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I have had alot going on in the past year. I'll give you the 411: My mom is in rehab until Nov., I am moving to my dad's house in a new city, 7 of my best friends have moved out of state in 6 months, my friend killed herself last week, my dad is abusing me, my parents just divorced, and I can't see my mom for 2 more months. With all of the things going on, I have started cutting my arms. I am really scared that my dad is going to find out and beat the crap out of me. I was diagnosed with depression 2 months ago. Does this have anything to do with cutting my arms? I am only 12 and I think I'm going crazy. can anyone give me some advice? I am really scared and I need help.

2006-07-03 09:46:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Women's Health

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Sweetheart I am so sorry what you are going through. If you ever need to talk to someone I am here for you; email me a ginabosshart@yahoo.com or get on Yahoo Instant Messenger and IM me at ginabosshart. And like the others said please call social services or 911 on your dad; you don't deserve that at all. I know you love him, but it will be better off for you in the end.

2006-07-03 10:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mike and Gina 4 · 1 0

Cutting yourself is one way to deal with depression. The act of doing it releases endorphines in your brain, which make you feel better and are calming.

It can be very damaging, however. I suggest talking to a doctor. You said you were just diagnosed with depression - do you go to a therapist? If not, I think maybe you should.

I'm sorry you're so scared. I'm sure that you will get through this, even though it sounds like a very, very hard time for you. I really hope you find the help you need.

If nothing else, there are helplines you can call to talk to people. They can help you get in contact with a therapist or otherwise get the help you need. And if you're not ready for help - they can just listen. They are completely anonymous! One number is 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). These are both toll-free numbers and won't appear on a telephone bill, so no one will know you called.

I hope I could help just a bit. Be safer!

2006-07-03 16:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 6 · 0 0

It's sad.But remember only u can help urself.Do u have relatives,friends.Ask them for help.If u can't use the phone use people search on the net.It was a good idea to write stuff on the net.U feel better after spilling it all out.If things go too bad contact police or some help organization.U can find them on net,but don't give them information about urself until u're sure u can trust them.Try to earn a living and study well.It's better to live in an orphanage than in this way.And DON'T LET U'R DAD DO ANYTHING AGAIN EVEN IF SAVING URSELF MEANS INJURING HIM.SUCH PEOPLE SHOULD NOT BE PITTIED.All the best.I'll pray for u.I understand how u feel since I'm just a year older to u.DON'T INJURE URSELF.It's ur dad who should be injured.If u need to talk I'm there for u.I really feel sad for u but be brave.

2006-07-03 16:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

See a school counselor or talk to another relative that you trust about your dads abuse. You need to go to the Department Of Human Services. These people can be trusted and will work in your best interest. They will provide you with the counseling and services you need. You shouldn't have to live like this. You are a wonderful person and life is precious. If you cannot find the number in your phone book call the operator.

2006-07-03 16:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0 0

The answers people have given you are excellent. If a school counselor is not available, then someone you can trust to talk to is needed. Mostly, seek Jesus. He can give you peace. He can give you a way out. Listen to Christian music (internet) if possible, it will encourage you. Also His word can be found on the internet. I had to live in a home years ago with an abusive parent and sibling. The Lord can give you wisdom to read, etc, to avoid further abuse. Hang in there. And listen to all this counsel. May the Lord Jesus bless you as you follow Him.

2006-07-03 17:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by nikki 1 · 0 0

Speak to an adult you trust, hon. A teacher, doctor or even a policeman. It's going to be a bit hard, getting this all out and telling someone everything, but you must stick to your guns, but BELIEVE ME. It WILL work out for the best in the end. Cutting yourself is a part of your depression and with help from people who know, you will stop. Whatever happens, you must remember one thing: YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. YOU ARE A CHILD THAT HAS HAD YOUR CHILDHOOD STOLEN FROM YOU. Take it from someone who knows.
You can get through this, trust me and it will make you a stronger, wiser person when you have all this behind you. Please don't blame yourself for ANY of this. There IS a better life waiting for you in this world, you just have to keep being strong and make it happen by telling someone with the power to help you do something about it.
If you need to talk, please feel free to email me from my avatar and I will respond.
Life is what you make it. You CAN make it better. You CAN control your life. Love and kindness is really out there, waiting for you, you just have to go and get it.

I wish you the best of luck, little one.

2006-07-03 17:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0 0

OMG. Sweetie, you need help ASAP. Is there another adult you can trust - aunt, uncle, older sibling, grandparent, heck, even a neighbor, doctor, or school counselor will work. You need to go to them NOW and tell them about your dad abusing you. You need to be away from him. They can help you get away from him until you can be reunited with your mom.

All of this turmoil in your life has been a BIG factor in cutting your arms. But the real deal is this - you need to get some help and get into a good environment immediately!

Good luck!!

2006-07-03 16:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0 0

Yes it has a lot to do with cutting your arms. You need professional help immediately. If you don't have an adult that you can trust to help you find it, then go to the hospital or police station and tell them what is happening and what you are doing. They can help you. You are not going crazy you just have too heavy of a load to carry right now. Go get help now. You're way too little to tackle this alone.

2006-07-03 16:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by ginarene71 5 · 0 0

u do really have a serious problem...anyways u r very young n u are going through a lot and that of course can cause u to cut ur arms, but ask urself y r u bringing more pain and arm to urself, is it going to help? the best thing for u right now is for u to find some1 u can really trust n tell them about ur situation, if ur grandparents are alive n u love them they are a good set to talk to or maybe u can c a counsellor. u r very depressed n u cant handle these problems on ur own so talk to some1... if u want me to talk to u more my name is shaneka, my number is (876) 465-9954 or email me @shaneka_hall@yahoo.com or angel-nikki_boo@hotmail.com... if u r a religious person then u can definitely talk to god abt it and i can pray with u if u wish....wish u all the best remember some1 out there loves u....

2006-07-03 17:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Shaneka H 2 · 0 0

I know how scared you must be feeling. I too have been abused. I understand the feeling of not knowing where to go, who to trust, what should I do. Believe me, you are not crazy. The feeling of scared comes from not knowing what to do. May I suggest you begin with yourself. Dont blame yourself for anything that is going on right now. Take hold of yourself and believe you have a strong inner that is just waiting to come to your rescue. Believe in yourself. Trust your instints. There is a singer-Meria Carey- She sings a song called- The hero inside of me. It helped me to find the strenght to carry on. It helped me to believe in myself. Please call the Social Service department in your area. They can help you regarding the abuse. Be sure you think everything thru . It will be a long road for you, please dont give up. Find your higher Power. Find your God. He really really really can help you. All your doing with the cutting is hurting yourself. Dont you already hurt enough? Stop allowing other people to hurt you by gaining confidence in yourself. Love yourself !!!. Dont be afraid anymore. Your first step has already started. You reached out. That is the most important step. Now, get your confidence and believe in yourself. Its there. Try to find the Meria Carey song. I may have spelled her name wrong, but, think of it as a beginning. You wont be disappointed with the song......Good Luck Child. May God be with you thru your tough time. Believe.!!!

2006-07-03 17:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by ladysass 1 · 0 0

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