Is being gay chosen or are you born gay?

Question

My answer is simple : in some cases yes but most cases no because all the gay ppl i know aren't really gay their bi and i think its a choice they choose to like guys or girl and some are put i n a situation to try it out and they enjoy it like a drug agree or disagree all i want to know is your answer

Answer 1

not a choice, man, sorry......
got to play with the cards you are dealt...

you are either born that way or not.....

Answer 2

I might disagree with the "most" part of your answer, but I ackowledge that what you described does happen. I don't really think the comparison to a drug is valid, though. That implies that there's something innately just so much more awesome about gay lovin'. While I do happen to think that gay lovin' is better, I recognize that that's because I'm gay. The other side is, I would suggest that there are TONS of heterosexuals who are also bi but who also chose to be straight (almost always due simply to societal pressure; they may or may not even be fully aware of this choice). So...is being straight like a drug? I think I'm a little confused about that bit, but all I can say is that in my life it wasn't a choice.


Also, who's to say it's necessarily either of the options you presented? Supposing that it's not genetic or otherwise biological (genes aren't the only thing that can make you be born a certain way; prenatal environment may have a LOT to do with development), doesn't necessarily mean you had any choice in the matter, or that it can be undone. Toast can't decide to become bread again. Given that, I don't make any hard claims as to the source of sexual orientation, because it doesn't matter. What matters is that there's a couple of them out there, and that if no one's hurting anyone that they should all be treated with respect and given full equality.

Answer 3

Oh boy...I can tell by most peoples' answers regarding this topic that American society has a LONG way to go on the issue of sexuality. Not a single straight person I know conciously chooses to be straight. They just are! The same goes for gay people. They just are! You can CHOOSE to live a straight life if you are gay or live a gay life if you are straight, but why??? It's very common for gay people to choose a straight life, at least for a short while until they can't handle lying anymore, because being straight is a hell of a lot easier than being gay. Believe me. And for the people that think being gay is a choice, how friggin' stupid would you have to be to CHOOSE to be gay??? Come on people, seriously. Life is hard enough, why CHOOSE to live your life in a way that society says is wrong. I think it's hilarious how the strongest opinionated people who say that being gay is a choice, are straight people. Rather ironic, don't ya think? I would think the only valid opinions on whether being gay is a choice or not would be from those people that consider themself gay. So in other words, straight from the source. Now for something to totally blow all of the close-minded peoples' minds...how do you explain asexual people? This is the condition of not being sexually attracted to either men or women. It is a real term if you don't believe me...look it up and learn something.

Answer 4

I would have to say that a lot of people are born gay. I know that in my case, I believe that I was born this way. I tried to be what they consider "normal", and date guys, but it wasn't for me. I always looked at girls, and I've experienced things with girls since I was like 7 yrs old. I believe that being a lesbian has always been in me regardless of the fact that no one else in my family is gay. Had it been a choice, it would have been easy to let go of women, but its not that simple. I enjoy women, and the mere thought of men never crosses my mind.

Answer 5

I have often thought that it would be so cool to just choose to be straight.No more gay jokes.No more being called an abomination.No more people telling me I can't marry who I love.No more family disappointment with who I am.My mother wouldn't have disowned me.I would have had a lot easier youth without the complications of feeling like I was strange or sick.No, I could just "choose" to be straight.

But I don't have sexual attraction to women in any way.If anything I am sexually repulsed at the idea of having sex with a women.Why do I know this?I have tried to be with a woman on more then one occasion.It never worked.I wasn't aroused in the slightest and often felt grossed out.

Did I choose this?What do you think?If you still think I chose then you were not paying attention to what I just said.

No, my friend, I disagree on many levels..

Answer 6

Being "straight" was a choice for me, to try and be "normal" like my family....you tell me, what female has crushes on girls at the age of 6, and it continued through the rest of life? We are born gay....being gay is not an easy way to live having to deal with ignorant, thick-headed homophobes....why would we "choose" to live a hard life?? and not do things the "easier" way by being straight?? Give me a break

Answer 7

If it was a choice wouldn't you think we would be straight, i doubt any of us would choose to be gay or bi, the problem with most people is that we tend to think if everyone should live the way that we live, to be honest i would rather have different people in this world than to be the same, i think that is the root of the problem.

Answer 8

Gay people ar born that way. However, with all the press they are getting, many teens think being gay is cool, and pretend to be gay or bi just to go along with the trend. Hopefully, they will grow out of it and realize that it is just a silly teenaged phase.

Answer 9

I dont belive it is genetic, but I do believe it is a bi-product of our civilization. Our society is so Sex-Centered that It is only natural.
We are so indoctrinated with having sex, and being sexy that some find the same sex to be attractive. So the answer is NO, you are not Born Gay. But the enviroement and the stimuli that it produces may in fact create a homosexual desire.

Answer 10

People are not born gay. Some have been molested as children and in their minds, they were convinced that this was their lot in life. Others are simply perverse in their perception of sexuality and they go for debauchery and that which is unseemly. Some heterosexuals are also perverse in their sexuality, such as "swappers", orgy lovers, etc. The bible says "The bed of marriage is undefiled and honorable to all." (Sorry, I don't have my bible and concordance right with me, so I can't give you the reference, but it is in the New Testament, and I believe is among the writings of the apostle Paul). Sex that occurs for any other reason than marriage between one man and one woman is perverse and is chosen.

Answer 11

It depends on why you are gay. i think it can be a chemical imbalance in your brain or something brought on in childhood. I sapposes it could be a choice too. I mean the fact that gay people have certain mannerisms seems to denote that it is at least partially a choice. However when people say they cannot help being gay they are full of it.