My husband and I dated for 5 years and lived together for 3 years. How could he cheat 4 months after our wedding?
2006-07-03 08:34:22 · 21 answers · asked by TracieLacy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was probably always cheating. Or, he didn't really want to marry. Some guys just don't know how to break up, so they don't when they know they should.
2006-07-03 08:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gregory T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of this situation. Most likely he was cheating on you before you were married also so it was not a big change from being with somebody to being married. He obviously does not know what it means to be in a committed relationship. If you can live with this and move on then try to work it out but most likely the better option will be to find somebody that will give you the respect that you deserve.
Good luck!!!
2006-07-03 08:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by the_flogged_dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey - sorry to hear about that.
Any man or woman can easily cheat and for a whole host of reasons.
I hope you'll keep your emotions in check and do some of the following:
1. get an STD check to make sure your cheating husband didn't pass along some disease to you;
2. consult with a family attorney and learn what your rights and choices are;
3. find family counselor to talk about the emotional trauma and trust-violation you've experienced.
Now once you've done those things, then you can make a better assessment as to what you want to do with cheat-boy...should he stay or should he go?
Best wishes!
2006-07-03 08:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my wife did the same thing, maybe it because both of u know each other to well n he feel a kind of 'sian' in the relationship, in total u been together for 8 years, have u ever ask yourself what happen to you. if a man start to cheat it look like he is tired of what you have been doing for him all this while. think of a way to hook him back or just give up. cool down dont think so much, the road is still long. give both some time to think n settel it when u feel its the right time, hope everything is just a misunderstanding. good luck to u...... =)
2006-07-03 08:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by Andy Heckmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, be honest with yourself okay, you already knew that he was going to do it again didn't you? you said that you finally got married when you were both ready and you were fully trusting him again, but checking his phone to see what he's up to, that's not trusting, and I am not at all saying that you need to trust him or give him his privacy. what I am saying is that you knew in your heart that you needed to keep your guard up with this man, he tipped the alarm when he cheated the 1st time, and then you entered in to marriage with him even though you knew what he was fully capable of, and now you are seeing proof that is intentions are not honest. if i were you, i would not even confront him about this because it will only give him a way to make up and excuse just like last time to try to get you to over look it, and that can't be done again.. you turned the other cheek, he slapped it, time to walk away so that he can't do it again. if you stay, it will only get worse.
2016-03-27 02:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Irene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure this is the first time he's cheated? obviously he didn't attach as much meaning to this relationship as you do and he doesn't think you are as important as his penis. get out now before you are asking the same question 4 years from now. what reason did he give you? yeah your right that doesn't matter much anyway he's just talking crap anyway. look his actions make it very clear that this marriage means nothing to him and neither do you, believe him!!! don't listen to his sorry bs because all you accomplish is telling him woo hoo i can do whatever i want to her and as long as i say sorry later she will stay anyway!! its only four months old, scrap it before he ruins your life, you've wasted enough of your life on this jerk already. if you can't be faithful 4 months in to the relationship you got no hope, there wasn't enough time for it to go bad enough for him to be able to justify this!
2006-07-03 08:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had he cheated on you before?! If not, obviously he's got issues about "being" married. I would highly suggest you to seek marriage counseling immediately. If he has cheated before, I don't know what to tell you. Unfortunately, majority of those "cheating" husbands, have done it before and/or will do it again. To alot of them, it's a "lifestyle" they want/choose to have and don't care how much they hurt, lie, deceive, disrespect their loved one(s) for their own selfishness. Don't lose hope, but more importantly, don't lose yourself. Sending you a prayer.
2006-07-03 09:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by darkspot77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has been cheating on you the whole time... You have been putting up with it before you were married so he really feels that it shouldn't bother you after you were married. You need to figure out why he married you...
2006-07-03 08:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you were together for 5years and 5 months. WOW that's a long time.
2006-07-03 08:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously hes not commited to you or your relationship. And im sorry but once a cheater always a cheater. He may have done it before and you just didnt find out.
2006-07-03 08:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋