would you think that it was creepy and disgusting if you were a guest and had to sleep in a bed that someone died in?
i think it's gross.
2006-07-03 08:23:56 · 39 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he died in his bed. in his room. and they won't change anything.
2006-07-03 08:26:26 · update #1
they're not going to change the room at all, so they're not "moving on". he died in his bed in the middle of the night. so his dead body was on it for a few hours. i think it's f*ucking twisted to have someone sleep on a bed that i disgusting dead body was on.
2006-07-03 08:29:52 · update #2
TOTTALY!
2006-07-03 08:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by ally b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all my condolences to you & your family. It takes a while to come to terms with a big loss like that of your brother's, be patient with them & yourself.
Now, about your question. There's 2 issues there:
1) Making his room the guest room. Different people are ready to move on at different times. If this is how your parents cope, there's nothing wrong with it, but you should let them know if you are not ready to see strangers (even friends or family) stay there. Ask for their understanding & as much time as you need.
2) Leaving the bed where your brother died unchanged for guests. It's a personal thing, as you can see by the answers here. Some people are creeped out (as you are), others are not. It's proper manners (& courtesy) to discard the bed where someone has died, regardless of the cause of death, even if it will be used by someone in the family that has no problem with it, let alone guests. If $ is an issue, at least the top mattress should go.
BTW, someone here mentioned that you couldn't possibly have lost your brother because you said you were disgusted. I disagree. We all react differently to death, dead bodies, illness, injury, etc. It has nothing to do with our personal feelings toward those inflicted, be they strangers or loved ones, even oneself. It's not an insult to your brother or his memory that you don't think it's right for others to sleep on the bed he died.
Peace.
2006-07-05 03:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would certainly hope that your parents would at least get a new bed if he actually died in the bed. If he didn't die in the bed, then no it's not creepy - it's just a bed that belonged to a dead person.
2006-07-03 08:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear that your brother past away. im an only child so i don't know exactly how it feels but i can imagine it being a very painful experience. I don't think it would be "creepy" to have someone sleep there. but i would be a little upset that your parents want to change the room. i'd keep the room the same for a while. but that might be to hard..hmm.i really don't know.
im sorry man
2006-07-03 08:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by angelinas_twin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for a young person it is natural that this bothers you. It would be best if you told your parents in a non confrontational way that it bothers you perhaps they will find alternatives you are comfortable with. If they won't then move on and let the issue go. If they notice their Friends and family staying somewhere else when they visit they may come around to your way of thinking.
2006-07-03 08:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by gone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry to hear that. I think it is more disrespectful than gross.I wouldn't want to sleep on a dead persons bed. (Nothing against your brother) Personally, if I knew the bed belonged to a person who pass away, I wouldn't sleep in it, just to show my respect to the person and the family. If the person who sleeps on it doesn't know, I'd suggest not saying anything if they've slept in it already.
2006-07-03 08:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by ξℓ Çђαηφσ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should get a new bed. No one should sleep in a death bed. But other than that, it is healthy that they want to move on. I think if you calmly discuss this with them - seeing how it is good to move on, but also saying how letting someone sleep in your brother's deathbed really disturbs you - they will listen and go buy a bed.
Death is a horrible experience. Best to you ... it never really gets better, you just simply move on. Help your family to do that.
2006-07-03 08:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences to you and your family. I think your parents want to change the room so they won't be reminded daily. I'm sure it will serve as a good guest room and anyone that would not want to sleep there for that reason is just being silly.
2006-07-03 08:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think what your parents are doing is accepting his death. It's a painful thing that happened that will never be forgotten, but thats how people are able to heal. Accepting it. Instead of moping around and keeping his room the way it is..now that might be a little creepy, and unhealthy.
2006-07-03 08:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by theVoiceWithin... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss, but I don't think it's creepy. Perhaps your parents are ready for this change and don't want to see the empty room day after day after day. Does it make you feel like your folks just want to forget about your brother? I don't think that is true at all, but you could ask them for some of his things that are special to you so you could keep them in your room.
2006-07-03 08:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by slackster1998 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he died in the bed? Damn. Okay It would be creepy if he died in the bed but only if he actually died in the bed. But I am sorry for the loss I pray he is with the Lord Jesus Christ.
2006-07-03 08:27:01 · answer #11 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋