What do you consider the best age to let your child date?

Question

I have 4 daughter's my oldest are 12 and 11. My oldest child is disabled and is more like a young child, but my question is geared toward my 11 year old. She always wants to know when me and dad are going to let her date. We tell her," not right now, because she's too young and is not responsible enough nor mature enough"( in our opinion). Growing up, neither my husband or I was not allowed on a date until we were 16. Could you offer some advice to this age-old question. Thanks.

I don't have to worry about her doing it secretly. She is home with her parents. Where she is supposed to be. I always know where she is at.

Answer 1

u and ur husband are doing the right thing right now but as time
goes on she will try new thing so be on ur feet about but to awser
ur question i thing 17 would be a good age but also be very carful who she dates but don't be mean but very unstanding with
her and learn from her how she is feeling ,[ we were at that age at one time ] i now it will be hard but in time u will see things thrue
good luck mom and dad

Answer 2

17 and even then you need a limit like a set curfew and a public setting nothing at someones house or anything unless everyone will be there like family. But other then that 17 because at 11 she shouldnt even be thinking about boys how are her grades looking because anything lower then A's really means no boys so keep saying no mom you are doing a good job. you be the parent dont let her be the parent she is too young and thats that tell not to ask you anymore becaus eits out of the question. No boyz until 17 and even then under restrictions because the pregnancy rates are ridiculous amongst teens make sure she makes it to college without a baby mom.

Answer 3

They can't date until their married! j/k. That was my parents joke with me in high school. I think the best age to date is 16. Just getting their license, maybe have use of a car, and they can go out with a boy/girl without the help of a parent driving them around to places. Just a little tense. At that age, I felt ready mature enough to date if it happened, and plus it was the same for you and your husband, so that should be good. And you are right, she has plenty of time for that in the future. Good luck

Answer 4

I told my son, who is 12, that he is not allowed to date or have a girlfriend until he is 16. Which I think is a fair age, my main reasonf or this was to keep him from dating of course, but also I feel like it will take a strain off of him to not feel like he has to have a girlfriend. This way he can use the out, "my mom says I can't." But I think 16 is a good age, it also has a lot to do with maturity, so 15 maybe if you trust your daughter, 18 if you don't trust her at all.

Answer 5

16

Answer 6

i have 7 kids...
6 boys, 1 girl..ages 22-6

been there...and i knew, whatever i told the boys....she would hold me to it....soooooo
as the 4 older boys were growing up...i told them they couldn't date until they had table manners....no age....behavior...
i told them i would not be embarrassed, or have them embarrassed, out on a date..or at a young ladies house with her parents.........over their animalistic eating habits...it worked!

we had young ladies here, for ice cream sundaes...we took their gals to the movies with us..

Our only daughter is now 14, with the boyfriend in school thing going on...and she knows the same rules apply....and she knows...she has not met that standard...

we managed this age old question, by putting the responsibility on them, not us...we applied it to a behavior they could be successful, feel success, and reap a lasting reward from...

you know your daughters, i was not allowed to date until i was 16, and i had my first child at 18..out of wedlock...so i learned...maybe this wasn't the best way....educate them, love them, and you will know when they are personally ready, don't use an age..we all mature differently.

Answer 7

You should not base your decision on calendar years. Each child has their own progression and experiences. How they handle responsibilities is important and not how many birthdays they have had. After giving them the talk about what is OK and not you can better evaluate their readiness to date. Simple movie date are not what they used to be because now children in third grade are having oral sex and other stuff. Find out what she knows and how she feels about things. That will point the way to when to let her date.

Answer 8

Ur no longer quaint purely careful. youngsters lately have way too a lot freedom and a lot less guidence. in addition they lack the right ideas on sex practise picking to take heed to acquaintances more desirable than adults. Peer pressure is demanding little question. i'd say team courting the start of HS wait until eventually senior 3 hundred and sixty 5 days of highschool for unmarried courting. i imagine it also relies upon on the adulthood and recommendations set of the baby. Are they to blame sufficient to address a date on my own???

Answer 9

I am fourteen and I still do not think my own friends are old enough to date. I do not think it is about age, either. I think it all depends on the child and how responsible they are. I would rather be safe than sorry anyway. I think a little freedom is ok, but twelve is still very young. I'd recommend about age fifteen. You also have to take into consideration the boy and his personality.

I am open for any other tween topics. I was one very recently ago. :)

Answer 10

20

Answer 11

16 is a pretty good age. Talk with your daughter about the real purpose for dating and make your daughter start taking company at home before allowing her to leave the home with him