I have a best-friend who I've known for five years and all the sudden it seems like he's trying to ignore me, now I usually wouldn't worry about it but I don't have very many friends, let alone best friends, what should I do...
2006-07-03 08:36:58 · 23 answers · asked by Kyle Hall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well im kinda goin through the same thing.. my best friend of 9 years has been growing apart from me since she moved away almost 4 years ago. she used to be so smart and when she met new friends she dummed herself up and changed her whole personality. i finally confronted her and left her a nice long note explaining the situation. now since ur a guy i can see you prolly wont want to write a note but u have to say something, if u dont your friendship may be gone. belive me its not hard to make friends if u try ive made so many best friends since shes left. oh yea and did he maybe recently get a girlfriend, or is there a lot of pressure on him? think of the possibilities but dont let the friendship go to waste.
2006-07-03 08:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by liz 3 · 15⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes friends can grow apart. You might know deep down why your friend is ignoring you. You just have to reach deep down and figure it out. Also, if he has a girlfriend that could be the reason. Don't take it personally. If you would really like to keep him as a best friend then look at the whole picture. If he was/is your best friend I'm certain you are worthy of him. Maybe he's not worthy of you. The problem has to go deeper than him just ignoring you. Communication is the key to any relationship whether it be friendship or other.
2006-07-03 15:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never good to wonder about the state of any relationship. Sometimes, as we grow older, we outgrow our old friends and maybe he's outgrown you or so he thinks. The best thing to do is just ask him straight out, "what's up". Tell hiim you feel like he doesn't have time for you anymore or like you'll not boys (dawgs, whatever) no more, but that he needs to let you know if things have changed... It's really not that hard.
Don't worry about not having a lot a friends learn to enjoy you and the things you like and you will find others that enjoy the same things. You have to stop being dependent on him...
2006-07-03 15:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time and space. Maybe he's just got other things on his mind right now. And then give him a call, invite him to do something that you would normally do.
I've had many long-term friends (I'm talking 20-years plus) and sometimes through the years, either my friend or I go through periods where we don't spend as much time together. A true friend will wait out those times and not hold it against the other person.
2006-07-03 15:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, he does not deserve you when he acts ashamed of being with you and besides, he is no-best-friend,
so what i think is, some school mates talk very bad about you (behavior, how you look like, or insult you when they talk about you, and your no-best-friend wants to be with these kids, so he enjoys insulting you and making you down in front of them, and when you try to be nice with him, he seems to hate you or laugh at you)
this is very bad for your self worth. go and find some way for being self confident, you can learn this, believe me, you can be self confident and popular if you want to, donot do what others (mates) want you to do, stay to your opinion and be self confident, so whatever these jerks are going to do will not affect you, ignore them simply or look for new friends outside your school --
2006-07-03 15:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by hotdn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you may need to evaluate the kind of person you are and friend you might be to other people. maybe there is something you are doing that's chasing people away. its always good to humble yourself and changes things that may affect your life. also ask him straight out whats up and if you did something wrong. be open to listening and don't get defensive. just observe what he says.
2006-07-03 15:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what did i do if he doesn't say any thing start ignoring him see how he likes it?If you guys don't work any thing out forget about him get a new best friend maybe he will get jealous?
2006-07-03 15:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by daisy9p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peace & Blessings, "friend" is a very strong word to me.... I would talk to him/her to see what's the problem . Communication is the key. If the "friend" is not willing to talk & be honest maybe they're not your "friend" after all . Good Luck !!!!!
2006-07-03 15:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend and ask him what seems to be the problem. also people change over time and you guys may be growing apart.
2006-07-03 15:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is they're a girl in the picture?maby he found another friend that hes bonding with,im mean got more in common,happens alot when you get in high school!
2006-07-03 15:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋