we have 2 kids n my wife want a divorce because she know a guy thur msn that is 6 years younger than her. now my ex. suddenly call me and ask if we can be together. i told her ( my ex ) what happen n she say she will wait. should i give up my 8 years of marriage or save the marriage? now i dont know what to do......... pls help
2006-07-03 09:15:29 · 14 answers · asked by Andy Heckmen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a question only you can answer. the decision to be made is are you in love with your current wife or your past wife or both. You must also consider why did you and your first wife split, at the time it was something one or both of you thought was the best decision. The other thing to consider is if your wife wants a divorce do you want to save the marriage for the kids or you. it has been proven time and time again that emotional health of parents is key to child developement. if your children find themselves in a loveless marriage they may be worse off than having two happy but seperate parents.
2006-07-03 09:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by smith81111 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Why did your first marriage fail? Why is your wife looking on msn for companionship? Would she be willing to give him up to make it work with you if you went to counseling and agreed to spend more time with her? Do you want your ex more then your current? Before you can decide on divorce, these and other questions must be answered. First, sit with your wife, no kids, and see if there is anything to be saved, you can go from there together.
2006-07-03 09:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to answer a question of this nature without all the facts but I will say this.... Maybe your wife felt there was something lacking in the relationship and found it within her online relationship. Often relationships that start online dont last because they are built upon fantasy. She doesn't have to answer to her online companion, and thus may not feel uncomfortable. People seek online relationships for many reasons so it is very hard to tell what the problem is. I would say that if you can't imagine living life without her then by all means try some form of counseling. If by chance you have the same feeling as she does and are wanting out of the relationship then that is an option as well. Above all else please follow your heart and I wish yout he best of luck.
2006-07-03 09:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to come to a conclusion on your marriage before sleeping with another woman. If you and your wife decide to get a divorce and she is off with this other guy, you need to move on also. It sounds like ex will wait for you until things are not so messed up. My advice is to wait until i final desicion is made. Dont want to do something you may regret if things work out with wife.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-03 09:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by the_flogged_dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be great if you could rewrite that and spell everything out so we can make sense of it. What I got was that your ex wants you back. I can tell that you're loving it - it makes you feel like a big man. Well, you've got a lot of growing up to do. Get the divorce like your wife wants - who could blame the poor girl - and hopefully by then your ex will realize you are so not worth it.
2006-07-03 09:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make any strong decisions, until you make an effort to save your marriage, via counseling for you and your children.
You need to take a very deepth breath, and start solving one problem atta time, before you can even consider a life with another.
2006-07-03 09:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you love more? Your wife or your ex? If you love your wife more then stay with her! That and your kids would be emotionally scared if you got a divorce so think about your kids and who you love more!
2006-07-03 09:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR WIFE DOES NOT WANT TO WORK IT OUT IF SHE IS WILLING TO LET 8 YRS GO FOR A GUY SHE MEET ON MSN, ABOUT YOUR X DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HER IS THE ?. I THINK YOU SHOULD SEEK COUNSELING (MARRIAGE)COUNSELING .
2006-07-03 09:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by CUTIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow man thats a huge problem u got there
i think your wife is immature and dumb cuz of the way she met the dude she likes now
take yo kids or let her have em and leave her homie
or talk with her
2006-07-03 09:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so ridiculous plus very sad about both of u, , , ,
if u r breaking a beautiful relationship today , n creating a new one , how on earth is it possible that both of u will not break that new relationship again, , ,
for how long will both of u do that , , , ,
life is about adjustments , so carry it forward in such a manner that it will look beautiful from outside n inside as well
goodluck to both of u
2006-07-03 09:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by fuad_enjoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋