ok. so I think i have this thing called Vaginsums. its when the opening of the vagina closes up, so you can't have sex or it makes it painful. sometimes it happens to wemen who have been raped or molested. like a way to protect themselfs involentarly. sometimes it happens to girls who have no reason why its happening to them. thats me. im a virgin. I have a boyfriend whitch i have been datting for 8 months. I haven't told anyone about this. NO ONE! im 16. i haven't been diginosted by a doctor. i foung this out by my own research. in all the artlcles it said wemen can streach "it" out slowly, using objects. over time your "it" will be large enough again to have sex. mines too small! sometimes i can't even find the hole. Me and my boyfriend aredeeply in love. when he wants to have sex...i don't know what im going to do. im afraid he will leave me, break up, or cheat on me. im so depressed i can't function right. somebody please help me!!!!
2006-07-03 09:34:06 · 7 answers · asked by rawwkinfool 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
me and my boyfriend both said we would wait untill we were out of highschool. he is sweet and yes we allready have fool around alot. but we never sex., obvious
2006-07-03 09:52:51 · update #1
is there surgrey?
2006-07-03 09:58:06 · update #2
Okay, first of all, anything in this arena has to be done for YOU and your benefit alone. This is one of the most personal parts of a woman, and it is your decision alone as to what you do with it. If your boyfriend would leave you, cheat on you, or whatever because of this, he either doesn't truly love your or he just isn't mature enough to love you as you deserve.
Second, internet self-diagnosis is a risky thing. Without the proper medical training, it is very easy to put symptoms together and come up with something that might not be at all true.
My advice - you are 16, and this is a good age to start seeing a gynocologist. Many parents will argue "why do you need to see this kind of a doctor unless you are sexually active?" The answer is that there is more to that part of your body than sex. If everything was perfectly healthy, than your doctor (or nurse practicioner) has a good baseline to compare with any future changes. But if you are 16 and can't even find your vaginal opening, I would say that it's time to get a professional on your case. Please don't do anything to "treat" this on your own.
2006-07-03 10:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Number 1 you are 16 years old. You really need to wait to have sex. Let me tell you from experience that when you think you are so called IN LOVE you are not. Sure you want to experience sex and you are having urges this is natural.
As far as the disorder you are talking about I would go to the Doctor and get checked out. You may be worrying about nothing, You might just be small women come in various sizes as do men.
If you think you are depressed now about not having sex just wait till after you give it up and then he leaves cause that is all he wanted in the first place. This happened to me at your age, and even tho I am in a relationship and have a child I still can not fully feel the affection you need to. Having sex to early really messes you up. If he truly loves you he will not pressure you and he will not cheat either.
2006-07-03 09:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by kalie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vaginismus is a psychological disorder in response to fear of sexual intercourse for whatever reason. This fear may be subconscious.
If I were your councilor I would ask about your feelings about sex, masturbation, virginity, and your family of origin’s views on the same thing.
I would bet a LOT that buried in there somewhere is a strong lesson about girls that have sex, or simply about sex being dirty and or bad – perhaps even deadly. There may also be some issues surrounding the value of virginity (a common issue in modern American society)
I think the first thing I would try if I were you is simple masturbation, with and without your boyfriend. Once you become more comfortable with that sort of sexual involvement moving to a vibrator, dildo, or other insertable masturbation toy along with a tube of lube, seems to be a logical next step. After you are comfortable with, and enjoy using your vibrator, spending some time, naked, with your boyfriend, where he, or you spend some time putting his penis next to, or even between the lips of your vulva – but without penetrating – or trying to penetrate you further. Once you are comfortable with that, an attempt at intercourse may be fruitful.
If that does not work – looking into a hypnotheripist may be a beneficial option – but I would not pick that as my first hope.
2006-07-03 09:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go see your doctor. I think its soo sweet how you and your boyfriend want to wait until you all are out of school. If he really loves you he will understand your condition and you all can experiment your love (sexually) in different ways.
2006-07-03 14:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Britt Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to someone at the Health Department if you are uncomfortable. They are very understanding and will help you. You should be able to discuss this with your mother.
2006-07-03 09:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confide your situation with your Mom, or other trusted female reletive. If that's not possible see a doctor, NOW!
2006-07-03 09:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by mgrenia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 05:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by policastro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋