I wanna start having kid, but, my husband and I had already made plans to start a family until we bought a house, but, i changed my mind and i want to get pregnant now, any suggestions on how to tell him without pressuring him and without scaring him into thinking that i'm going to trick him and get pregnant?? Thanks!!
2006-07-03 08:25:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Having a house doesn't make you ready for a baby - as long as you have the room where you are currently living then you are okay. There is a saying that if you wait until you are ready to have kids, you will never have them - because life is never ideal or perfect.
2006-07-03 08:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him in a relaxed time. Tell him that you've changed your mind and that you really want a kid and that you feel like having one. Tell him that you don't wanna force him having a kid but that you're jsut asking from him to re-consider the possibility of having a baby now, before you buy a house....
2006-07-03 15:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a child in the first place? Why do you feel the need to bring anymore people into this world. If you want a family for yourself, forget it. I have two wonderful children. They are both very intelligent, hard working, educated and have been a delight in our lives. However, their lives are so much more difficult than mine has been, because the world is so chaotic. If you have children, please consider what their lives will be like, then ask yourself if you would like to live the life they will living.
2006-07-03 15:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by thebushman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it. If he is only trying to wait to start a family until you have a house then he is not opposed to the idea of kids. He should listen to your ideas about the situation and you two come to a decision together. Like they say if you wait to have kids when you can afford them then you will never have them.
2006-07-03 15:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband trust each other then just come out and tell him your feelings on the situation. ask him how he feels about it and try to meet in the middle. maybe he is feeling the same way.I'm sure if you talk to him things will work out. women have the right to change their minds a hundred times before deciding for sure. good luck
2006-07-03 15:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont trick him that will only cause trouble just sit him down and tell how u have been feeling about the situation, u never know he may feel the same way and may just be scared of what u may say.... Good Luck
2006-07-03 15:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by KelLzZz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not wait, whats the big deal waiting and keeping your plan. i think you shouldnt go back on your plan because then your hubby will think you are not a trust worthy person and not want to be with you, you seem like you really want a baby but now is not the right time for that.just wait and enjoy your selves. together. i wish i had that wih my hubby, it is hard to have free time wih kids, enjoy your selves now while you can. accomplish everything now.
2006-07-03 15:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell him that you want a baby now. But make him sure that you do not want a kid unless he wants it too.. Cause a baby can be happy as long as it is wanted.. Good luck.
2006-07-03 15:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by _Lilith_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Maybe you really should wait until you are financially stable to have a kid. remember baby is not a toy it's a lot of responsibility. Listen to your mind not your biological clock
2006-07-03 15:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by ewa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing like open conversation and honesty to keep a relationship working. My suggestion would just be to talk to him about it. Assuming that he's honest with you, you may find that he's ready as well, or you'll find out his reasons for waiting.
2006-07-03 15:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋