my ex. 17 wont come saying it's too gross i dont want to have to into delivery room by myself.going crazy with stress he is ignoring me we are having girl and boy so i am trying to come up with a plan here he's not helping and i cant help but be stresses w/ this and school. he keeps sending me mixed messages?i am 18 we both just graduated highschool and dont know what i am doing either.
2006-07-03 09:20:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he keeps telling me he wants to help even offered to marry me but does nothng to help!
2006-07-03 09:27:12 · update #1
i really love him
2006-07-03 09:35:16 · update #2
he lost his job and i have never had one my parents give me 534 dollars month in alloance still they have done this since junior year but do not no i am pregnant afraid to loose my inheritance they are on vaction/ work in paris till october 31
2006-07-03 09:37:57 · update #3
get legal help to make him help support those babies,
but otherwise lose his sorry a**. i notice he did not think
it just too gross to get you pregnant. unless he grows
up a whole lot kick himm out of your life.
make him help with support. he played now let him pay.
2006-07-03 09:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just about your age when I had my first, my husband was actually still in high school when our son was born (I graduated the year before him). He was kinda freaked out about seeing everything too, we just had him stand up by my head so he was still supportive but didn't have to witness the gorey mess.
If he absolutely will not go in with you, I would ask a good friend, or even mom, to stay and hold your hand. I agree, you should not have to be alone when you give birth.
I don't know what to tell you about him not being helpful, if that continues you may want to just move on and forget about him. Stressing about whether or not he will be there isn't good for you or your babies.
2006-07-03 16:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by chelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without laying any blame I'll still say that you guys where not mature enough to start having a baby when you entered into this situation. You get married when you are ready to start a life with somebody and after that start making children not the other way around. Let a role model of his have a chat with him and make him understand that he has to stand up to his responsibilities in the near future and also the part he's got to play in your life as a father to be. I hope he's got a job else you guys will really be swimming in **** creek soonest.
2006-07-03 16:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by Elias N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take care of yourself and your baby, don't stress, it can affect the baby and make some things in pregnancy more difficult. Second lay things out for him tell him how you feel and what you need, if he doesn't want to take responsibility then find someone that will support you through this. School is important but not as important as your health and the health of your baby, try to relax and take things one thing at a time. Don't try to do too much all at once, but make some goals and try to work towards them.
2006-07-03 16:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by new mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone reliable and responsible to go with u to the delivery room, it doesn't have to be your babies' daddy. I'm sorry this is happening to u, but u are a kid yourself. Your priorities should be school and not babies. Anyway, what is done is done, u can't change it, but be careful, and get an adult's
help in taking care of ur babies when u put to bed/deliver. Good luck.
2006-07-03 16:37:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tostie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of being a single parent. If your family is supportive, you should be ok.
Your "ex" is out of your life obviously, and you will have to go to court and prove through DNA testing that he is the father so you can collect child support.
I guess it is too late, but next time use a condom if you don't want a baby. I do hope it all works out for you though...I wish you luck!
2006-07-03 16:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out how to take care of yourself and stop expecting him to help or comply with your wishes. Ask your mom or a girlfriend to be with you. You did not choose a good father for your babies. But it is too late to change that. You have to make a good life for you and your babies. Don't depend on him to help. Don't worry about him, worry about how you will take care of the babies and make a good life for yourself.
2006-07-03 16:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure that he will change his mind once the time comes...Just tell him that you want and need him there and leave it at that..Im sure that the rest of his family will talk him into being there and you wont have to do a thing
2006-07-03 16:26:30 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU SHOULD TELL HIM THAT THESE ARE HIS KIDS TOO. IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO SEE HE DOESN'T HAVE TO BUT HE SHOULD STILL BE IN THE ROOM. EXPLAIN TO HIM THAT HE CAN STAND NEAR YOUR HEAD SO THAT HE DOESN'T ACTUALLY SEE ANYTHING.
CONGRATS YOU'LL BE FINE
2006-07-03 16:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by BETSY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you having sex at 18?? why are u pregnant at 18?? you're still a kid.
2006-07-03 16:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋