Labor?????????

Question

i am 18 and 4 months with twins afraid of labor how much does it hurt i scared just watched birthing video?

cant seem to get over this fear?any suggestions i have no tolerance to pain?

my ex. 17 wont come saying it's too gross i dont want to have to into delivery room by myself

going crazy with stress he is ignoring me we are having girl and boy so i am trying to come up with a plan here he's not helping and i cant help but be stresses w/ this and school.

Answer 1

Well, the birthing videos will do that to you. I also had twins ... your chances of having a vaginal birth is very low. And if they do a C-Section, unless you go into labor very early, it will be a scheduled process. As soon as I went into labor with the twins, I called the doctor, I was asked to come into the hospital, and the surgery was done. The labor part didn't hurt a bit because it starts out very gradually. You'll just feel your belly get rock hard, and with twins, it's not hard to miss.

In addition to my twins, I had two other successful pregnancies ... so, to be honest, if you go through the full labor and have a natural delivery, it sucks. You can't even begin to explain what it feels like ... it's a combination of horrible cramps, a burning sensation, and the worst poop of your entire life. But you'll forget all about it when you're holding those babies in your arms ... trust me! And if you don't mind having medications, the epidural is safe and WONDERFUL!

Answer 2

Don't watch those videos and really don't watch those Birth Day shows. All they do is show you the worst possible scenarios and how the "marvel of medicine" can help women have their babies. Your body is capable of this. Pain is an indication that there's a problem. With most births that problem is probably the woman is so afraid that she's got every muscle in her body tensed and she's fighting against the birth with everything she's got. Birthing isn't necessarily painful. I used Hypnobabies to prepare for my daughter's birth. She was born at home in just over 4 hours and it didn't hurt. It was the most empowering moment of my life. I, personally, know two other women who used this method and had extremely short, painless births. Don't let people tell you horror stories because that just gets in your head and causes you to doubt and fear. Check out Hynobabies.com. It was the absolute best thing I did for my daughter's birth.

Answer 3

First of all, everything is going to be okay. I remember those worrying days- I was thinking HOW IN THE WORLD IS THIS GOING TO COME OUT OF ME?! BUT... the pain isn't so bad- it would be worse if you were going through the pain for no reason or outcome, but you are going to have 2 beautiful babies after the pain... and let me tell you, the pain is not too bad with an epidural. Also, if you do have pain, it will suddenly be gone when the babies come. I just remember feeling the contractions and then asking for an epidural- after that- it was smooth sailing! By the way, my daughter was 9 pounds! Having twins also might make it so they have to do a c-section.... so you wouldn't feel the pain anyways. As for your ex, his is just a kid, and he obviously doesn't deserve to have you or those babies if he is going to be so stupid about having kids!

Answer 4

I was 18 when I had my first baby. Labor is not as bad as you think it is going to be. The best I can compare it to is REALLY bad menstrual cramps. Don't worry about it too much, the more relaxed you are the less it will hurt- your tense muscles will make the contractions stronger.
Plus, if you get there and just can't handle it, get an epidural! It is amazing, takes almost all of the pain away. And by the time you are 9 months, you will be so ready to get those babies out that you won't be nearly as concerned with the pain aspect!!
Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Labor is different for every woman and if you look forward to it with dread and fear I can pretty much guarantee you that it will be miserable. Find some books on different child birthing methods and go to local classes. We are not like the animals and need to be trained, our instincts for that were lost some time ago. I took Bradley method training and can tell you quite honestly that I had no pain when I gave birth. It was, shall we say, "powerful", but not painful. Part of the process is just learning what is happening to our body and to not fight it. Learn how it works, what to expect, and how to work with it. And most of all, remember, you're worried about a few hours of what will be the rest of your life with your babies. Enjoy the wild ride that is parenthood. The challenges and rewards are like nothing else!

Answer 6

Just know that the pain is only tell you have the babies, then its over. You will have some healing pains but you can take something for it. You can get an epidural or something to ease the pain during labor. After you have your babies you will forget how much pain you were in. Its painful but not that bad to know you will have 2 beautiful babies in your arms. I'm sure someone will be in the delivery room with you to help you if your boyfriend doesn't want to be there. My nurses were soo helpful and if they know you want them to stay there and help you, they will. You can always find a labor coach or a parent or family friend to be there with you. Good luck and congrats on twins.

Answer 7

Epidural..It is a perfectly legitimate and safe form of labor. There are risks involved, but no different than if you are unable to tolerate pain and stall your labor causing complications. Talk to your doctor about labor methods and see if you can get an appointment to speak to an anesthesiologist who will explain epidural medications, procedures and side-effects. Nobody's experience is the same, do don't let anyone tell you what you have to do. It might not be as bad as you think, but if it is know that you can make your own choices.

Answer 8

--My Wife gave birth to an 8 lb girl. When asked about the pain, she said it wasn't very memorable. This is from a woman who took no drugs during the delivery. So quit worrying, You were made to do this anyhow.

Answer 9

First I would sign up for aclass, not just Lamaze, but one that teaches what to expect in the hospital. Check with where you will deliver first, or ask the nurse in your doctors office. Second, go for the epidural. It knkocks out the pain.

Answer 10

sweetie, I pray things go easy and you don't have a lot of pain. but what you can do is stop watching those video's not everyone is like that. also get an epidural.(I think I spelled that wrong) but anyway get one. I don't know what your religious belief's are but pray about it. Know those two babies are a blessing.