swingers....?

Question

my wife and i were still undecided but we are giving it a serious thoughts... what do you think?

Answer 1

Having been in that situation, I'd suggest you not do it. It's very very difficult to have an open and/or swinging relationship and keep it simple. There are way too many people out there who will get emotionally attached to one or the other of you (regardless whether or not THEY are married) and it just creates too much drama and tension that a married couple just does not need. While it does work for *some* people, those people are very few and far between, and in my opinion it's just not worth the risk of having someone develop an obsession. Plus, there's the jealousy factor. Whether you think you're the jealous type or not, and whether your wife thinks that about herself, there will be jealousy involved, and it makes things a lot more complicated in terms of who's getting how much attention from whom. Another thing you don't need as a married couple. So, my advice is to stay away from a swinging relationship.

Answer 2

in the starting up you tell no one. You get with a 'solid' swingers club, one which has an orientation consultation or some human beings getting mutually for Q&A. also, a majority of the persons in swingers golf equipment are married. it may develop a superb marriage and wreck a nasty marriage.

Answer 3

well first do it with people you don't know at all... and second please DO NOT **** the other girl better than your wife... she might not say anything at that moment but she will remember and sooner or later she will and it will take things to a whole different level... so set rules first.... and another thing make sure you are doing this because both of you guys want to... and it's only for pleasure and not to make you relationship better.....or it's on the rocks.... if you feel you have a almost perfect relationship and stable and both of you are happy... and it's only to hav fun together then go ahead.... but i don't recommended to make things better it will not work trust me!!! good luck

Answer 4

I dont think you should. It causes too many problems, jealousy issues and whatnot. Marriage should be between 2 people, not others in between. Think hard about it, would u like a guy having sex with your wife? And do you think she would enjoy seeing you do something with another woman?! (I really doubt it)

Answer 5

Some people do this for various reasons. They have an open relationship and/or they do it for a while to spice up their sex life. I look at it this way. If you and your partner are aware of the situation and open about it, then why not.

Answer 6

Eeewww!!! You really wanna swap and share!
Lay off the porn dudes... It'll take a lot less to get ya excited if you're not over-indulging! Try not doing it at all for a week.... you'll be so hot and ready you won't need to share... you are married and she's all YOURS...and you are all HERS.... don't let other people in on that!

Answer 7

I think if both partners, such as in your case agree, its ok. Give it a try...you may or may not like it! Otherwise you will always be wondering and always talking about it.

Answer 8

Set your rules first. It takes a really strong love!

Answer 9

You are playing with fire. Some people can play with fire and not get burnt. Most people get burnt. Talk to people who have done it. It is not for me.

Answer 10

I DON'T KNOW IT SOUDS FUN BUT ARE YOU READY TO SEE YOUR WIFE WITH ANOTHER MAN