you are a christian Dont be led astray.
2006-07-03 10:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by eastone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it does because its something to look forwards to and kick off their married life...also it could signify that they were truly commited to each other and they didnt need sex to be in love...its jsut an added bonus
2006-07-03 10:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by angelkelly08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rebecca St. James looks pretty darn happy to me. She sure wouldn't be selling the cds she does if she wasn't a virgin.
2006-07-03 10:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here are the reasons they will be happy for life
1) no past experiences=no comparisons...the phrase..is he/she good? never comes up...nobody to compare her to..
2) NO STDs/HIV passed around
3) most of the time...if they can afford kids or to risk it..no birth control...
4) the common respect that the other waited for them
5) FREE CONSENSUAL SEX FOR BOTH!!! AND NO NEED TO WORRY IF HE OR SHE WILL BE THERE THE NEXT MORNING...
2006-07-03 10:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have to be.. You need to experiance i think b4 you get married... then you know what you really want.. Your friends are crazy.. I love to have sex with my husband now he's the best but i did experiance alittle b4 i found my husband!!!
2006-07-03 10:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is a choice and not one of those things where the person couldn't get laid to save their life.
2006-07-03 10:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by BrownTown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know i would have wanted to stay a virgin but then i won't have know the things i know now to make my husband happy
2006-07-03 10:03:04 · answer #11 · answered by Veronica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋