I have been dating my marine officer boyfriend for a year now and before he left for deployment he took me home to meet his family, talked about our marriage - even went to look at rings. While on deployment he emailed me all the time about 'our' life together when he gets back, how much he loves and misses me, etc. Then, one day he called (two days after sending my flowers for my b-day) and said we are not compatable and its over. I got one email from him since telling me that he should have told me all this sooner. I have been a great military girlfriend - sending packages and such, always supportive and everything - so anyone gone though anything like this? I just dont understand where this is coming from (and no, he was not in combat on deployment). Does this sort of thing happen when guys go on deployment? I would understand this more if he were 18 - but we are in our mid-20s!
Thanks!
2006-07-03 08:35:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Long distnace relationships are hard no matter whether someone is in the military or not. I know several people who were dating a military man and the relationship was ended before they got back. Better that this happened now instead of you getting married and then having to get divorced. I know you probably loved him, but you should move on and find someone closer to you. Good luck I hope everything works out!
2006-07-03 08:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by ekaty84 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey this happens a lot. My marriage broke apart after my ex-husband was deployed. It is normal. If the relationship is not strong enough, it will not last. I am not the only one who went through this either.
Some finds somebody else. Some just realizes that they do not want to be with you, who knows. See they don't need to be in a combat zone. Being away alone is enough.
My suggestions is just move on. One of my girlfriends could not get over the fact he just left her hanging, after she waited 1 year for him. Things got ugly. But what does it matter? if the guy does not want you anymore, he does not want you anymore. There is nothing you can do about it.
2006-07-07 11:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cilek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live right on an army base...and i see it all the time. It could be lots of different things....
Deployments change people, combat or none....he may have decided he's not ready for something as serious as you two were looking into...
Also, he may have met someone else....those barrack sluts are killers man....
I'm horribly sorry to hear about what happened...but it's a chance you have to take when you fall in love with a soldier...believe me.
2006-07-04 10:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by ashy_cowgirl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it happen? Unfortunately, yes. The military life has many stressses and maybe he didn't want to to suffer that stress. Maybe there was some other thing that came up in his life to question his commitment. Who knows? I congratulate you on taking care of him while deployes. You probably do not deserve what you got and I feel for you. I hope things work out for both of you.
2006-07-03 08:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl if someone is going to do something that rude over the phone you do not need him. yes i have a story .My friend amanda got married to this guy Trent or something well he got set to Iraq and he was driving a hum or something like that and he ran over a road side bomb he got badly injured and had brain thing wrong .so he started to learn how to walk and talk and stuff like that an all etc. i have also got a pic of him with G bush and his wife and all .Well back to the story they ended up not staying together and all because he had anger problems and all .the thing that gets me is that day he was about to mail he a letter saying that he did not want to be with her. hey you should probably stick to non army guys hey if you need to talk just send me mail at yahoo mess anger hottiehunt123@yahoo.com love ya girl be strong
2006-07-03 08:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Alison c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethng like this happened to me, but my situation was w/ phone calls. I stopped receiving phone calls & when I called him phone was off so it went straight to he's voicemail. Well he was seeing someone else & this has also happened to some other girls I know. I don't want to say that your boyfriend might be doing the same thing but that's a possibility. See if you can talk to him so he can give you an explanation.
2006-07-03 08:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by roxy10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. You sound like a great person, don't hold out for him, you deserve better. With him away from you, it sounds like he has found shelter with someone new. Go buy a new outfit and call the girls and go out and have some fun.
I am 38 years old, and should have taken my own advice, along time ago.
2006-07-03 08:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just like any other guy. Military or not. Find out what happen. Ask him a few questions, see if there any fixing to it. If not. Have your broken heart cry period. But no matter what, life goes on.
Then you stand up on your own two feet. Clear your head, and move on from there.
2006-07-03 08:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar situation has happened with me and it hurt big time. I'm not sure exactly what changed my ex-fiance's mind about me, but something did and I think it had something to do with when he was over in Iraq. So don't worry hun, you aren't alone in this. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to look me up. I'm not online all the time, but e-mails are cool.
2006-07-03 08:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not in a war zone, then he may have met another, and doesnt want to hurt you.
And I dont want to offend you either, but there's not a vast difference between 18, and mid 20's......which you will realize in years to come.
2006-07-03 08:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋